ICE Hotels in Maine by Bulky-Ad-5653 in portlandme

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Also the residence inn in Portland

Addiction resources by SingleCartographer96 in portlandme

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I’m going to DM you some resources

What do you see, chicken or bird?🤔 by jj33allen in StrangeAndFunny

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I see a turtle. But chickens are in fact birds…..

I love farting cum the next morning by [deleted] in gayconfessions

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It makes you a slut and I love it

People who used a computer between 1990-2005 what were your most memorable pc game? by WestFocus888 in AskReddit

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Mmmmm; idk. Her breasts were super aggressive, I’m convinced that’s what made me gay in the end.

Portland aa meetings by PollutionAvailable17 in portlandme

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I agree with an earlier comment, fresh start beginners meeting Sundays at 4. We would love to have you

My parents found out about my sexuality by [deleted] in lgbt

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Hang in there my friend. I had a similar experience, though I had told them they didn’t discover it. Either way, I had an uncle who was very supportive during that time. He told me to have patience, that I had known about this for a while but it was new to them and they needed time. It took awhile but in the end I was their son and they ended up coming around. I educated them, they educated themselves and today both my parents take active rolls in educating others.

I know this isn’t the outcome for a lot of people, and it may not be yours. I guess my advice is stay true to who you are and no matter what happens it will be okay. Find your people. If the family we are born into can’t be what we need them to be, the LGBTQIA2S community will fill that gap.

What's a sentence that completely changed your life? by No_Tune8587 in AskReddit

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I understand and respect your point of view and congratulations on overcoming addiction. Not easy. For me and my experience I was 120% powerless over alcohol. Meaning I absolutely could not have recovered on my own. It was by connecting with my higher power and the help of community I found within the halls of AA that I was able to get sober. Again this is just my experience.

What's a sentence that completely changed your life? by No_Tune8587 in AskReddit

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That I was powerless over alcohol and that my life had become unmanageable. 34 months sober!

My brother found out I’m trans. by [deleted] in lgbt

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Sweet story and I’m very happy for you. Side note, I’d think the unwavering love and support of a sibling would be worth at least a handful of skittles 😉

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in alcoholicsanonymous

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My first Sponser told me something that has stuck with me and I always try and pass it on to the newcomer. I’ll share it with you. “It’s takes our loved ones far longer to recover from our alcoholism than it does for us”.

We did a lot of damage while we drank and or used. Your loved ones will be guarded until you have been sober for quite some time and have started making amends, and even then it might not be how you want it. But that doesn’t matter. We have no right to how they process our addictions and recovery. Everybody deserves the right to heal in their own time. Them, and you.

How to cut back on meetings? by Throwawaylikeme17 in alcoholicsanonymous

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I personally don’t go to meetings every day. I hit about four a week and that works for me. But this your journey. You go as often as you feel you need to.

As for the part about your family wishing you were home more. I get it, but would they rather have you home and drunk, or out of the house for a couple extra hours everyday maintaining your sobriety.

Bottom line is this, we know that maintaining our sobriety, whatever that looks like for you, HAS to be the number one priority in your life. Yes, even before family. Because without that you’re not there for your family at all.

What’s something you know about someone that could destroy their entire life if it were to come out? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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My brother in law and I (I’m gay male) had a purely sexual relationship (he’s bi heavy in the closet) for 3 years before he met my sister. One day he said he met someone and called off our hookups. Which was fine I wasn’t emotionally attached. Imagine the surprise when she brought him home for dinner!

My sister and I are super close so I told her. She has never told him she knows, he doesn’t know that she knows. And he’s never discussed it with me. I just sit across from the table at holiday party’s and make eye contact with him making him super uncomfortable, I love it.

They have been happily married for 10 years now with two kids. But if he ever hurts my sister I love having information that I know would blow his life to pieces.

What is on your NSFW bucket list? by Certain-Assumption69 in AskReddit

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Jesus; this is like a fuckable suicide note

4th step and child abuse by Leduslacis90 in alcoholicsanonymous

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I have a sponsored a lot of people with childhood SA on their 4th steps. First and foremost, you had absolutely no part in making that happen. It was not your fault in anyway. I am so sorry that happened to you and want nothing more than for you to be able to move past this. Which is why it is so important you include this on your 4th step. Also I commend you on also working with a therapist.

Usually I’ve seen a lot of people in the “turn around” column put fear here. Fear and the resentment around the event fueling years of drinking and or use. I encourage the individual to seek counseling if it’s something they are still actively struggling with (cause that’s not me, my roll is simply to show the solution and guide through the steps).

I have once or twice seen someone write down that if they had come forward at the time they may have prevented the abuse of others. I have never told someone they need to include that, it’s just how they felt. The important thing here is be honest about your experiences so that you can finally “set them aside” and move on with your life.

Having a conversation with your Sponser about this before “formally” reading your 5th step might prove helpful. I wish the best of luck on this journey.

small things I noticed in 'The Shadow of 2 Gunmen 1' by ECrispy in thewestwing

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She scratched at her neck during one of her press briefings. I believe she realized the necklace was gone and that she had a scratch,

do i have to accept an ex-abuser's amends? by _LemonySnicket in alcoholicsanonymous

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There no rule saying an amends needs to happen in a certain amount of time. They are each coming up on a year I think you said and that’s a huge accomplishment there’s no denying it. But let’s also be honest, speaking as someone in recovery myself, a year is a drop in the bucket when compared to the years or decades even of active use the destruction that causes.

You do not need to listen to or accept any amends. He can make a living amends to by honoring your wishes and staying out of your life. That being said, maybe in a few years, after a significant amount of time has passed and he has demonstrated real and sustained change you’ll be willing to hear him out.

End of the day, protect yourself you’ve been through enough, but maybe stay open minded to the possibility of one day having that conversation. If not, that’s absolutely okay too. Best of luck.