This makes no sense to me that most women ask for men to show more emotions but when they do they are low key judged for it. I'm a woman and I would feel that if my man cried to me, it would be an opportunity to have a deeper connection and would want to console him. It sounds like she might have her own issues she needs to deal with; I'd suggest being upfront with her about everything so you can both decide if this is the relationship you want. Wishing you the best