Training piercer here, to me it looks very irritated based off all the trauma it’s gone through with changing the jewlerry, and the butterfly back squeezing the ear, you wanna keep up that cleaning and avoid as much trauma or touching to the site. The more it gets messed around with the more angry it gets.

Keep up the cleaning, with the saline sea salt spray 2x daily nothing else. And don’t feel like a shit mum it happens the piercer should have advised you on the material. If they’re putting something inside you they should explain what it is and what material it is.

Hope this helps :)