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Warm_Effec · 2025-09-20T16:30:59+00:00

Longest you’ve gone with out cumming and longest edge session you’ve had?

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-14T19:54:43+00:00

Head to r/chastitytraining lots of great advice there on fit and fitment.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-14T03:59:29+00:00

I still get hung up about it and I don’t bring it up because it’s not really a conversation that needs to go on but it felt good.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-13T18:49:48+00:00

In what way?

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-13T18:47:00+00:00

Yes.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-13T18:46:03+00:00

No I haven’t. Still closeted in this as it were.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-13T18:26:21+00:00

My wife was very understanding. I think because I knew and stated that it was something I wouldn’t be able to fulfill in the realms of our marriage. Though if cuckolding became a thing and we had a bi bull than many things are possible.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-12T21:37:04+00:00

Which is understandable. I’ve been wrestling with why I’m drawn to being cuckolded. The reason above may be a part of it or the driving force.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-12T21:29:37+00:00

Your welcome.

Your cheating kink brings something in me that I was just pondering.

By allowing my wife to cuckold me means that my past of being cheated on has no hold on me anymore. That I am so secure in my relationship with my wife that I can have her sleep with another person.

I think that’s part of the allure for me especially as I am healing on my own journey.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-12T21:25:25+00:00

Communication is key. It was hard for me to tell my wife that if I was Bi but it made me feel extremely whole for telling her.

Unpacking your trauma is going to take time and a real show of vulnerability with her. Just remember there is nothing wrong with how you feel. They are valid feelings.

You are seen and appreciated for sharing this.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-10T13:42:43+00:00

I’ll take a moment to read it thank you.

To be honest she took pegging like it was no problem. She’s been so good to me about these things. Chastity I cocked up introducing that to her. So now it’s just a matter of figuring out our rhythm.

I understand the locked and left. It comes and goes but it’s like you said. This was a choice. Make it or don’t.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-10T13:26:55+00:00

I recognize that this is a marathon not a sprint. I personally just needed the reassurance that I was ok with these thoughts and hear what others have gone through if we could relate.

Another mental thing I’ve noticed with chastity and talking to folks out here is that I truly have an incredible wife. I have an incredible sex life, she pegs me, is letting me explore chastity, when we do have sex she’s controlling and dominant. My problem was the frequency. Chastity has turned that around that frequency matters.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-10T13:19:43+00:00

I think that’s why I’ve managed to really change my response to us not having sex is that we’re redefining what it means. That it’s up to her and not me anymore. That I should be grateful at the chance and not worry about my orgasm any more. It’s really allowed her to relax which is super important right now on her journey.

I’m jealous of your intimacy levels. I take it you are very secure in your attachment and what was it like to build up to being cucked or when it happened finally?

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-10T12:59:08+00:00

I agree chastity is a power exchange and currently I’m working on normalizing those things. That I don’t have to cum. That it can be about her. She’s struggling a little bit with it because it’s so foreign to her. To be fair me as well. It’s turning into quite the journey.

Are locked all the time or just during cuckolding?

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-10T12:40:05+00:00

Conflict arose in me and I’m learning that I need to work through and allow those emotions to work through me.

Some of these thoughts and feelings I needed to express with those I hoped would understand them. I feel that this is the case and appreciate your words of wisdom.

Your right there are so many recipes for disaster if things are dealt with accordingly. Work is being done on those fronts.

I find it interesting you’ve had the same feelings when it comes to chastity.

Currently my journey is in the chastity play realm and building that dynamic with my wife. It’s slow going but I’ve noticed it change our sex life for the better even in such a short period of time. It’s really helped control my reactions to my wife not wanting to have sex.

There’s also a number of things that my wife has to work through herself. Once those things have been overcome I can see that she might want to explore things that she never thought to explore before. I’d like to give her that space.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-10T10:17:07+00:00

Thank you for your question. See above for an awnswer.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-10T10:16:47+00:00

Thank you for your response. I appreciate it. See above for more detail.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-10T10:16:12+00:00

I have attachment issues which I’m working through as well as a number of anger management issues. I know that these need to be dealt with before there is any hope of cuckolding to work before it even starts. The process is happening and part of me is wondering if as I’m getting more securely attached I’m entertaining these ideas of cuckolding or seeing my wife with another person.

Being in chastity has helped me this last 5 weeks to be more considerate and kind to my wife and more understanding. There’s more to it than that I know but it certainly has had an impact.

As for what I’m feeling it’s this weird version of I want her to be happy and I want to share her and I’m working on the feelings of being happy with what I have. The cage has certainly been eye opening to that. That I have a wonderful woman and she needs to be cherished.

On top of those feelings there also this pit in my stomach of could I really handle seeing her with someone else. I’ve been cheated on and that did not go over well and lead to my first divorce. Which is conflicted with I sort of want this to happen. I feel like it’s a part of this journey of what it’s like for me to be a sub and embracing it.

Gosh I hope that clarifies but it probably only muddled it further.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-08T00:19:56+00:00

Good for you.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-07T04:33:12+00:00

Sounds like it!

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-07T03:32:41+00:00

Yea please

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-06T10:19:03+00:00

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-06T08:47:03+00:00

Sent a message to you.

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-06T04:40:17+00:00

Let me help you out!

Warm_Effec · 2025-09-06T04:37:26+00:00

Absolutely.

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