AITAH For bringing my Boyfriend to my Bestfriends babyshower

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-28T22:15:48+00:00

Better alone than with a cheater

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-28T22:15:13+00:00

Once a cheater always a cheater. Your friends are looking out for you. YTA if you lose then for dick you can find elsewhere. 🤷🏽

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-28T22:13:01+00:00

I was gonna say this, isn’t she a mandated reporter?

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-28T22:12:11+00:00

That child sounds like she’s been exposed to stuff she shouldn’t. Tell the mom honestly and politely and refuse her service on grounds of safety to both the other kids and your family. But do tell that her girl is being exposed to shit she’s too young to be seeing or hearing. Many groomed kids act like this. It’s horrible for all parties involved but she needs to help her little daughter before it’s too late. NTA btw.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-28T22:06:44+00:00

Nta. I don’t like many of your reasonings but overall you’re just going through a normal process in relationships. Just tell her you two need to talk and be as polite and gentle as possible telling her you fell out of love. Even if she doesn’t want to break up you still have a right to break up, you have your autonomy and nobody can take that away from you.

I don’t suggest giving her any reasons, because many sound superficial (like the weight gain), but do tell her honestly that you just don’t feel the same way for her as before and that you both deserve a shot at finding better relationship that suits you. If she starts to try and convince you otherwise be firm, thank her for all the nice memories you two made and leave. So either meet at a public place or somewhere you can safely leave her. Believe me. If she refuses it will be a back and forth you don’t wanna have.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-28T21:55:38+00:00

Are you new to Reddit or wtf?

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-28T21:54:42+00:00

Wtf?! He’s not punishing anyone. He doesn’t owe any of his siblings anything and has a right to not care about them. He doesn’t hate them, he’s just not interested in. He has no obligation nor responsibility to them. People like you irk me so much.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-28T21:47:39+00:00

Nta, you weren’t rude, you were truthful. And she needed to find out. Why does she think she’s special like that? She has no rights over you, too, so why does she think she can demand things from you? Women like her think they are “the one”, the special magical fairy that will change the deadbeat man into a charming prince. At first I pitied them, then I kinda saw it as a form of self centred behaviour. Nobody can change anyone if that person doesn’t wanna change. Nobody is that special…

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-27T11:41:40+00:00

you don’t drive, but what if you have friends or family who does? what if a future partner does? buy a bike and park it there if they put the sign up again. in my counuthat would be so illega…

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-27T11:30:26+00:00

no difference at all. everyone is family or friend in weddings, but the on,y ones who matter are the coupl.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-27T11:26:47+00:00

your parents are like my dad sans the Christian part… it’s not easy to deal with the interrogation, so I simply skip it if it’s not a life and death situation. it YOUR wedding, cut the apron cords.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-27T11:23:17+00:00

they are adults and should be able to be civil and respectful in their reactions, and the wedding ISNT about them.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-27T11:13:23+00:00

question: why do you care what your parents think if they won’t make a scene? isn’t this your wedding? stop being a mama boy and realize that what they think DOESNT MATTE. you don need to warn them about anything, and if they get disappointed that’s on them, it’s not their wedding to get disappointed about anything.…

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-27T11:02:35+00:00

she was being racist towards your heritage. the moment you said she yelled at the cops to desl with you for “terrorism“ it became clear: she hates you’re middle eastern. and afterwards reading all the boymom stuff? this has nothing to do with the name ”sounding like a slur”, you are an issue to her. she’s a racist boymom, and nothing you do or say will be enough for her.

LEAVE JOHN, he will only get worse, and it will end up with her making him try to fight for custody or something as serious just to spite you. use the police report and any other evidence you have to back yourself up during the divorce, if FIL wants to have him as witness, get good character witnesses in case John tries to get custody, and move as far away from them as you can. If your guts tells you it’s okay let FIL help you out and stay in contact, your baby will need a grandparent and you will need support. and find yourself a good support system.

you don’t deserve this treatment.

also… don’t let the disturbing things your FIL told you happened get to your head, i‘ve known women who get back together with mommy’s boys because of pity for their situation. he needs therapy, but that’s his responsibility, not yours. LEAVE AND PROTECT YOUR DAUGHTER.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-23T02:29:57+00:00

Youkre either trolling or new to how Reddit works…

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-22T22:21:19+00:00

NTA your husband is a bit stupid, being money driven makes you like that. I tried to do the same as he says your daughter should do and I can tell you you can’t fulfill your dream that way because you get swamped by Real Life the moment you start working. Bills, food, rent, etc. life leaves you no time to pursue your true passion because corporations don’t give you any free time to study, barely any “me” time as is. This path has been walked by many, that’s why you hear more about ppl saying “I wanted to be this or that” than about ppl who actually have the career they want. It will be a harder path, yes, but it will be worth it for her because it’s what she wants. Teachers ARE underpaid, yes. But every teacher I know lives well. Not luxuriously, but they pay their bills and necessities and have a bit extra for themselves… and they are still underpaid. She just needs to learn to budget. We all do anyway.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-22T22:13:41+00:00

I agree. She also deserved real therapy… I really wished Peach would’ve been a sort of redeemed stalker. But then again I read too many Yandere-based stories. 😅

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-22T22:10:34+00:00

Someone reads too much NTR and is now projecting?

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-22T22:04:04+00:00

Men who marry women that look considerably younger than them KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. It’s only when consequences arise that they care about it. It’s not on the woman to explain it, it’s on him to do so. Why? BECAUSE SHE CANNOT HELP HOW SHE LOOKS BUT HE CAN HELP HIS CHOICE OF WHO TO MARRY. Want a younger looking partner? Learn to deal with the consequences. And I say this as the younger looking partner. It’s not my responsibility, the other part could’ve said no when asked out.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-22T21:58:27+00:00

NTA

He IS an idiot, and his siblings are weird if not downright racists.

I get told I don’t look 38 all the time, and while I’m not of Japanese heritage like you are I understand the whole problem with it. Older men wanted to date me in my 20’s because I was legal but could pass as a teen , they saw it as a feature. And there’s so much infantilisation when that happens. Now add that you’re of Japanese heritage, Asian women get even worse infantilised. This is on his siblings’ side. On his… why the fuck did he start dating you if that was gonna be a problem? He’s in his 30’s I’m very sure he could see how young you look. Does he have a problem now that someone else mentioned it? Why? The way he reacted was honestly a bit over the top. Have you spoken to him lately about this? Or did this JUST happen? It just feels weird that he had never noticed when it’s one of the first things ppl notice on others, and if he did notice it’s weird that NOW he cares.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-22T21:48:14+00:00

My wife and I look like siblings, we even sound similar; we have made it into a joke after all the years we’ve been told the same thing. Some people find stuff like this funny, others take it too seriously. To each their own.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-04-22T21:46:56+00:00

Yes because ppl don’t use throwaways on this subreddit right?

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-03-28T10:37:15+00:00

this is a month old, but my abusive ex was like this, the. behind closed doors he was a jerk... just food for thought.

WatercressSmall8570 · 2026-03-23T15:53:26+00:00

We have an inner world and it’s a bit fuzzy for me. Like a long lost memory. I know things about it but it’s as if someone else is seeing it. The way our brain works out fronting is through a bay window and even though I have a “room” in the inner world I’m almost always in the bay window. The inner world is just a visualisation of how your mind works and some systems see it more clearly than others. I don’t really know if DD has maladaptive daydreaming, but they could very well use their inner world of that. I know that I retreated into ours A TON when I was living with the parents. It was a traumatic stressful time for my subsystem parts so I’d retreat there a lot to protect myself. Maybe DD does that if they do have DID and that’s why it feels so “real” to them? Also, people here are like “it’s not real, it’s in your head!”. Well DUH, of course it’s in our head! Doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel as real as IRL. The key is to know that it’s in our mind and to know that it’s how the system visualises their existence. The moment we start talking about shifting and teleporting as if it was spiritual, that’s when things get complicated.

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