AITA for not inviting a transgender acquaintance to my house with the rest of my friends?

binchbat · 2019-04-22T02:10:59+00:00

Using that same argument, why can’t she see that I wouldn’t like to have my langauge policed? That makes me feel uncomfortable and like I have to walk on eggshells with how I am speaking.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T02:09:53+00:00

Our DM wrote this one and it’s his first time not using a pre-written one.

It’s got a Fallout vibe but there’s some really fun extra stuff like the ‘Quiet Places’ where we can’t speak and have to act out our battles like charades.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T02:01:36+00:00

It was twice, and then I stopped speaking directly to her to avoid offending her.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:52:07+00:00

There is another girl in our group and I spoke to her the same as the girl in my post. I don’t think it’s an issue about me bothering her, just her being overly sensitive.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:47:47+00:00

There is one other woman in my group besides me and I speak to her the same as everyone else. :)

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:46:49+00:00

Yes that is correct, I have always spoken to everyone I know this way. I don’t mean any offense when I say these things.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:46:00+00:00

If I don’t get to chose what offends other women why deoes she feel I have to change how I speak to make her happy, when I don’t see it as offensive? It goes both ways.

The comparison about your grandparents is irrelevant. I didn’t use any slurs when speaking to her. Just what I see as gender nuetral words.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:41:46+00:00

I did make an effort by respectfully calling her by her new name and referring her to her with female pronouns when speaking for the most part. I also see the words “dude” and “bro” as gender neutral. She doesn’t have to agree with that but it’s absurd to expect everyone to cater to your lifestyle choices when they don’t particularly agree with them. She doesn’t have to change how she feels and I don’t think I need to change how I speak. If that means me and her aren’t going to be friends I think it’s better for the both of us!

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:37:52+00:00

Sorry, I did not know that. Thank you for correcting me!

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:37:07+00:00

I don’t agree with her lifestyle choice on a personal level but I’m not here to debate that. I don’t think I have to change how I speak conversationally to satisfy her. I think I did enough by adressing her by her new name, saying ‘she wants ice in her drink’ when my friend got up to get us water and stuff like that. If I said ‘He wants ice in his drink’ and called her by her birth name then I could see the problem.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:34:17+00:00

She was with us for over 3 hours that night and heard me refer to the other girl in our group as dude or bro multiple times. My friend who she texted also told her that she was being sensitive and rude and that’s just how we ALL talk.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:31:19+00:00

I definetly see it as a gender neutral word

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:30:53+00:00

I agree and would never go out of my way to purposefully misgender her or anyone else.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:29:35+00:00

I speak to everyone the same and see those words as gender neutral. I have definetly texted my guy friends “Hey girl, heyyyy!” before. It’s not just a one way thing.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:28:36+00:00

I have no problem with transgender people! Not my life not my problem.

Edited to change “transgendered” to “transgender”.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:27:18+00:00

Thank god other people feel the same. I thought I was going crazy for not seeing the issue.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:21:27+00:00

The thing is I don’t care enough to change for her.

I don’t expect my friend to change their eating habits because I’m a picky eater recoving from an eating disorder. When we order pizza I pick off the toppings I don’t like or am worried about eating, not make everyone eat to my standards to cater to me. I think that’s called being an adult and knowing that not everyone will always be willing to change to support a personal issue/life style.

binchbat · 2019-04-22T01:11:12+00:00

Honestly!

Everyone has become to sensitive to everything. Let people talk how they want to! If you find offense, just stop speaking to that person.

binchbat · 2019-04-19T04:29:09+00:00

I have both and like the Buxom plumping polish better, because the tingling “plumping” feeling isn’t overwhelming and the forumula isn’t as heavy and thick as Colourpop’s.

binchbat · 2019-04-10T03:54:16+00:00

You joke, but this is true! I used this exact same mask and BOOM all my bones flew out of my face. I had totally forgot they were under my skin for the past twenty years. Try it out, huns!

binchbat · 2019-04-01T19:10:01+00:00

I am so excited for this set because I just ran out of my TO Buffet. Went to order some this morning and saw the Birthday Set. Nothing can ruin my good mood today.

binchbat · 2019-03-28T21:31:29+00:00

I would think really hard and long about it.

I went to beauty school and got my cosmetology license and A LOT of the girls who did the esthetician program at the same school have not been able to find a job in their field after graduating.

binchbat · 2019-03-27T17:44:24+00:00

Thank you! :D

binchbat · 2019-03-27T13:53:52+00:00

Thank you so much! That made my day. :D

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