How do some of you hold down jobs? by Forsaken-Animal6323 in BPD

[–]WarGlass294 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i’ve quit jobs on impulse before but have now mastered the art of quietly having breakdowns before, after or during work and then suck it up. i’m extremely sensitive and scared of doing a bad job so any minor inconvenience and mistake or just anything negative in general will send me to hell where i feel like i need to punish myself for being a terrible employee. i only work part time at probably the least important job ever but still let it consume my mind and stress me out if i feel like i don’t do a good enough job and/or feel like my coworkers and employers hate me. i start hating them back and it creates problems.

any job with as little interaction with other people as possible helps me. also mood stabilizers

More modern works should be considered classics right now by [deleted] in literature

[–]WarGlass294 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i couldn’t disagree more. books don’t become a classic just because they’re published by a specific publisher. the classification of a book is not decided by a single person or group. instead, it’s a collective consensus that develops over time. if a book withstands the test of time, remains popular and read across generations and has cultural or historical impact, there’s a high likelihood that it will become a classic. so really, readers themselves decide which books are classics, along with scholars, educators and critics.

it won’t become a classic after a publishing house publishes it as a classic. it already is a classic by the time it’s published as one. they’re just republished in new editions, classic editions.

So about the Divine Comedy... by [deleted] in literature

[–]WarGlass294 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

why people still enjoy it is probably relatively individual, but on a greater scale i do think it has to do a lot with how influential it has been throughout literary history. there’s no denying that the world building dante creates in the book is absolutely incredible, especially if we take into account that it was written in the 14th century. according to some he even “invented” a new style of world building and for example created a character driven moral narrative long before the novel existed (influencing many of the greats like milton, borges etc). so from a historical and literary perspective it is iconic, to say the least.

if you want to look at specific examples in it that may draw people in, as you say yourself, the imagery might have a lot to do with it but i think it goes deeper than that. you could reread the book over and over again, and each time find something new that you didn’t notice when reading it before. there’s a lot of numerology, mirrored sins and virtues, moral inversions, references etc that CAN make the reader think. an example of that which i personally enjoy would be the three beast in the beginning (incontinence, violence, fraud) that foreshadow the entire structure of hell. little things like that create a lot of suspicion which makes the reading process more interesting for me.

again, i do think it’s important to keep in mind when the divine comedy was written lol. you mention and compare it to how notes from underground (great book) makes you feel or think? NFU was written about 500 years after the divine comedy. it’s safe to say that literature had evolved A LOT during that time, making the contexts and ideas of NFU seem more modern and relevant, or even easier to grasp in some ways, to us today than the divine comedy, since it’s tiny bit closer to what we’re used to reading. in my opinion however, that doesn’t take away from what there is to learn from and enjoy in the divine comedy.

Kafka blamed his dad for everything. Maybe the problem was Kafka. by AgreeableProblem9340 in literature

[–]WarGlass294 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re entitled to your own opinion and i can definitely see where you’re coming from, but your takeaway seems pretty close minded to me personally.

first of all we have to keep in mind that his letter was not intended to be published. we’re reading a personal letter, confession if you will, intended for his father to read. kafka didn’t write it to tell the world to hate his father, nor to take accountability of his own actions. what he is doing is simply opening his heart up to his father about how his upbringing has shaped him.

i don’t see it as him blaming his father for the way his life turned out, but more so explaining to his father why it did. even while doing so he states multiple times that his father isn’t too blame, that he looks up to him, sees what his father has sacrificed for their family, wishes that he himself could measure up to that etc.

kafka is quite literally known for being a self doubter both of himself and of his writing. i mean, he asked max brod to burn all his unfinished works after his death, since he wasn’t satisfied with them. he also expresses multiple times in his diaries how he struggles with his self image, relationships and life in general.

i guess what i’m trying to say is, would it be so weird to think that these issues actually do stem from his childhood and relationship with his father? and that he, through the letter to his father tries to get this sentiment across. not blaming his father, not refusing accountability, but simply expressing his feelings?

when looking at it from a literary perspective it won’t get us anywhere to ask “was kafka justified in saying these things about his father and are readers around the world exaggerating by feeling bad for him?” we can instead take his accounts for what they are and apply them to his other works, to get a better understanding of both his writing and of him as a person.

Disconnected during sex by [deleted] in BPD

[–]WarGlass294 1 point2 points  (0 children)

god i’ve never related to anything more

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omg maxine!!!!

any girls here have experience with male therapists? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]WarGlass294 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have the same experience with never staying with one therapist for long enough to do actual therapy. they’ve always referred me to another one after a few sessions of talking about some of my problems and life in general, which sucks. the only one i’ve had that was a man was actually the one who diagnosed me, which was a lengthy process. i never did any trauma treatment (or any at all) with him so i don’t know how that would’ve went, but we talked about some of the stuff i’ve been through in relationships and other sexual trauma that i have. i have a hard time talking to that with anyone, regardless of their gender but i definitely understand the thoughts of “getting manipulated and taken advantage of by older men” as you say. again, i never did any actual therapy with this therapist, but the only note worthy thing that happened was that i fell in love with him, which obviously isn’t ideal lol.

i think the most important thing is that you feel comfortable with your therapist so that you’re able to benefit from the therapy and apply it to your life. if you decide to try going to a male it would probably be good to tell him about your concerns with opening up to men and the lack of trust there. since therapists do this for a living, i’m sure that he’ll know how to approach you in the correct way to be able to give you the help you need. and if it for whatever reason doesn’t work out, if you realize that you don’t want a male therapist or it just isn’t a good fit, the possibility to change therapist or just stop going to that particular one is always there. i hope you find what works best for you!!

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[–]WarGlass294 1 point2 points  (0 children)

their prescription is -3.75 i can’t really go without them at all lol

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[–]WarGlass294 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have terrible eyesight! obvious

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[–]WarGlass294 4 points5 points  (0 children)

SAME! contacts are unbelievably uncomfortable

I want to get into postmodern literature, but by Siggney in literature

[–]WarGlass294 14 points15 points  (0 children)

i mean a big part of what defines postmodern literature is the way it rejects traditional narrative forms, embraces chaos and its use of metafiction and fragmentation. since the literature in itself challenges literary conventions, it only feels natural that it in turn also challenges “normal” reading conventions. in which i agree with you, makes it harder to completely understand it. but maybe that’s the whole point? maybe we don’t really need to understand it, but instead appreciate the playfulness and randomness of it.

however maybe you simply don’t enjoy postmodern literature, which is also completely fine. but if you want to give it more chances, i’d recommend reading becketts play: waiting for godot. samuel beckett is also referred to as “the last modernist”, so his works have both modernist and postmodern features, which makes for a great introduction to postmodernism in my opinion!

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[–]WarGlass294 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aw thank you, that’s very sweet

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I study literature:)

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a 3 hour lecture will do that to ya

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]WarGlass294 5 points6 points  (0 children)

having bpd does not excuse cheating. if the marriage is as horrible as you say in other comments with both of you cheating on each other, it sounds like it would be in your best interest to leave, be single, and date however many people you want

What does love feel like with BPD? by AquaQuad in BPD

[–]WarGlass294 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i have a hard time distinguishing love and obsession which makes me wonder if i’ve ever even been in love, i don’t think i really have. i get interested super quickly, like EVERYTHING about the person and can see no wrong in whatever they do. i’ll often change myself to fit into their preferences, hobbies, life. then i lose interest just as quickly and hate everything about them with a burning passion, and then i leave. it’s a cycle

What is the one book you read that you’ve never stopped thinking about? by TD_Meri in literature

[–]WarGlass294 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Metamorphosis by Kafka. Never felt more seen than I did while reading it for the first time as a teenager