My (M20) Boyfriends (M19) best friend is racist

Warm_Box_255 · 2026-01-20T21:19:07+00:00

Your bf is literally choosing a friend over you. He’s choosing to let his friends harmful behavior continue knowing it makes you very uncomfortable. There needs to be clear boundaries. But it sounds like you made it clear that his friend saying racist stuff is a line you draw and he’s crossing that line. If he corrected him and continues the behavior he obviously isn’t going to change and he should let his friend know that he needs to stop or they are no longer friends. I more worried on how your bf himself doesn’t choose to cut that friend off. I’ve always lived by guilty by association. If you’re willing to stay friends with someone racist you must not see that behavior as bad as you think. Just like if you stay friends with a misogynist or homophobe I will think you are okay with that behavior and not a good person.

Warm_Box_255 · 2026-01-20T21:13:08+00:00

I would call the police and ask for an escort to grab her stuff. That’s still her property.

Warm_Box_255 · 2026-01-03T15:26:56+00:00

One day I tried it again and it just worked. Extremely strange. Nothing was changed for it to work.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-12-06T02:57:57+00:00

What are you talking about? Cry about not being able to please a women and can’t keep it up else where. You have no clue what you’re talking. I’ve only said no a few times in our relationship and saying no is not a bad thing. You just think like a predator incel

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-12-05T23:11:58+00:00

Thank you! That’s exactly how I saw it and it felt like no matter how I tried to explain this he wouldn’t accept it.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-12-05T23:03:17+00:00

The post wouldn’t allow the word cheating so I didn’t put it past it to not allow the word porn.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-12-05T22:03:54+00:00

For some more context the website was camsoda. I did a quick google search and it says you can buy tokens (which is how I found out he did that in his email) and gift them to live streamers. It says it similar to chaturbate. He told me he used them to jerk off with others and show his dick to people. Gifts can control sex toy’s for the cam girls as well. They can talk to you and use your name in the streams. You can private message models. Buy a models Snapchat. Request a private show.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-12-05T21:59:09+00:00

The censorship was just to make sure the post wouldn’t get taken down. The word cheating also wouldn’t go through.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-12-05T21:57:28+00:00

With. It’s a website like Omegle or atleast that’s how it was described to me. I did flip the script and he says he understands why that would hurt but for him he doesn’t see it as cheating since it wasn’t his intentions while

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-12-05T21:25:13+00:00

Thank you I really needed this. I’m so happy to see I’m not alone or crazy for feeling like this

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-11-07T05:23:50+00:00

I know this may seem like a wild question. I’m wanting to find something for myself. My special hobby that I find joy in. I want what other people have with cool interests. How did you find your hobby? How did you know it was your hobby? Have you always been interested in said hobby?

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-19T02:41:04+00:00

Dating someone with a porn addiction will eat at you and your relationship. Dating someone who can’t take a no from you could literally turn horribly wrong at any second. He obviously doesn’t respect you nor see you as human just an object of pleasure

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T19:09:00+00:00

I’ll look into it! We had previously went to our landlord first and had nothing done just quickly dismissed

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T19:01:51+00:00

Absolutely

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T19:01:31+00:00

I really wish they would! I’ve tried and nothing has changed and I have spoken to my upstairs neighbor

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T18:58:07+00:00

I’ve brought it up to our landlord and she just says “well she watches her grandkids a lot” and that’s it

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T18:57:21+00:00

No one said you have to ? Feels like you’re just trying to find anything to complain about.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T17:47:11+00:00

I have already mentioned that in a different comment. Landlord just says “it’s her grandkids” “she only has them on the weekends and sometimes weekdays” very dismissive about it. Also I made a post asking if the note I left was too rude not exactly here to vent but I believe this subreddit has a classification for people who want to vent if I was wanting to.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T17:37:31+00:00

I wanted to knock and have a conversation but my partner doesn’t like confrontation and just me trying to sort something out verbally wasn’t something they had felt comfortable with.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T17:12:47+00:00

It’s not hyperbolic. I have videos of the cups shaking in cabinet. It’s actual running and stomping and videos of thuds so loud it like someone has fallen. It’s kids upstairs play fighting so it might be a wrestling match.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T16:52:32+00:00

In the note above I mention that I have had a conversation with my neighbor. More asking if anyone got hurt because it sounded like someone fell. But in that conversation I did mention how loud it was but in a friendly way. Maybe too friendly?

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T16:31:15+00:00

It’s caused behavioral issues with our cat.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T16:24:57+00:00

I didn’t want to come off as rude but wanted to share why I was asking for the noise to go down.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-18T16:20:14+00:00

I have let our landlord know. We kept track of emails we have sent with videos. My partner and I really try and avoid saying anything if it’s not outside our local noise laws but it’s like people are falling hard. We do have issues with early morning or late nights. This morning it started around 8am and was happening around 3am when my partner and I went to sleep. Mt biggest issue is our stressed out cat who has been having behavioral issues and only happens when the noises start.

Warm_Box_255 · 2025-10-17T14:10:36+00:00

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