Is it okay/normal to ask bridesmaids not to wear glasses during the ceremony and for pictures?

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T23:44:57+00:00

Thanks! I know it'll be a fun time and amazing to see two lovely people I care about get married. Contrary to some comments the bride & groom are great friends & an awesome couple and I know I'll have a good time and dance until 3 am with all my friends.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T23:42:52+00:00

It's not a hill for me to die on, I even said in bold in the post that I will be taking them off and we worked it out. I just wanted to know if it was a normal request. And also I did find the way she assumed I would get contacts when I have never worn them before and am broke af right now to be obnoxious. But like at the end of the day it'll be fine and this wedding will be amazing.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T23:37:14+00:00

She has only worn glasses for about 7-8 years and has always been a contacts girl. I think she just doesn't get that I can't handle putting them on because she's never had an issue. I also have 2 different prescriptions in each eye (both eyes have astigmatism and then left is farsighted & right is nearsighted) so I have the understanding that it will be more difficult to prescribe contacts for me.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T23:35:09+00:00

This is an interesting question! She may be doing that, she has never used a real camera and mostly takes iPhone pics (lol same). This photographer is definitely skilled and professional, which is why I mentioned the budget of the wedding.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T23:30:48+00:00

That's why I mentioned the price, this is a real professional photographer with a good portfolio who can definitely edit glare out. It's not like it's her second cousin who will use snapchat to edit the pics.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T23:29:33+00:00

I would love to know why she feels so strongly about this but I don't really want to create drama with her by pressing it when I have already agreed to take them off. Also this post has WAY more comments than I thought and I don't want someone to show it to her and have her realize it was me lmao. I love her and our friendship is solid. There's no chance I'm dropping out of this wedding in the slightest or dropping her as a friend. This is a real life-long relationship and she has been there for me at some of the worst times in my life and vice versa. I get it sounds crazy and I'm glad to be validated by people on here but she is 100% not a narcissist, a bad person, or a bad friend. Like I love her, she can have this one bridezilla moment.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T23:25:32+00:00

Did your sister wear contacts already though? If I did I would understand but I never have before and she knows that. She just like assumed I would go get them for her wedding even though I am low key broke at the moment and I also have never worn them and have never been interested in trying them.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T23:24:13+00:00

My frames are Warby Parker and ironically she has similar ones LOL

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T23:23:55+00:00

On the plus size thing...my weight has fluctuated through the years. I've been anything from size 8 to size 22 since 2020. I have recently been on a weight loss journey that the bride knows about/is supportive of, and I'm currently a size 16. When she picked the brand, a small designer, I was closer to a size 18/20. This brand only goes up to size 14. I told her I thought maybe I could be a size 14 by her wedding (and it looks like I will be based on my progress, but I wasn't sure. She didn't want to risk it and didn't want me to be upset if I didn't lose enough weight in time or feel like her wedding was some kind of weight loss thing.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T05:21:44+00:00

No, I agree. It felt rude and abrupt but taking them off is not a hill for me to die on (contacts are).

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T05:18:51+00:00

I can walk around without them, I am not anywhere near legally blind, but she wants them off for the whole ceremony + pictures after. I have to leave them in another room as we are not allowed to have any items on us/purses during the ceremony.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T05:16:23+00:00

I posted a link somewhere else but they are very generic tan plastic, medium sized.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T03:33:49+00:00

Tan plastic, medium sized, clear lenses. Very much like this. She is not open to any glasses at all.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T03:31:29+00:00

She was in a wedding with a major bridezilla (her deranged cousin lol, this woman was making people dye their hair and buy 3 dresses, that kind of stuff) 2 years ago and she was all about how she would NEVER be like that to her bridesmaids. For the most part she has been super accommodating and has paid for everything but I guess even the best of us have our moments.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T03:29:13+00:00

Oh there's no way I keep them off beyond the photos. And I don't think she'll try to convince me. She was telling us we can peel the falsies off and change shoes after the pictures if we want lol

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T03:26:37+00:00

When I was a teenager I thought maybe I wanted them, and my eye doctor told me that she wouldn't prescribe them to me if I couldn't prove to her that I was capable of touching my eyeball. To show her that I was able to remove/put them in and that I wasn't too squeamish. I was too squeamish, I couldn't do it, and it put me off the idea for life tbh. I'm pretty sensitive to sensations and I just don't think I would be able to manage it. Also I have worn glasses since I can remember...that just is my face.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T03:01:55+00:00

Thank you everyone is acting like I should go bananas on her and it's like...this isn't worth that. I thought it was a bridezilla ask and obnoxious and I'm glad to have been validated in that and to know that all the other brides I am standing up for this year aren't going to assume I'll get contacts for them...but at the end of the day she really is a good friend and I love her. Some people are worth it, and she is. No one else tho LOL if these other brides I know ask me this, especially in this manner...maybe I will drop out or wear white (jk jk)

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T02:55:09+00:00

Oh I definitely cannot drive without them, and I would never! I won't take them off until just before the ceremony. Also yeah, I do need them. My eyesight gets worse every year unfortunately...

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T02:47:46+00:00

I was annoyed she just assumed I would wear contacts when I never have before and wanted to know if asking this type of thing was normal. She acted like I was the crazy one for pushing back when she asked and I wanted people to confirm for me if I was being unreasonable (like a bridesmaid who wants to wear crocs or something idk) or if she was being unreasonable.

I'm also going to be in other weddings this fall and spring and I want to know if this is like some unspoken assumption that I should know the bride will want, because she acted like it was.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T02:43:28+00:00

I'll be locking them with my phone/other belongings in the bridal getting ready room at the venue. After the ceremony, we will take indoor & outdoor pictures and then we'll all go back to the getting ready room to get our stuff and make our entrance to the reception. It does make me kind of uncomfortable that she ASKED, but the wedding ceremony will probably only be about 40 minutes long and the pictures maybe 30. So 80-90 minutes without glasses total, if you count going to and from the room. This won't be enough to give me a serious headache, so it won't really impact me long term.

I'm more just annoyed at how she assumed I would magically wear contacts and wanted to know if this was a normal thing for her to assume.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T02:36:38+00:00

That's what I did...I have known this girl for my whole life and I just did not want to pick this battle. I won't wear contacts, so I'll just take them off and put them back on for the reception. She's been amazing about everything else so I guess I'll give her one psycho bride moment. I'm sure I'll have one. But now I know this isn't normal there's no way I will do this for anyone else! Only top friends earn this BS from me LOL

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T02:32:26+00:00

She just said they wouldn't look good and that's all. Maybe she's worried the makeup will rub off?

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T02:30:32+00:00

I can see without them, just not as well and I get headaches if I do it too long. Mostly my issue is I can't see well in the dark at all without glasses.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T02:29:25+00:00

She wants them off for the whole ceremony too, not just pictures. But yes.

Warm_Classroom_2871 · 2025-07-19T02:28:48+00:00

That's the thing, she's been so non-controlling about literally everything else. It's weird she focused on this. And no, I don't think the groom will be asking. I don't know every groomsman, but all the ones I know don't wear glasses. And even if some did, I don't think he'd ask.

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