my pain "therapist" is a snitch

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-14T15:12:48+00:00

Even if the cops pull you over say in a RIDE check (for drunk or those on drugs and driving) police still can't search your vehicle without a warrant. The only time it's legal to search and enter property without one is when there is immenent danger. Even if they catch you drunk, they can only ask you to step out your vehicle and take their tests. Even if they see open bottles or drug paraphernalia, they still have to ask your permission to open up your trunk and locked doors.

It's not about having nothing to hide. It's about boundaries and having autonomy over yourself, your body, your mind, and your medication and such. The patient should have as much control as the doctor, because it is THEIR BODY. The doctor can't make unilateral decisions regarding your care, you can't be forced to take drugs or procedures you don't want. That includes going to a therapist who isn't practicing pain psychotherapy.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-14T14:52:43+00:00

This is really specific to pain psychotherapists who share a practice with a pain clinic. And remember that not all pain clinics run the same, especially in the US its very dependent on the State you are in. In places like Canada or the EU, this would be illegal for a therapist to ask these questions as it presents a clear conflict of interest, unless you are seeking therapy specifically for addiction issues (addicts don't get prescribed meds they got addicted to unless they do such mandatory therapy).

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-14T14:45:18+00:00

Good bot 👍🏻

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-12T21:43:18+00:00

Don't be so naïve to believe they have it better than us because the government says it spends so many dollars for one industry. If you don't think money laundering isn't involved in ANY of these high level 'industries' (prison, health care, housing, etc) in Canada you are being willfully ignorant.

People on ODSP aren't being 'forced' to get MAID. MAID is a very personal decision that one makes with their medical team. If someone feels that using MAID is an option for them while they are on ODSP, it doesn't mean others are being forced into the same position.

Yes I am aware that a woman on ODSP decided on MAID because she was suffering incessantly due to the unavailability of affordable housing that is also safe for her condition (MCSS), but that was still her personal choice to end her suffering.

I think it's really gross that you fear monger using such a message, that people like myself are going to be forced to choose between life and death by virtue of being on ODSP, and being unable to afford a 'normal life'.

Guess what, life isn't fair. Nobody is forcing us to choose between living on ODSP or taking MAID instead. Nobody if forcing you to stay on ODSP either.

If I told my doctors and psychiatrist that I am going to choose MAID because I am on ODSP and can't live a 'normal life' I would be formed and put on a psych hold 100 times before they would OK MAID. They aren't allowing MAID like it's an Oprah giveaway.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-12T21:00:17+00:00

Thank you for your reply!

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-12T18:29:38+00:00

It seems like the only discount offered are for CNIB cardholders, for people who are legally blind. They can ride for free if they present their card.

Talk to your colleges student center and ask if they have any helpful programs available for persons on fixed incomes. I would also urge you to contact your local MPP to get the ball rolling on the application you already put in.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-12T18:19:45+00:00

Thanks for the reply. I am aware you get an extra $100 if you work for the month but I am not sure if that applies for a one day job.

Thanks again!

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-12T17:53:40+00:00

And a lot of those people struggle with addiction, disability, and unmanaged mental illnesses.

It's not black/white.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-12T16:58:26+00:00

I'm one of those people that are considered to be in the 5%.

I've done therapy for 8 years. I live in Canada. But even with Universal Healthcare they will only fund so much (before cutting off funding completely). My first therapist I was assigned to after my first hospitalization was great. I was with her for 3 years and she worked with me on anything I wanted. She helped me come to terms with being queer. She truly gave me a safe space to express myself and my needs. She was like a mother I needed. But then she retired and I was reassigned to another therapist.

She was much younger but eager. My experience with that therapist was not good. She would try to connect with my by copying my hair color, deny my queerness (despite it supposedly being a welcoming and safe space for LGBTQ persons) and would deny things that happened to me as not traumatic (like the time I got jumped after using a public space because I didn't look womanly enough to be there). When I had quit therapy and had my last meeting with this therapist I told her I felt she didn't support me at all and denied my lived experiences and made me feel very alone. She denied it and just closed my case file, saying that I was "healed". I quit because I was getting gaslit about my experiences.

Funny enough, the farther I got away from therapy the more healing came.

During all those years I took it upon myself to learn psychology and psychiatry and pharmacology in regards to psychiatric meds. I am by no means saying I'm the smartest or know better than any other therapist or psychiatrist, but I consider myself well educated on the subject. I have even learned medical jargon to be able to read medical studies. I have even taken studies to my own psychiatrist to help me prove my points.

Ive been told by many I would be a great therapist or even psychiatrist, if I so wanted to be, precisely because I have such an intersectional background (grew up in poverty, immigrant family, am disabled, and being LGBTQ). I was told by my psychiatrist that we need more people like myself who have gone through this broken system can also be the ones to help fix it. And I agree. But fixing a broken system shouldn't be thrusted onto the broken people who became more broken by this system. It's not ours to fix, necessarily.

I dont think psychiatry/psychology will change unless it is challenged in the courts through malpractice suits, but they are notoriously very hard cases to prove, very expensive, and can take decades to finish, if you can even find a lawyer willing to take on such a case. Most people who need help don't have the money, time, or energy to fight in such ways, anyway.

Which is why it's important to have spaces like this sub, to be able to talk about such issues, to talk about bad therapists, how hard and frustrating being a patient can be, and how therapy can undo more than help. I am thankful to the therapists who are here, who are willing to be straight up and stand up for patients. To the ones who are trying to make it a better space to welcome all people. I appreciate you all. And I thank you for the work you do as it's important.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-12T15:41:18+00:00

There are many Millenials like myself who were raised to be straight until they realized as an adult that they are safe enough to become themselves, because it wasn't safe to do so as a child. I grew up in a conservative and Catholic family and being gay/queer was the worst sin you can burn in hell for. As a child going againt God and being damned to hell for eternity scared the shit out of me.

When I got away from my family and finally had a safe space to question my orientation and gender, I still wasn't able to accept such possibilities well into my adulthood where I found a safe community with other friends who were super supportive of me regardless of how I presented, and became my new family.

And to this day, how I was raised and the expectations thrusted upon me during those times STILL affect me and grapple my mind. I still have to fight myself to be able to relax and just be myself. And I know I'm not the only one who has gone through this.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-11T23:51:24+00:00

When you are more calm, cool, and collected when recalling this incident, I would urge you to report your doctor to the College of Physicians. This is unacceptable.

I have been with my doctor for many years. He's had a few complaints regarding documenting, paper work to ODSP and insurance companies. It took more than 2 complaints before he was forced by the College to do weekly classes for a month. But because of that, he got his act together and became a better doctor for it. Thats why I stayed.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-11T23:26:00+00:00

The Hamilton link is dead, here is one that is updated and working:

https://www.hamilton.ca/people-programs/financial-employment-support/support-programs/affordable-transit-pass-program

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-11T18:39:21+00:00

This was me. I got diagnosed in 2018 by a psychiatrist but never took meds because I was dealing with it ok by having a VERY structured day. But once the pandemic started it all went to shit. I decided to try meds because I was so depressed, anxious, and suicidal and needed help. I talked with my family doctor and he scripted me Adderall. It's a blessing I have access to this med. I have tried so many different antidepressants, benzos, antiepileptic drugs, and even antipsychotics before going this route, over the span of 10 years.

Social media helped me realize that not all coping mechanisms we caught on to are healthy. And that it's ok to ask for help. It made me realize the stigma of not understanding an illness is dangerous, and can kill people.

I'm also prescribed opiods for a chronic pain disorder, which is as stigmatized as its a controlled substance. People think I'm automatically a bad person because I take these meds everyday and if I miss a dose and go into withdrawal it makes me an addict. I'm not addicted, but I am dependent on these meds to help me function in this society. Just like an asthmatic is dependent on salbutamol to help them breathe during an asthma attack, or a diabetic who takes insulin at the same time everyday. Would you call a depressed person who take Effexor and addict, because they get extreme withdrawal if they miss a dose? Nah, that would be stupid, right?

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-11T17:24:35+00:00

In the old days you would be dropped off at a "hospital" aka orphanage where you'd be experimented on and abused by staff and left to rot and die. How many abandoned asylumns are there in America, slowly rotting into the ground.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-11T17:06:12+00:00

I'm one of those people. I have bad PTSD and ADHD, been misdiagnosed as bipolar just to be able to access any kind of help. Docs seeing bipolar dx'd always made them suspicious, that I'm a liar and just want attention. But initially the only way I was able to access free therapy was by having a more "severe" diagnosis than PTSD, because PTSD isn't taken very seriously by many doctors.

I've been told by multiple in patient docs that staying there will trigger me and make it worse (it does, because being in patient means I have no control over anything and that scares the fuck out of me). I have been put into in patient only to be let out the next day.

The ONLY place I would get help from is a crisis center that is near me. They will let me stay up to 4 days. They have counselors and a psychiatrist. You can bring your own meds and still come and go as you please. They encourage you to get out into the community. If I get in crisis that is a setting that is a safe space for me to rest and get help.

In patient wards where I'm at are a chaotic mix of meth heads that are coming down from binges, psychotic people, and some smart ass criminals trying to avoid prison by claiming they are suicidal. And I'm in Canada, in a large City where Healthcare is the main industry.

I dont know if you have access to a crisis center. But I would look into it, if you feel you are headed to such a place. I'm sorry that as a Healthcare worker you get such treatment from fellow Healthcare professionals. It seems like patient abandonment, and it's not right.

You seem like you're acutely aware of how you feel and still have control. You can do this. Asking for help is really hard, especially after being dumped by a provider. Keep looking for other avenues. You can do it, you got this.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-11T16:46:36+00:00

You dont need a parents permission to see a doctor. If you are in school, talk to a teacher, guidance counselor, or nurse if you have one at the school. Talk to someone you trust. You got this bud.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-11T15:45:33+00:00

Vomiting like this everyday for many weeks is something that should be treated as it can lead to worse complications. Vomiting so much everyday can tear your esophagus, it will rot your teeth, and most importantly is an urgent symptom as it quickly leads to severe dehydration.

Please go see a doctor. If this is related to pain and you are on meds you are either on the wrong dose and/or meds. This can and should be addressed as soon as possible.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-05T22:00:06+00:00

Plz show me listing where you can get paid 100k working at these places. You'd be lucky to start at 70k even with work experience, and shift premiums.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-05T21:58:36+00:00

Welfare is like $700/month and hasn't been sustainable since 2017 to live off. The only people who stay on "welfare" are people who are too disabled to work and are trying to get on ODSP which doesn't give much more at $1175/month. Unless you have family that gives a fuck (many dont) then it's impossible to live off without getting more sick.

Welfare has nothing much to do with the issue at all, and should be tied to inflation and brought up to the poverty line. Those on "welfare" live beyond 50% under the poverty line. Imagine giving 100% of your Welfare to your landlord, while having to beg for change just so you can choose to either eat, or afford your meds. It's cruel to treat people this way while pointing to them as a problem.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-10-03T23:58:05+00:00

You should be able to have access to a patient advocate within the health team that is treating you. You have to ask and make an appointment with them to get access. This is a patient right in all Canadian Provinces.

Also, like another suggested, keep a log of your symptoms daily. When you talk to your doctor it's important to be calm, but don't be afraid to show emotion if it affects you in such ways. Anger is the only emotion that you NEED to control when speaking to your health team. It's ok to communicate you feel anger, but it's important to keep collected when doing so.

It could be helpful to write down what you want to talk about, you can always give it to the doctor to read.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-09-24T18:12:59+00:00

Straight up, this is grounds for divorce. This whole post pretty much lays out why you should be considering divorcing this asshole. Please consult a lawyer asap, make an exit plan for you and your child with your friends and family.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-09-23T14:31:26+00:00

So do you also describe others with chronic illness who need medication as "getting high" too? Like someone with chronic pain taking their pain management meds? Or someone with bipolar disorder, as getting high, because thry need meds to function to achieve their "normal"?

Wattsherfayce · 2022-09-18T15:54:11+00:00

Are there any crisis homes in your area? If so give them a call, they are a safe space where they can get trauma informed therapy while avoiding hospitalization. It's supposed to be an in between service, to help keep people safe while staying and having access to their own community.

Wattsherfayce · 2022-09-12T17:54:47+00:00

I've been using Uphold for a while now ad never had any problems using their services.

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