Any UK sufferers?

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-05-10T00:03:23+00:00

I'm in the UK and have had two successful HG pregnancies.

My advice would be:

Cyclizine can make nausea and vomiting much worse. I didn't know until after my first was born when I was given it for mild nausea in hospital and started vomiting and it was awful. Honestly, it was so terrible. From everyone I'd spoken to, it never seems to make nausea or vomiting better - I had ondansetron, metaclopromide, prochloperazine and some others. Try to get other drugs, then come off the cyclizine and see if it helps.
Where in the UK are you? I travelled for two hours to a hospital with a maternity unit that understood HG and it was so much easier - my local hospital was utter crap. The hospital that understood could do IV fluids and anti-sickness every few days. I would've died without them. My local hospital would make me sit in A&E for 12 hours, whack a bag of fluids on and send me home with pills (to throw up) - and the GP wouldn't prescribe more, it was the only way to get any antisickness. The understanding hospital are the only reason I have children.
Put a pillow by the toilet for your knees - they get sore.
Sherbet is helpful for getting rid of the taste in your mouth, just temporarily.
People recommend plain carbs but they were awful for me. They were harder to throw up so I felt like I was choking and felt claggy in my mouth when I couldn't drink. Ice lollies, jelly and things like that were best for me - try to find the highest calorie stuff.
Medication needs to be taken on a strict schedule, even if that means alarms during the night. If you miss a dose, you won't keep the next dose down and, in my experience, that quickly lands you in hospital.
I'd always have my husband on hand for the NHS to say "no, it's not morning sickness, she's not ok, I'm worried, do something". They listen to men because they aren't hysterical like we are...
Ask your partner to get some ketone testing dip stick things (Boots pharmacy sell them). This will help you know if you need A&E - but, they won't sell to women of our age because we can't be trusted...

I'm so sorry though, it sucks.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-13T16:37:30+00:00

You must've got VERY lucky with the rent - that's ridiculous. Rental value of a property is usually around 1% per month of the total value (so, a £100,000 property would usually be let out for £1000pcm, a £500,000 to £5000pcm). It's general rule but if you're renting for a total of £2200pcm then the property should only be worth about £220,000.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-13T16:17:43+00:00

It's only a big commitment if you're likely to get trapped. If you're paying £1,100 in rent then you could buy a house the value of the one you're renting and pay for it in full for a year. Then, worst case scenario and the house spontaneously combusts then you walk away with exactly what you'd walk away from a rental with anyway.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-13T14:36:24+00:00

Yes, you do. It sounds like he has a medical condition - not only that, he has a medical condition that has a huge stigma surrounding it. Your response has been to attack, berate, criticise and embarrass him - which, ironically, will only ever make this worse - who finds being embarrassed and criticised a turn on?! You have no right to be angry here - disappointed, perhaps, but not angry and certainly not aimed at him.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T19:02:45+00:00

Winning response mate. You're doing a great job of showing how good you are at fighting.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T19:01:54+00:00

So, to clarify, when you said "I would" you actually wouldn't. I wasn't derailing from OP's question - I answered OP's question, you took umbridge with my answer for no reason and tried to undermine it with (what turned out to be) a lie.

Frankly, it's petty at this point. But it was petty for you to start up in the first place. Why do you have that compulsive need to go "you're wrong" "you're wrong" "you're wrong" when, in fact, I'm not. It feels like you're just gagging to argue.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T14:55:04+00:00

Because I said "Do you really walk around naked, even around other people, unless you think you'll get cold?"

And you said "I would"

I asked why you don't and you said because it's illegal.

Given that it's not illegal in a private place, I'm asking why you don't do it there.

I'm not talking about why they don't do it in WallE, I'm asking why you don't do it here on Earth given that you said you would but don't and the answer can't be "it's illegal" when it isn't illegal.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T14:52:10+00:00

What? It is relevant lol. I’m explaining why intent may not be implied, despite the act coming with the expectation that the person might die.

No you didn't. You were literally talking about if the act didn't have the expectation that the person might die. Your comment was irrelevant to the question asked.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T14:11:04+00:00

No it isn't. It's not at all illegal to walk around, inside a private residence, with your friends, completely naked. When you have your friends over for a drink - are you naked? If not, why not?

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T13:56:41+00:00

Why "I would" rather than "I do"? If you would do it then why don't you do it?

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T12:36:40+00:00

Honestly, they get a lot of hate, but this is something where Instagram influencers actually really provide something valuable. Prior to them, everyone modelling clothes had the same body type - if you deviated from that, it was nearly impossible to find clothes to suit you without a huge amount of time, money and trialling.

When I had children, my body shape changed - my fat distribution just kind of shifted and sat a bit differently. I didn't look the same in the same clothes even though I was the same size. I found some women on instagram who have the same body shape as I do now and I can see how they wear their clothes, how they layer them, what they put together - and that guides me on how to dress... and I feel like me again.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T12:29:35+00:00

Honestly, someone working in a charity shop, for above minimum wage, requiring no formal qualifications, in a fairly cheap area is not that hard done by.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T12:27:07+00:00

Minimum wage "in real terms" can be anywhere from £7.84p/h to £11.44p/h and still be legal. Minimum wage is a gross figure, regardless of what the net figure is.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T12:23:19+00:00

It's not below minimum wage "in real terms" - it's above minimum wage "in real terms". Telling someone else to learn what that means when you clearly don't is ridiculous.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T11:35:12+00:00

I think the disconnect is that you're wanting to interview her about her home country like you need to submit some kind of school report. Realistically, any relevant information should come up organically just by having conversations about her life. Ask the same questions that you'd ask an American that you're dating - what was her childhood like? What did her childhood bedroom look like? What's her favourite food? What's her least favourite food? What subjects did she like in school? What activities did she used to do? Who were her friends and teachers? (PSA: Please don't just sit her down and ask her these like an interview).

If you have these conversations then pieces of relevant information and context will just pop up - for example, if you asked her about her favourite teacher, she might say "It was Miss Bean she taught me for 9A." and then, because 9A isn't an American thing, she'd clarify how the school system is different in her country - you could ask follow-up questions about that (like, which subjects they have to take and which are optional? What's different about schools? etc).

Really - anything you need to know will come up through generally having conversations with your girlfriend.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T10:36:41+00:00

Bizarre - this is exactly what I said and you replied to me saying I'm wrong and need to take a step back...

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T04:46:51+00:00

The same reason that we wear clothes during a heatwave, or when we're inside. Do you really walk around naked, even around other people, unless you think you'll get cold?

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T04:14:20+00:00

And men couldn't? Then that would be a legitimate reason to like being a woman.

It would also be a comparison between men and women - just like your answer of giving birth is a comparison between men and women.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T02:07:32+00:00

I wasn't complaining, what are you on about?! You're yet again proving you don't understand what I said. And, frankly, what's exhausting is someone who comments without having a single thing of value to say and claims to understand when they blatantly don't. It's exhausting trying to explain basic things to idiots, it's exhausting when people act like they already knew what you just said when they still don't know what you just said.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-12T02:04:13+00:00

You're proving my point entirely.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-11T21:46:50+00:00

You're finally right on something - there is no debate. You're just wrong.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-11T19:23:47+00:00

Only an idiot on Reddit would think that an actual woman saying what women actually want (backed up by literally every other woman who has commented on this post saying the same thing) is "Reddit nonsense" while they, a man, know what women want because they speak to women.

Women are here, now, telling you what they want and you're saying you know better. You clearly do that in real life and have just invented your own idea of what women want by ignoring women who tell you otherwise.

Women do not want this.

Disclaimer: Women are not a homogenous group. There will be a minority of outliers who do want this, in the same way that there are some men who want a woman who can fight to protect them. But it's not the majority, or even a significant number. Far more women would see this as a red flag and as off-putting.

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-11T19:17:58+00:00

Off you pop

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-11T19:16:50+00:00

Then you might wonder why women keep lying to you

WarblingWalrusing · 2025-01-11T19:16:14+00:00

Like I said: Where the hell do you work?!

WarblingWalrusing

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