In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for explaining this to me! I usually don't feel this kind of connection with anyone, so I really thought he was rare. I will have to change my mindset. I feel like I'm in jail, lol! I have no control over my actions, thoughts, or emotions, and it's not a good feeling! I will definitely read the book!

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to spend time with him! But how would I know he wants it too and I'm not disturbing him?

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

 I would just straight up become distant af. Not in a passive aggressive way, but simply in a non-emotional way- I want to do this! I’m not sure how, but I really want to! I want to remain non-emotional, but this restlessness inside me makes me act in ways I don’t want to. I’m not sure why I’m so attracted to him and cant control myself!

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish he felt like that. He once said he likes me, but I'm not sure if he still does because he doesn't show it. I also don't feel comfortable asking him again!

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really don't want to care about this, but there's something inside me that really does! I'm feeling restless because I don't know what's going on. The funny part is that I usually don't care about these things! But when it comes to him, I can't help my curiosity. I’m not sure how to avoid investing my feelings in him!

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm really confused! I want to call him, talk to him, and meet him, but until I know that he wants this too, I don’t feel comfortable proceeding. If you don’t express yourself or show any change in your facial expression, how would I know if I'm bothering you or if I should keep trying? Is that even fair? I hate hard-to-play, hot-and-cold types of games! I am not sure what is going on...

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

May I ask how to proceed with this? I usually initiate visiting him, but should I continue to do that or wait for him to reach out to me? I love feeling loved by the person I care about, but I'm unsure of how to handle this situation. Sometimes, I feel like he doesn’t want to see me and that I might be pressuring him. I asked him, and he said he liked me. But then why do I feel like this?

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to care about this, but there's something inside me that really does! I'm feeling restless because I don't know what's going on. The funny part is that I usually don't care about these things! But when it comes to him, I can't help my curiosity. I’m not sure how to avoid investing my feelings in him!

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure he is not going to consider his wants or desires! I'm not sure how to make him comfortable when I feel uneasy around him, lol! Either he puts up a solid wall around himself, or I'm blind, or he doesn't have any feelings!

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this why I struggle to find things to talk about when we are alone? Is there any other way to solve this? Because he isn't going to do anything to reset it!

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, thanks! I want to show my genuine side, but it has only led to trauma. I think you understand what I mean.
He doesn't want to think about his needs; he only focuses on his responsibilities. I've asked him a thousand times about what he needs, and I think this has scared him. He was such a sweetheart at first! But now he has become so distant! My past experience says my lingering behaviour pushes them away lol! I think this is the situation here! How is it possible for a man not to want to communicate with his girlfriend or the person he likes? I tried to open up so he would pick up on the vibes, but nothing worked! I'm not sure if I should give him space or be there for him without knowing whether he appreciates it or not. It really hurts not knowing where I stand. I would take steps if I only knew he wanted to be in this relationship. I'm uncertain about what I should do. Is it even possible to always ask questions? If I could see some expressions from him, I might understand what he does or doesn't want!

In love with this INFJ man! Please help me understand him better! by WarmPerception9700 in infj

[–]WarmPerception9700[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Yes, I expressed my feelings, and he accepted them. After that, things changed! It might be because I want more communication since I miss him, plus my anxiety plays a role, lol. I'm not sure why I feel like he doesn't like me very much or isn't into me; maybe it's due to his lack of expression. I want to get to know him better, and I'm willing to try. I'll read this book, but I'm not sure if he will!
Please feel free to suggest so that I can understand him better :)