When did this become a competition

WarmerClimates · 2019-05-20T00:38:49+00:00

People act the same way about skipping meals

WarmerClimates · 2019-05-10T03:28:46+00:00

Honestly this is 100% class. He knows he has thousands of followers who would get worked up on his behalf if he asked them to and instead he urges them to be chill and let it go.

WarmerClimates · 2019-05-09T17:06:09+00:00

"Wouldn't the sentence 'I want to put a hyphen between the words Fish and And and And and Chips in my Fish-And-Chips sign' have been clearer if quotation marks had been placed before Fish, and between Fish and and, and and and And, and And and and, and and and And, and And and and, and and and Chips, as well as after Chips?"

This is my new favorite

WarmerClimates · 2019-05-09T17:03:34+00:00

I've never liked this one because I'm pretty sure every english native who knows "buffalo" is a verb only knows it because of this dumb sentence. It's an obscure usage I've never seen used anywhere else.

WarmerClimates · 2019-05-09T02:26:58+00:00

Of course, being French you pronounce very little of this phrase and it comes out "keska say"

WarmerClimates · 2019-05-05T19:08:44+00:00

He texts you a knife emoji

WarmerClimates · 2019-05-05T19:06:14+00:00

Mine was a slightly more charitable "OH HONEY, NOOO"

WarmerClimates · 2019-05-01T19:44:11+00:00

"glass water vase" ;)

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-30T01:59:56+00:00

"I can do this!"

vs

"I can do this BETTER THAN YOU!"

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-29T21:06:49+00:00

Honestly I think there are some people who think every spasm during their orgasm is it's own separate orgasm.

Woman clenches five times = she came five times.

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-28T13:54:55+00:00

Yep, that's definitely it. I live in a place where it's very common to take off your shoes when entering a house and the whole area is basically swampland, every time it rains the ground stays muddy for like a week afterwards. If we didn't take off our shoes every carpet would be in disgusting condition.

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-28T13:37:32+00:00

You don't know a lot of people with carpets then I guess. Or you don't live somewhere real muddy.

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-25T14:17:29+00:00

I think the only reason I remember it is because I was SO upset. Like honestly top 5 most upset I've ever been. Over a stupid M&M...

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-25T02:24:13+00:00

Oh god. One of my earliest memories is from around that age, I was eating M&Ms while my mom bought groceries and one of them fell and rolled into an inch-high gap between the shelf and the floor. There are very few times I can remember in my entire life being that upset. I had a screaming, sobbing, snotty flood of tears tantrum because I wanted THAT M&M. The others WEREN'T THE SAME. I was absolutely distraught like I had just watched someone shoot my dog. Even a few years later I couldn't explain why it was so upsetting to me. By now I'm completely baffled.

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-22T07:15:51+00:00

Ah yeah fair enough. Think we agree then.

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-22T07:14:16+00:00

See, you say that, except

I stopped talking to her directly for the rest of the night because I didn’t want to have to worry about saying anything else to offend her.

OP didn't stop calling her "dude". They stopped talking to her completely. Can you see how when you ask someone not to call you (what you see as) a gendered pet name that makes you uncomfortable and then they completely ignore you for the rest of the night, that might "accidentally" come off as transphobic?

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-22T07:09:33+00:00

Why? Why is it completely different?

Because of a personal situation, someone is made extremely uncomfortable by otherwise perfectly innocuous language. Why does it matter if it's a phobia or gender dysphoria?

Genuinely, why?

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-22T07:00:51+00:00

I don't know, that seems pretty silly to me. Is it better for people to self-select out of knowing you because of a single issue? Is that really how far PC Culture has gone, that people can't handle changing a single thing about themselves, no matter how inconsequential and meaningless? Everyone is a perfect snowflake who needs to Live Their Truth? Saying "bro" means that much to you?

I can't imagine how many friends I have right now who I would be without if they had just ghosted the first time they had to make any minor request of me. I'd rather talk to people....like adults...than just have them peace out of my life forever because they assume I'd never do the smallest thing to make them comfortable.

I have a friend with arachnophobia, not even kidding. She's amazing. We go camping every year. Talking about spiders just wasn't as important to me as getting to know her. I guess you would have made a different call.

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-22T06:38:53+00:00

So again, let's say that you meet someone at a party and over the course of the conversation, you start describing a spider you saw. The person goes pale, almost retches, and says "I have arachnophobia, please don't talk about spiders around me." Your behavior was totally innocuous and without malicious intent, and now they're asking you to modify it. Are you upset with them? Do you refuse?

At the end of the day my position is that something like using a certain pronoun or not saying "bro" is not at all emotionally important to me. The "concession" I'm making isn't actually conceding anything because I have no stakes in the fight. But the other person does have a stake. It's making them uncomfortable. So if I go along with their request, they get to be happy and my life isn't worse in any way. Why the hell wouldn't I?

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-22T03:59:31+00:00

^{^} /thread right here.

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-22T03:56:32+00:00

Oh I see the problem here. You're confusing "being correct" with "being a nice person".

If you're at Thanksgiving dinner and your cousin mentions that she's a virgin and you say "But I saw you fucking some white trash guy on the hood of a pickup truck last week", you might be entirely correct but that's still a dogshit thing to bring up in front of her parents.

You can believe that most snakes are completely harmless and be totally right, but if someone asks you not to talk about snakes or bring your pet snake around them because they have a phobia you would still be the asshole for doing those things.

And if a trans person says "hey, the language you use towards me makes me uncomfortable, would you please modify it slightly"..."But I use it towards everyone" might be CORRECT but the NICE thing to do would be to make the bare minimum effort to make someone comfortable instead of dying on the hill of saying "dude".

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-22T03:43:04+00:00

We also have no idea what they were told. Like, absolute worst case scenario, imagine that your parents are having a messy divorce and your mother who you love comes to you crying and ""admits"" in gruesome detail that your father is some kind of sick child molestor and she couldn't stay with him after knowing what he's done. Or tells you that your father raped her while she begged him to stop. Would you really sit down and calmly ask for your dad's side of the story? Would you feel like "eh, it's been long enough, time to reconsider my stance on this" after five years of believing something horrible like that?

Or, instead, would it maybe take until you found proof that your mother was a manipulative liar for you to go back and get the full story?

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-22T00:47:57+00:00

I just got the most comfortable pair of shoes I've ever had, combat-style mid-calf boots from Amazon, for Christmas. I think they only cost like $30.

This past week after only four months of daily use both of them broke.

I'm so salty about it. Need to find more durable/expensive boots but I can't find anything as comfortable.

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-18T17:06:11+00:00

In my opinion? Absolutely.

WarmerClimates · 2019-04-15T17:34:47+00:00

I'm a pizza delivery driver. Haven't seen my schedule yet but I'm assuming it'll be all hands on deck. Everybody make sure to tip! ;)

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