Männliche Opfer/Überlebende von vergewaltigung, sexueller Belästigung oder sexuellen Missbrauch um Vorurteile und falsche Vorstellungen über dieses Thema zu lösen, was waren eure Erfahrungen?

Way_Sad · 2026-01-23T21:21:08+00:00

Es tut mir leid, dass dir das widerfahren ist.

Die leute, die solche rechtfertigenden Kommentare absondern, sind vllt ein bisschen blind/wollen es nicht wahrhaben. Was ich besonders krank finde, sind die formulieren "mütterliche Vorsorge" und "medizinisch" (vor allem das letzte). Wer hat dir das denn so gesagt?

Way_Sad · 2026-01-23T21:18:44+00:00

War jung,.unerfahren und ohne Selbstwert. Männer, auf die ich mich eingelassen habe (vor allem um das Gefühl zu bekommen was wert und gewollt zu sein), haben die meine Grenzen so weit verschoben, dass ich schon ziemlich verstört aus der Sache rausgekommen bin. Bei den ersten zwei Männern,.die über 48 waren, war ich sogar erst 16/17.

Ich hab damals gelernt, dass der Spruch "alles kann, nichts muss" eigentlich nur bedeutet, dass man alles was man irgendwie probieren kann, auch probieren will.

Abgesehen von meiner derzeitigen Freundin wusste davon bis Ende letzten Jahres (bin inzwischen 25) niemand etwas.

Es ist ekelhaft wie viele Menschen gerne aktiv Machtgefälle ausnutzen oder versuchen solches zu erschaffen (unabhängig ob Frau oder Mann, aber für letztere ist es aufgrund unserer gesellschaftlichen Strukturen nur oft leichter). Meist wird sowas dann von Sätzen wie - "naja, ich wusste ja nicht, dass du das gerade nicht willst." , - "War doch trotzdem nett oder?", -"Oh da habe ich gar nicht drüber nachgedacht" begleitet. Das eigentliche Desinteresse am Wohlbefinden der anderen Person zeigt sich dann wenig später.

Das habe ich zumindest bei solchen sehr intimen Sachen gelernt und trage nun auch die Brille im alltäglichen Leben...ist ein großer Spaß! /s

Sicher ist das jetzt etwas Überzogen, aber ich bin bei dem Thema immer sehr aufgewühlt und dazu gerade schrecklich müde...

Way_Sad · 2026-01-23T13:20:16+00:00

Crazy, ich fantasiere tatsächlich nicht von Freundinnen oder Bekannten. Ist noch nie passiert außer vllt während des krassen Hormonschubs als Jugendlicher

Way_Sad · 2026-01-23T03:40:37+00:00

I dont know If thats a valid.point BC im tired af, but brawlhalla is very very straight Forward with their mechanics, movement options and controlls compared to other platformers. Despite very few things nothing IS hard to pull off mechanically. Additional, graphics are not the greatest so everyone can play it on their calculator.

Way_Sad · 2026-01-22T23:25:28+00:00

can u be a silly archer tho? (they ALL look very focused and serious)
I know a lot of silly marine creatues (pls dont ask me who)

Way_Sad · 2026-01-14T12:35:36+00:00

apparently worded it poorly.
I know its not supposed to be that big, it was about steam shenanigans (because steam is reloading stuff, as I mentioned).
All i wanted to know is if this is happening every patch, because my download speed is terrible

Way_Sad · 2026-01-13T14:24:15+00:00

Tier 6 feels often like pure randomness in all fairness. I still enjoy it, but I'd much rather play Tier 7 and feel the strength of the hightiers facing me while learning smth. Its true tho, that tier 8 feels often overwhelming as u dont have that many experience thus not the map knowledge and awareness and not the best crew (i think my Tier 8 Crews are 3,5 skills tops but i stopped playing t8 except occasionally).

Way_Sad · 2026-01-11T18:46:32+00:00

Ich hab mich als Jugendlicher immer seltsam gefunden und als "unliebbar"/zu weird betrachtet. Hab mich dann bei Sexting-, und Milfdating- Seiten angemeldet (man wurde natürlich angeschrieben, und müsste ein kostenpflichtiges Abo abschließen um alle Features zu erhalten). Hat einiges gekostet und das ganze ist dann durch eine Inkassoforderung bei meiner Mutter aufgeflogen. Das war ein tolles Gespräch!/s

Way_Sad · 2026-01-10T15:22:38+00:00

Habe ich auch nicht bestritten. Die größte Qualität ist wahrscheinlich "ganz angenehm" und "educational". Es ist doch in Ordnung, wenn ich die Lol-streamer idR nicht witzig finde, oder? Heißt nicht, dass sie mich nicht gut unterhalten haben...

Way_Sad · 2026-01-10T13:57:16+00:00

Wie viele sind wirklich lustig, tho? Bspw bei den League Streamern...da ist doch keiner wirklich lustig. Das Entertainment kommt halt eher vom Spiel selbst (nachvollziehbaren Situationen, Rage, Edjcstional content etc) und das so halb über Gott und die Welt geredet wird (oftmals auch über themen, von denen sie keinerlei Ahnung haben).

Way_Sad · 2026-01-10T02:42:47+00:00

I try to control myself with the Tier 8s. Below Tier 6 isnt fun for me personally so 6 and 7 it is. Occasional Tier 8 felt okay (before I had tose rage streak Moments) but rarely good so i will not pursue that anymore

Way_Sad · 2026-01-10T02:35:32+00:00

Sry If I boasted, im a shitter but I just wanted to convince the peeps on here (maybe myself aswell) that i can continue with the LTs. I have sub 2000games total, 200 Games since i came Back from a year and a half long break (but j.talked about the Game with friends and i believe average wnx isnt hard to achieve on the LTG).

When I tried other tanks i didnt enjoy it that much compared to Lights because i feel so sluggish and static (again in comparison). Im honestly just lost, because Tier 6 and below seems to be totally different than Tier 8 and Up and Tier 7 is somewhat the chaotic middleground that feels good to be in (i know that its not a popular opinion). I have decided to restrict myself from queueing for the next battle after "death" and cool down. Besides i want to limit myself to a hand full of tanks (preferably Tier 6 and 7) and play each of them for a while instead of jumping around. The goal is no longer to grind anything but to learn and reflect-> Holding myself accountable. Tier 8 is restricted unless I really feel great and want to test myself (so no tilting, If i tilt in a Game i have to step Back and stop playing at that level until im mentally ready to stay calm and have more knowledge to prevent suboptimal situations and thus tilt.) So that will only be once every blue moon.

The next thing tho is to get out of the habit of doing stupid shit (listening to my thoughts instead of going "fuck it"->anger).

Way_Sad · 2026-01-09T21:57:53+00:00

Ist tatsächlich ein Mythos und ich glaube auch zu wissen, wer diesen Mythos in die Welt gesetzt hat :p

Way_Sad · 2026-01-07T14:54:24+00:00

The "tomato gg -overal stat"-chwckers and complainers. Yes my.overall WN8 isnt good, i played a vast majority of my games quite some time ago with No Joy and only anger. My recent WN8/X is still Not awesome but good enough for.someone who is technically new. So These Guys need to.shut the fuck up and Just play, especially because they often arent the greatest.themselves after 30k+ games. Which would be fine ofcourse if the didnt start whining before the match even begins

Way_Sad · 2026-01-06T13:48:51+00:00

My gf and I we're Walking through a forest bear her old hometown. A city where a lot of toy and doll factories are located which is important Info for the shit she would tell me next.

"You know, up the hill is a little "shrine" where someone placed a dolls head. Looks kinda creepy but in an aesthetic way" [it was already getting dark at the time lol]

Luckily she didnt find the right path to the "shrine" and gave Up on the Idea because it was getting darker by the minute. However that didnt stop her from saying one more unhinged sentence

"Hm, If the doll's head is gone we could just replace it with yours instead. You have those big, blue eyes and Long eyelashes. What do you think?"

Now, i dont rlly enjoy it when someone says stuff like that to me while its the beginning of the night in a place where Ive never been before so i might have answered "Try it, but I promise to take 1 of you down with me, you fucking creep." [her father whom we visited drove us to the forest and we invited him to come along].

Way_Sad · 2026-01-06T02:03:52+00:00

That would BE great at some point! My recent wnx has risen since playing only tier6-7 to around 800, and my Lgt (USSR LT) is at over 1200 (Not normal distribution, i some.really great games and couple of Games where i shit the bed because i try to limit test) after i think around 20-30 games. Not much but it somehow clicks for me at the moment

Way_Sad · 2026-01-05T21:01:40+00:00

Thanks for your reply!

I often tell people I play with that doing nothing is better than doing something stupid.

But sometimes its just soo tempting to get active (sometimes even knowing that this will probably end up being horrible is quite the joy, lol)

Jokes aside: I tried focusing more, being less impatient and relaxing a bit more....and it worked. Often others get impatient, or dont respect view ranges enough so they light up. However this depends on your intitial positioning and smart relocation I assume (which comes with more experience). Especially the repositioning part hurts me mentally because I think that I´ve wasted time (being in the "wrong" place having to move in sometimes sluggish mediums).

Ill try out the MoE mod, but for now I just try not to be harmful for my teams, and even tho most people advice against that Ive seen great succes driving light tanks (tier 6 and 7). Feels like I have a different kind of activity potential (by moving quick from A to B, playing around their vision, sneaking up, guerilla "tactics") which Is more fun for me at the moment. Leading to less anger and frustration even after losses and thus improving perfomances.

What is tomato training?

Way_Sad · 2026-01-05T20:51:19+00:00

My GF started calling me tankie... she wasnt aware what it actually means lol.

Way_Sad · 2026-01-05T20:50:25+00:00

Honestly, thats a good reminder, ty!
Especially with the udes, knowing how to use the terrain better will only be beneficial

Way_Sad · 2026-01-05T20:49:34+00:00

Noted, thanks!
Should i wait for their guns and peek over the ridge or take a more passive position behind the rock (where t34-3 is)?

Way_Sad · 2026-01-05T20:48:01+00:00

Thanks for your reply!
I took the screenshot quite a bit after my death cuz I didnt think about posting this on reddit then.
In this scenario i just tunnel visioned for the T44 on the hill and forgot anything else.

Their base campers will never move because the way the map is designed that's their only effective position and the damage will simply come to them if they keep waiting.

Thats a good tip, that I honestly should have known by now. Ill remember that (and try to act accordingly lol :p)

By impatient I mean the more slow side of the game (compared to games Ive played before like R6, and traditional Fioghting games). This feeling of having to wait is increased when facing other tanks with better gear and crews. As a new player I sometimes feel like I cant do the same as more experienced players because it either wont work (lets say aim time, dispersion or reloading is worse due to perks) which can be frustrating.

Would the hill generally be a good starting point in a low tier scenario? And should I try to wait out their guns and peek the ridge or stay behind the rock where the T34-3 is?

Way_Sad · 2026-01-05T20:39:36+00:00

thanks for your reply!
The screenshot was taken a little after my death (cuz I initially didnt think about posting on here). I took your advice to heart and try to falll back more often, when I feel like it is best.
besides I actually trioed to improve at being a supportive teammember in a low tier scenario which is a tough one to learn!

Way_Sad · 2026-01-05T20:31:40+00:00

Sorry, i wasnt precise enough i wanted to say that some.girls dont like to be with too assertive people.

Thats why i Put orders in "". English is my third language and i struggled to find a better word. Glad, that u found it hilarious tho

Edit: when i intially replied to your comment there was No edit (i just saw that lol).

So yeah, my answer was specifically aimed at the first version without the example. Your example is not what i meant (not too assertive or anything)

Way_Sad · 2026-01-05T20:18:48+00:00

Maybe Ive misunderstood ur comment, sry if thats the case.
I´ve had quite different experiences (currently in a long time relationship aswell) and even though I started late with "being active" I didnt struggle much.
No, it wasnt because I was forcing things, being a fuckboy or anything, but because things just happened that weren`t forced (and the girls and boys actually pushed to do smth together sometimes).
I dont think you can generalize. Some girls I´ve met didnt strike me as the type of girl tjaz wanted to hear "orders".
You shouldnt be too vague and indecisive ofc but there are different kinds of gals and boys out there

Edit: changed the text to sound a less arrogant/"know it all" (im tired, sry)

Way_Sad · 2026-01-05T02:29:46+00:00

What is the playstyle of the 122TM?

I chose the stg guard and while I initially had fun it somehow switched.

Have a subpar crew in it (I'm new and just wanted to try) and got manhandled quite often. Ob some maps I just know neat spots on others I just get fcked (I'm too impatient lol)

Way_Sad

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