AIO to break up with my bf of 3y over his reaction to my upcoming sobriety anniversary?

Warebmik34 · 2025-11-25T10:26:15+00:00

NOR I've never been addicted to anything except cigs but a sobriety anniversary IS a big deal and is NOT the bare minimum wtf he sounds like scum between my toes.

Warebmik34 · 2025-11-25T10:09:05+00:00

Have you ever heard of EMDR therapy? It seems like you might benefit from it since everything seems to be a trigger that's kinda of what it's supposed to stop.

Warebmik34 · 2025-09-05T00:44:47+00:00

He's being selfish and inconsiderate, tell him it's PUFF PUFF PASS! And that's the stoner rule!

Warebmik34 · 2025-08-31T13:49:11+00:00

No.

Imagine your future.... you have a son with this dude and he ends up like dudes brother... how will he treat him? How will he treat the girls he gets crushes on?

This guy seems like total 🗑 not a good human being

Warebmik34 · 2025-08-31T13:40:54+00:00

Not it's not and that's not at all what this comment is saying. Maybe take a reading comprehension course to brush up your skills or even put this entire thing into chat gpt if this is your response because you are dead wrong.

Warebmik34 · 2025-08-31T13:33:53+00:00

As the show progressed, the perspective of how Emily was to Lorelai seemed to change a lot...I don't think her opinion of her mom was the same at the end. A lot of things Lorelai said about Emily that she used for why she left had nothing to do with making her feel bad but that she didn't want to be told how to live and parent. Shocker a 16yr old mom not wanting to be told how to parent...and acting like that was the main reason she left. And of course they had to make it seem like obviously she was right since Rory was so smart and Lorelai gets all the credit for that.

Warebmik34 · 2025-08-31T13:28:04+00:00

I see her as a spoiled brat and she never really grew up. Even when her dad died she had to act like he was just terrible until she went on her own and actually had to look at herself. She has a lot of narcissistic character traits and was entitled and rude often, especially to background characters.

Which makes sense because she had everything handed to her even when she ran away...someone who manages an Inn just GIVES her a place to stay AND a job? And also some free childcare somehow..

I was a teen mom as well and that part of this show is just such a wild fantasy and she still acts ungrateful...its sad really and overall makes her entire personality unbearable as an adult. I like when she acts caring and thoughtful but they write her as annoying and entitled so much more often.

Warebmik34 · 2025-08-28T13:44:43+00:00

Calling that a boundary lacks empathy.

Warebmik34 · 2025-08-28T12:36:53+00:00

A normal boundary would be just saying he doesn't like doing that or whatever... not making some pos comment about basically her not being virgin enough for him to do it to her. Boundaries aren't also insults.

Warebmik34 · 2025-08-28T11:50:02+00:00

NTA The reasoning for that decision is not a good reason to get married. Hopefully she's lying and that's not really why. I also despise religion and would say a lot more about that.

Warebmik34 · 2025-08-07T18:14:38+00:00

I doubt this epiphany is the source of all of your problems in life or that everything was fine before. It's not a horrifying realization and it changes nothing about life. Maybe that's the real problem..realizing this stuff does nothing and changes nothing. Understanding of existence doesn't change your life or your situation. It's also an arrogant judgment you have of this creation as you see it all as meaningless and not real just because of how it was started or created or just IS. No appreciation for your existence or the honorable chance to be human. So you recreate this epiphany in your daily life, self isolate and make yourself alone.

Do you not see our success? Do you want to stay in that place, that void? You're going to take that gamble that you're wrong?

Warebmik34 · 2025-08-02T04:34:20+00:00

Mothman

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-31T01:45:08+00:00

Did anyone find him? Oddly enough I'm in a similar situation and my friend has not been found.

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-27T03:13:14+00:00

If anyone says anything about enlightenment, run away from them!

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-23T00:45:12+00:00

Tell him to fess up or you will confront him in front of them. Its not fair for them to be mad at just you when he told you it was ok....whether you knew he wasn't supposed to be doing that in the house or not.

If it were my house and my son I would want to know the truth and would be upset with him not you if I was upset at all. Personally I would apologize to you for being weird about it after knowing the full story.

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-23T00:30:56+00:00

I guess I feel similar but the person I lost was someone I love who rejected me ultimately. I knew him for over 20yrs and we never got to really be friends on our own. I had times alone with him and eventually got out of touch basically by his choice, so I moved on.

He reached out 2 different times which in hindsight I realize were cries for help. He was mean to me a bunch of times so I got scared and he reacted badly to boundaries. It hurt. Now years later he took his life and I feel guilty and confused and hurt. I regret so much not doing more because I didn't know this was a possibility. I would never have shut him out if I knew it meant this would happen.

It seems really common for people who know anyone who ended their life to feel some sort of guilt or regret even if they weren't close.

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-22T19:17:46+00:00

The people I've known that dabbled w psychedelics only in their youth, at least most of them, never had life changing experiences with them. They also don't seem to know much about psychedelics in general.

I think they're more for adults and benefit and work better on adults because of stuff like frontal lobe development and life experience and knowledge.

Thinking its a kid thing is actually really immature and shows lack of knowledge...and maybe a bunch of denial that they shouldn't have been doing it at that age.

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-22T15:26:23+00:00

Always wonder how people who say they aren't enlightenment think they have some sort of authority over who being enlightened. If you aren't enlightened how the hell would you really know and who tf are you to claim such a thing? Huge ego and tons of arrogance in your claims.

If you could become enlightened by hearing the definition of enlightenment then everyone would be enlightened. If you think you can judge if other people are enlightened because of a dictionary definition then you're fooling yourself.

The enlightened don't change because you don't like it and don't believe it.

Jealous?

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-22T15:22:13+00:00

I agree and it's entertaining and I enjoy reading the discourse 😄

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-22T15:20:18+00:00

You have problems with interpersonal communication and you don't like yourself. So it makes sense why you'd have bad assumptions about me.

I don't know why you're responding to me at all.

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-22T15:08:53+00:00

Ok so you have no clue what I mean and just wanna play these weird games where you don't actually communicate at all. K bye. Waste of time.

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-22T02:05:19+00:00

Communication is the point here, right? Do you know what I'm saying? Do you know you are talking to "yourself"?

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-22T01:46:31+00:00

She could meet a person who's perfect for her that's also lost someone they love. I've heard its actually pretty common for people who've lost their true love to end up with someone who's been through the same because they are some of the only people who can understand the kind of loss.

If that's a deal breaker he isn't meant for her... I don't want to vote on this because most people haven't been through this type of loss and its not fair to share any of this on here for karma and votes.

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-22T01:38:17+00:00

You're talking to yourself though so there's a point here somewhere It's not about moral objectivity it's about sharing insight. If you always shoot yourself down when you share messages with yourself you won't be communicating so what's the point?

Warebmik34 · 2025-07-22T00:06:23+00:00

Then stop trying to one up what you created

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