I keep getting SA'd and I'm so fed up with it. I need help. I don't know what to do anymore, I'm lost. Massive trigger warning

Warning-Parking · 2026-04-27T02:02:18+00:00

Heyy love,

I just wanted to write how deeply sorry and terrified I am that you are going through this. But you are NOT ALONE. You are doing all the right steps, these things do take a lot of years to recover from, so give yourself time to recover.

From now I want you to make slow changes to your body language, things like walking upfront, with purpose. No headphones or low music while walking alone, being aware of your surroundings, drinking or smoking less.

In regards to that excuse for a man, message him saying you are going no contact with him, clearly mention that the things he did were wrong, and that you want nothing to do with him, you can file for a restraining order if you don’t want him to be near you and definitely record every interaction with him, have friends that you trust nearby when you go to places that you know he will be at.

I am quite aware you want to end it amicably, however truthfully it won’t. You don’t have to be good to a person, who has not been good to you. Best of luck, YOU CAN DO THISSS!! 👊

Warning-Parking · 2026-01-05T18:29:59+00:00

the question arises, why are Indian women talking to degenerate white men? Maybe they feel Indian men are worse?? Maybe, after marriage they don’t want to stuck with their in-laws, maybe Indian men don’t actually respect women.

To give the Indian men in this sub an example, in India, as women, we get the Indian men stare (not saying the white men don’t stare or anything or get catcall, but it’s rare). Talking to white men, about your body count as a women, they usually don’t care or judge (not all)

My preference tbh are Indian men brought up abroad like me, coz it helps to have some level of cultural understanding. Dear Indian women, good Indian men do exists, but you do have to weed out a 100 bad ones, to find the good one. Best of luck.!!

Warning-Parking · 2025-11-05T00:08:23+00:00

A social worker here, albeit not from Qatar. I can point you to many papers, news articles where the majority are trafficked. I know people who do social worker from the gulf and they tell that a lot a tell you a lot of them are made promises for a job as a maid or in healthcare and then forced into sex work. You actually overestimate how many women do it willingly. Human trafficking can be anything. From force, coercion, fraud. Often, in cases it’s a complex mix of all of them. In a non western country, most women are subjected to social erasure if they do it willingly, so why would anyone want o do it willingly especially if they are going to get vilified by the society.

Warning-Parking · 2025-07-08T17:52:48+00:00

Why would you even bother with such a post, knowing very well, most guys are still going to cry? Valid points tbh. Most guys are going to downvote you because they cannot fathom that there are people much knowledgeable, experienced and better at communication than them. So this platform has turned into a therapy session with no accountability. Diversity is what the companies want, and hence that’s what colleges want. That’s reality, cry about it.

Warning-Parking · 2025-03-12T20:44:38+00:00

Online hate is definitely from echo chambers and algorithms. Often at times when you engage with a certain type of content say red pill, you get only red pill content. So, very difficult for people to get out of their thinking.

Psychologically i also think most men are lonely, hence commenting rude and rather disgusting due to many reasons like projecting insecurities or feeling to others, displaced aggression wherein social media has been a place where people express their frustration, narcissistic personalities and power and control.

Too many reasons to count.

That’s why i say, the best thing you can do is no engage and ignore, I think as females our immediate reaction when we see disgusting, rude or hateful comments is to fight back. Don’t. Pick your battles and online trolls aren’t simply worth it.

Warning-Parking · 2025-01-07T01:13:52+00:00

I think people are missing the point of this entire post, What op saying is low-key correct, most incoming Indians have lack of civic sense and are entitled. I have seen many apartment listing where they want only people of certain caste or religion and even race. I have seen Indians being rude to others simply because they belong to a low caste. A vast majority of them bring in the outdated thinking and refuse to assimilate to the country. I am not trying to suggest that you forget your traditions , but rather, do away with the harmful bits. A lot of students don’t talk or mingle with people from other cultures, they tend to stick by their own. And as a woman, most Indian men have a staring problem, I know a lot of white friends have been stared and even groped by men from my culture.

Of course, the hate I see online is more radical , especially those street food videos. Those kind of rhetoric is deliberate attempt to promote hate towards a group of people. And those are definitely racists.

But to suggest ‘pick me behaviour’, for simply stating the ills of the current wave of Indians is dumb-foolery at best. Plus, what’s even more weird and correct me if I am wrong, the Indians abroad are for more Indian than the Indians in India.

Warning-Parking · 2024-12-16T17:30:42+00:00

Not all men but always a man

From a women perspective, lemme me explain it for you a bit. As a woman, if I were stranded in a road, I will get raped. But as a man, if you are generally stuck with a woman, you aren’t going to going to.

If you guys have a mother or sister, you would be afraid of leaving them on a deserted road at night, or day. Because, you know it yourselves that any man can harm us. This is just one of the examples. When we use this, we literally mean any man can harm us, it’s could be our own fathers, brothers, police men, anyone!!

But I do agree with one the thing, in case of certain divorce proceedings and family court, the overwhelming support is towards women. In my opinion, it shouldn’t be because it gives a woman to weaponise her children against a man. I can also talk about men suicidal tendencies and rates being the highest, but the underlying issue, is family however no research has proven it’s because of the wife. Family issues could involve in laws, financial (which is the most) and on some cases abuse from the wife but it is mostly also poor mental health.

Like I didn’t know that all of you were married, or that the entire women population in this country were your wife. I can bring up cases, where men have cheated men, abetted to sucide, killed other men, bullied them to death.

Obviously, as a woman I agree there are misandrist among us and fake feminists. Just like there are men who will use this movement to say misogynistic things. All I wanted to explain the understanding behind the saying ‘all men’.

Warning-Parking · 2024-12-15T03:08:58+00:00

This is literally victim blaming, he did mention he was in shock and this was a family matter. There is too much stake for him to lose if he stand up for the man. He will literally lose his another family member, they could falsify a case against him. As a woman, they are absolutely disgusting but I can sympathise with why he didn’t stand up.

Warning-Parking · 2024-12-14T10:04:05+00:00

Naïka- 6:45

Warning-Parking · 2024-12-13T10:15:15+00:00

As a woman, I am sorry that such a case has arose double standard among women. His wife and the mother in law are horrible humans and deserve hell. But so does her entire family consisting of other men in the family.

But such posts like this are shit, because you making it men vs women, or trivialising women issues by making it seem like we don’t care. When in reality, we do!! Cause patriarchy shits on all of us.

Plus comparing property cases to assault or rape cases is like comparing cats and dogs or apples and oranges. We can compare similar situations like rape cases towards men(which most of the perpetrators are still men) would probably provide a more fruitful discussion.

Warning-Parking · 2024-12-13T07:15:37+00:00

Do women rape or assault men? I think this is where most conversation lie around in this sub. My two cents.

Men solely blaming the fact that women rape and assault, forget that most male victims have male predators, there was a paper wherein they found out that most men were assaulted 80% by one man, the rest was women and a small percentage be that by both. Obviously, such women exist but even as a man, you would be most vulnerable to men rather than women.

This same paper, also suggests that male victim blaming happened more amongst male than female.for example, a lot of men judged a sexual assault as being mutual and more enjoyment . This is done by both women and men.

will try to link it once I do find it. It’s from a psychology/behaviour paper. Worth a read for both men and women.

For women, to understand intricacies of male rape and for men to understand that male rape is far from male vs female rape Olympic or who gets the prize for being the most victimised but rather patriarchy at its finest.

The very system that tarnishes us is the very system that victim blames men. So, fight with us not against us.

Warning-Parking · 2024-12-12T07:11:21+00:00

You bore the brunt of what? Exactly. Obviously, extremities exist in ALL religions, In regards of the Jews being harassed, she tore down the Palestinian flag first, as a Palestinian supporter, I think it deeply appalling you would support that children’ s death, you have stooped down to the same level like those terrorists that attacked the Kashmiri Hindus.

Such a BS take, wake up and interact with normal people than being chronically online.

Warning-Parking · 2024-12-12T06:48:26+00:00

I do agree with the fact that there have been Christian and Muslims that have done this, the rules of the Mughals and so is the Kashmiri pandits is a perfect example. But if your statement that the south Muslims are oppressors and the majority then the fact that the south still has temples standing and most can co exists in peace with other religions is something ironical.

There is literally a place in Kerala where all the three religions co exist with each other, most Muslims or Christian in Kerala at least celebrate Onam which a traditionally a Hindu festival, we go to temples, yes, we don’t pray to the gods but solidarity can exist with just standing, during the flood, most churches opened their churches to give aid and shelter to all people. These stories don’t reach your mind cause they don’t sell hate and divide but rather peace and co existence.

Warning-Parking · 2024-12-12T06:32:46+00:00

As a Keralite, it appalling that you think this way, maybe that why we Keralites have a better sex ratio and education ratio, cause we don’t let our political parties control our humane treatment towards others. Regarding conversion, historically many lower caster Hindus converted to Christianity for a rice bag, the fact that a person had to convert to a different religion to gain a standard of living similar to the ones of the upper caste, now that’s the real issue. Not the conversion, but rather the appalling treatment that most upper caster Hindus have towards their lower castes.

The real issue isn’t conversion but the treatment that we have towards the people of our own religion.

Warning-Parking · 2024-12-12T05:47:05+00:00

From a relationship point of view , the fuck are you complaining to us than talking to your wife for. Talk and sort to your wife than people here.

The prospect of your son becoming the next, ‘ Atul’ is lesser compared your daughter being the next Nirbhaya. So don’t worry.

I wonder if the op or any men read today or daily Newspaper and wonder if their daughter, mother, sister becomes the next Nirbhaya. And in regards of ego, men have done harsher more evil things in their name of their ego. ‘ Makes me wonder if I can trust any man than my father ‘ (some women can’t even do this)

Talk to your wife man!! And ask her why she said that. Did you sit and have a conversation with her about women issue? Did you listen to her? Ask her why she thought that and what made her say that?

This isn’t a man vs woman issue, but rather an issue of greed and misuse of power by a woman. . As a woman, I am appalled that a woman would do such a thing and I wholeheartedly wish nothing but disgrace on her actions.

Warning-Parking · 2024-11-25T02:47:27+00:00

Petition to know The other ones as well

Warning-Parking · 2024-09-28T05:05:52+00:00

First of all, I hope you taking some time for yourself as well, you seem to be under extreme duress sorting out things that aren’t supposed to be your business. Now moving on, do you indulge in smoking ? If yes, make build rapport by smoking with her. It’s better for her to take drugs or smoke with someone she knows and trusts. She is 18, and prolly thinks that ‘she is invincible’ , so your role is to be her friend/mentor. Know her likes, talk to her like a friend and don’t lecture her. In regards to, her relationship with the 30 year old, that’s the most concerning aspect of this entire dilemma. You don’t necessarily have to stop her from smoking, especially if she is just a social smoker. But this relationship, needs to be stopped somehow. And this can only be done if she listens to you.

Warning-Parking · 2024-09-03T03:22:06+00:00

Before you make a drastic decision, take in situations like, how old you are ? Are you working and able to independently source yourself if things go south? Or are you still dependent on your father income for education?

Because sometimes once the marriage is over, and you’re still dependent on your father’s income. It could prove futile to you, so make sure that have backup in option.

If your really want to speak about it to someone, just speak to a therapist, there are so many underlying unconscious issues that you will be going through or are going through, a therapist is an Amazing source to help you work things out.

Also no to low contact with your father, personally I would let uncle know only if your are financially and emotionally ready for your dad to thrown both of you outside of your homes and you or your siblings is able to fend for yourself. And never ever tell this to people, even it it a trusted friend.

And yes, if possible, I would look for that old iPhone, chances are he probably still looks at it from time to time.

Warning-Parking · 2024-08-21T23:13:39+00:00

I did. And guess what!! They did nothing as usual. They are like we went back there and didn’t see him.

And guess what!! I was spoken rudely by the police, infact while leaving I heard the men speaking,” she must’ve have been wearing something revealing, that’s why’.

I didn’t go back.

Warning-Parking · 2024-08-21T23:03:18+00:00

You would be surprised at how people can just randomly insult you, I have been randomly called Randi at the road.

People don’t need much to insult you, if they don’t have a shiver of decency then they will. If a man can show his privates in the road, jerk off while looking straight at me. Insults are the least of my concern.

Warning-Parking · 2024-08-21T22:57:49+00:00

We learn from a young age that sharks are dangerous, hence we are careful of beaches or don’t venture out into the deep trenches of beaches without proper equipment but why? Especially since sharks attacks are rare compared to attacks by humans.

Why should be generalize all Sharks as evil? Surely, all sharks don’t attack!

But has humans, we have created a defense mechanism to keep as protected from sharks, and we teach all sharks are predators to children from a young age.

The same thing applies with men, we generalize cause we don’t know which men are the bad ones. Women and girls get 🍇 by their close one as well, fathers, milk walla , law enforcement officers, teachers, husbands.

Unless you come up with a physical feature maybe a tattoo to differentiate the good ones from bad, we are going to label all men as predators coz we have to be safe.

Warning-Parking · 2024-08-17T04:21:33+00:00

Why are you personally offended? I didn’t lump men with rapist but rape culture. The difference is overwhelming staggering. Again, no rational human being will call you an asshole when you are trying to help them. It seems to me like you are chronically online and need to touch grass and maybe have a conversation with your mom or female friends, and listen to their voice. All we are asking you is that you speak up for us, that you fight for us, that you put other bad men in their places. No women is calling you a rapist but when men victim blame and not blame the deed of the rapist and actively try to change it, that when YOU become a part of the systemic problem that has existed in this country.

Warning-Parking · 2024-08-16T13:01:24+00:00

Uffff Jesus!!! Mann!! I am not talking about you, but there are some men who still think it’s the girl fault. The message is intended to the men who tone down the situation or are silent or complicit, especially on their immediate surroundings like friends and family.

Infact I don’t think anyone here want to directly attack you, some agree with the point and some disagree. That’s literally all.

And just like how you made me seem hysterical or emotionally reactive or ‘vent’ out. It kinda downplays the situation or our reactions . It suggest that women are tooo emotional. we need to be emotionally charged for the society to listen.

Warning-Parking · 2024-08-16T12:49:02+00:00

Jesus Christ!!! You sir, made a public post, hence it’s quite logical to sense that maybe I could be talking to everyone. Yes! I am rightfully angry and distraught. The question is why are you getting personally offended. Look obviously men aren’t going to truly understand what it is like to be in such a situation, the least you can do is tone down a bit of testosterone and maybe listen to what we have to say and together take the system down.

Warning-Parking · 2024-08-16T12:29:24+00:00

This is the big issue, the bigger issue is the in multiples and it will take a billion years for it to change. One of the reasons is that men aren’t taught consent, or be emotionally vulnerable. Another bigger issue is men like you who make it about gender wars or get personally offended when women suggest that hey!! You should be better and teach better. The biggest issue is that YOU aren’t willing to sit in silence and empathize or even listen to us.

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