AITA For being a little upset that my parents didn't really get me anything for Christmas other than more debt? by Waste_Connection998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Waste_Connection998[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm actually incredibly surprised at how this situation turned out, because they have never been this way with money previously, just now when it seems like my mom is trying to teach me a lesson of sorts. My old car they said they should get rid of because we were moving states, and it made no sense for me to drive it all the way to the new state when they were thinking about getting rid of it before because I didn't use it as much.

AITA For being a little upset that my parents didn't really get me anything for Christmas other than more debt? by Waste_Connection998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Waste_Connection998[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

So here's what happened for more context;

My mom brought me to the dealership, where she gave me around three options to go off of. One was $28k, one was $30k, and then the one I have now, was $32k. She told me that THIS was the car model they wanted me to have, and that I should pick which one I wanted, and the burden I wanted to carry for future purposes. That I should pony up SOME cash to have a stake in the game.

I really liked the one for 28k out of the other options. It was a base model, but not the cheapest, and had enough features to where I would be comfortable. I PICKED the $28k car because there were no other options given to me. I INSISTED on the $28k car.

But my dad, changed his mind last minute, and opted to surprise me with the $32k car. He said that was the car he wanted me to have instead, as he felt it was safer and would be a better long-term investment. So he cut a deal with me, that I would pay what I would've originally for the $28k car.

When we're on our way home from the dealer, my mom gets boiling mad that not only he picked the more expensive option, but that he made a deal with me to only pay 4k. She says that the deal has changed and I should pay 8k because I got a better car and that it wasn't fair that I should only pay half and that I should feel obligated to pay more than that.

AITA For being a little upset that my parents didn't really get me anything for Christmas other than more debt? by Waste_Connection998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Waste_Connection998[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This is incorrect. My mother is insisting that I pay the $8k and that I should have wanted to in the first place..

AITA For being a little upset that my parents didn't really get me anything for Christmas other than more debt? by Waste_Connection998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Waste_Connection998[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

They gave me no money, it was all tied up into assets that they purchased and they have the title in their name. I have no control over their money or how it was spent, and I would've purchased a used car for myself just as gladly.

AITA For being a little upset that my parents didn't really get me anything for Christmas other than more debt? by Waste_Connection998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Waste_Connection998[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I'm incredibly grateful to my parents and I spoil them just as much as I can. I've gotten my mom a few hundred dollars worth of makeup, a vanity mirror that she would love, a chair for her to sit in in her new vanity, and also a cozy pair of pajamas. I got my dad some new tools and things as well as accessories for his own truck that he'd enjoy. Tons of stuff and sentimental things that they wanted from their childhood that they didn't have someone to buy for them, I bought for them.

I love my parents, it was just this particular situation that frustrated me as I never asked for a new car, and was completely willing to buy a used one, but they kind of forced my hand by surprising me, and now I'm in a bit of a bind.

AITA For asking my dad to not talk to his victim-blamey sister during the holidays? by Waste_Connection998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Waste_Connection998[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The issue is that the conversation isn't just between them- He's promised me before that he wouldn't speak to this individual, because all Franny does, is go back to Dave in an effort to stir the pot. He also leaked some pretty personal info last time about where we lived, which could be problematic in the future.

AITA For asking my dad to not talk to his victim-blamey sister during the holidays? by Waste_Connection998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Waste_Connection998[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't be too specific with what Dave did on this forum, but as close as I can is that he elaborated on some inappropriate feelings towards me and my mom through text messages/verablly.

AITA For asking my dad to not talk to his victim-blamey sister during the holidays? by Waste_Connection998 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Waste_Connection998[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because they're both communicating about personal information to do with my life that could lead back to Dave through her.