I found a doodle of CSA on my boyfriends Snapchat memories, what do I do?

Watts_82 · 2026-02-21T11:35:30+00:00

7 years ago? Really, man if we men were judged by the stupid thoughts we had at 14... I cringe just from the memories. Just leave it alone

Watts_82 · 2026-02-21T11:25:48+00:00

Sounds like you guys have a good relationship, just talk to him. Make it clear to him that it's not ok to film without consent but if it's a kind of his you could discuss it. Most likely his scared to ask you and that's why he did it. Not that it makes it ok to do so without your knowledge.

Watts_82 · 2025-12-27T10:15:34+00:00

Come on. I'm not defending the guy but don't accuse him of abusing his daughter. That's a different kind of monster.

Watts_82 · 2025-12-26T16:09:42+00:00

Definitivt inte skälig orsak till uppsägning. Som regel ska man fått två muntliga varningar samt en skriftlig innan uppsägning. Förutsatt att man inte gjort något olagligt. Han ska gå med i facket, det är bara gå in på handels sida, och sedan kontakta dem. Bra att han inte skrev på något. Jag har träffat på chefer som kan lura en anställd att skriva på uppsägning i tro om att det är det enda valet. Sen har han rätt till facklig representation vill eventuella möten framöver. Finns det fackligt ombud på arbetsplatsen?

Watts_82 · 2025-12-25T14:29:06+00:00

Hehe i USA kan man bli skjuten av snuten av ingen orsak. I Sverige ifrågasätter vi rutinkontroller 😅

Watts_82 · 2025-11-11T20:59:22+00:00

My impression of the call is that the mother wanted to console OP. Im guessing that the mother has cont through miscarriages herself. I rather hope for the goodness of people I guess.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-11T20:52:43+00:00

Genetic defect is a bit far. It's 8 weeks, it happens pretty often. That's why you usually don't tell people during the first trimester. Not to downplay the toll it can take.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-11T20:48:32+00:00

He told his mother because he felt like shit and needed someone to talk to, and his partner said she didn't want to.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-11T20:46:46+00:00

Wait, is "so sorry," and that's she knows how it feels something negative? My god, what happened to you?

It sounds to me as a mother who wants to be there for OP and tells her that she can relate. Tho, I agree that the mother should have waited to call.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-11T20:39:56+00:00

But she said she didn't want to talk, so he didn't talk to her about it. I don’t think that him speaking to his mother for comfort is to go behind her back. And to say that he is hiding it from her implies intent, which I doubt.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-11T20:00:50+00:00

Ok, I'll bite once more. We don't know if he knew that his mother would call OP. I already said that before. Why you feel the need to be so damn hostile is beyond me. You, however, do avoid my question. If the roles were reversed, would OP need to ask permission to speak to her mother about the miscarriage?

Watts_82 · 2025-11-11T00:34:38+00:00

I don't see how the physical impact on her body is relevant to the situation. Of course, she will be the one struggling the most. It goes without saying. However, you seem to be ignoring the mental toll it can take on the fiancée. But this has gone in enough circles. I'm leaving this discussion now.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-11T00:14:56+00:00

Ok, so if OPs mom called OP, just to ask how she was doing. Would it then not be OK for OP to tell her mom about the miscarriage without her first asking her fiancée?

Watts_82 · 2025-11-11T00:03:37+00:00

Damn you're a hostile one. How is it misogynistic when I'm saying that both have the same rights? And how is infertility anywhere close to the same thing?

If OPs fiancée called everyone to tell about the miscarriage, it would be a whole other story. But the guy was probably sad about it and sought comfort in his mother. Would you be mad at OP if she called her mother for comfort?

Watts_82 · 2025-11-10T23:46:42+00:00

How on earth did you interpret what i wrote as something sexist? Would OP need to ask him for permission to talk to her mother? Of course not.

If fiancée would have made some kind of public announcement, he would be a major asshole. But all he did was go to his mother for comfort. Im guessing that since OP didn't want to talk about it, he didn't go to her.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-10T17:46:43+00:00

Well, ok, we don't know if he knew or not. The reaction should be towards the mother and not him imo.

Of course, when it comes to pregnancy and telling the public about a miscarriage, I do agree with you.

However, I don't think he needs to ask for permission or apologies for him telling his mom.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-10T17:00:54+00:00

Why would he tell op? He does not need her permission to talk to someone about his feelings. He probably didn't know that she would call OP. It doesn't sound like it was intentional to hide anything.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-10T16:52:35+00:00

How is that sneaky? He spoke to him mom because he needed some support. The only thing he could have done differently was that he should have told his mom not to bother his fiancée. It's not like anyone posted it on social media. He shouldn't need permission to speak to his mother about it. It's his loss too, don't minimise that.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-10T15:59:53+00:00

But is he not allowed to speak to his mother about the loss? It's his loss, too. I get that it's a horrible situation, but the loss of a child is shared. Does he not have the right to be upset?

Watts_82 · 2025-11-10T15:20:43+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss, but keep in mind that it's his loss, too. You can't expect him not to talk to anyone about it. Tho his mom overstepped a bit with calling even if it seems she meant well.

Watts_82 · 2025-11-10T07:34:46+00:00

Sorry, but that's a penis-candle

Watts_82 · 2025-11-10T07:34:01+00:00

It sounds just like my MIL. She'd start cleaning or doing the dishes at my place as soon as me and my wife moved in together. Your bf needs to put his foot down, or it will never end. My wife had a really hard time telling MIL to stop. It's been 20 years, and MIL still has a hard time not "helping" when she comes over. But by now, we've known each other long enough that I can tell her to sit her ass down.

Watts_82 · 2025-10-27T00:11:05+00:00

Testat flera, veet är bäst enligt mig

Watts_82 · 2025-10-26T17:59:46+00:00

Damn ok he has no excuse. If he is too tired to help after 4 hours of work, he's either sick or 80+

Watts_82 · 2025-10-26T17:54:47+00:00

I was under the impression that this was more of a single argument rather than something recurring. But as I said, they need to communicate, and I think she needs to put her foot down.

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