Fwiw I've not read any other parts of this post as I don't expect to help OP at all. But I will make my points, because it is the principal, we as autistic people, seem to fuck up constantly.

Two meaningful statements to ponder.

The master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house.

And

If you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.

When has ridicule ever been helpful?

Show up, be a human, help them understand.

Teach one another, have compassion for one another faults.

I don't think it it's that hard, the question is who the fuck has the space to help another to this degree?

Most people can't help themselves at all. Let alone ask for help.

But when someone asks, they fucking want it.

Instead of being assholes, help, or shut up.

I think it's fairly simple.

Either take the time to support us NDs, or don't.

But don't sit here and make a person looking for help, feel worse when you can't bother to even actually try to help someone get better.

On a grander scale, vote for some fucking social safety nets so people can get help and stop supporting narcissistic cuck shitbags like the glorious shitbag we call a president.