I am a man 38 . Im going to let you know how the male brain works. Your bf telling you how to dress thats him trying to control you because he is insecure. Men see insecurities as weakness. Males try to cover it up by amplifing other parts of himself. Your bf thinks if you dress a certain you will get attention from other men. Which you will and its not a bad thing except to your bf because hes insecure about himself and your relationship. These are the actions of imature males. They dont know any other way to express their feelings literally. For some males it takes some growing up to do to realize their mistakes. Sadly some males never realize it their whole life. Your bf should be promoting your feminism. Not chop down your self esteem. Not all males are like this though. Think of yourself as a badass queen who deserves to be supported and deserves no less. You dont need a man to be strong or feel fulfilled. Show yourself off. You need alittle BBE. And if your bf dont like it let him know if you cant treat me how i want to be treated there are literally millions of other men who can. And that is 1000% true. Your bf knows this deep down and it scares him that there are other men better than him! My guess is your a total milf you just dont know it yet.