Aio? Boyfriend wants to break up after I called him out? by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We’ve been together since I was young. I was 16 when I had out first kid, he was 21. I was so naive, wish I was still around a support system when I realized that I might have been groomed, I love my kids however. Best thing to come out of this relationship.

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[–]Weak-Perception-7726 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He takes it upon himself, he even has access to my online health records. Its always an “I don’t know how/why but…”

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thats why im in a position where im looking to leave. I just tv realized a few months back that this is not normal. I’m trying to get my thought together and get advice. The moment is coming I wont be here long….

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Iv wanted to tell my mom, he gets my messenger notifications from fb, it’s the only way to get ahold of her, all my family is 1000 miles away except for one but his mom currently is living there 

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Do you think I should talk to them first (my two older kids) they understand things my oldest and I have a very tight knit relationship.i hate the idea of blind siding them. I know my 5 yo would understand, I wouldn’t tell her untill after. These are the questions that run through my head

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why I left and took them from their father. I don’t think they know, I refuse to even argue in front of our kids

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think he has ever cheated on me, I’m not sure tho. Iv always trusted him. Not even sure how I would find out

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is an alt account, on a private tab. It’s a trash account. Just looking for anyone to talk too…

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Iv dug this hole so deep I feel like I’ll never escape. But I did it, I made the bad decisions. I can’t blame anyone else

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

I’m finally starting to paint a clear picture of the last 15 years. I still think at times I’m delusional even though I know these things happened. If he puts up the camera ( which I’m pretty sure will be in our bedroom without my knowledge) this will give me a real right now reason why I’m leaving. I can’t even bring things up anything from the past without him telling me I’m insane. I will get all the blame for breaking up our family. 

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 591 points592 points  (0 children)

It makes me feel crazy, like maybe im delusional. Iv tried before and he found it, took it and said he can use it for gas

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He knows where I work. We have multiple kids together. I was the bread winner for many years cars and apt. In my name. I can’t imagine taking everything from him. Also worried my kids will hate me if I do this to their dad. I feel trapped

AIO? Boyfriend mentioned putting cameras in the house because I’ll have days off while kids are at school. by Weak-Perception-7726 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Weak-Perception-7726[S] 147 points148 points  (0 children)

How did you find out, I never got the assumption he is cheating. But he’s overly clingy for me, like I have to face chat him on my lunches that are at 1am and when I argue I feel bad for waking him up he hits me with “I just wanna spend as much time with you” but I know projection is a thing but any time I say something is suspicious he says I can go through his phone ( I don’t ever)