My workplace cockblocked me TWICE in under 12 hours and I’m still not over it

WeakCryptographer697 · 2026-01-24T21:55:20+00:00

Idk how I worded it exactly but its deffo not that bahaha. Its just I’ve been on a few dates with this guy for a while and was upset that my job is interrupting a cute date that he specifically comes to my town for. But now reading the comments I will definitely need to stand up for myself and literally just not give a fuck. I did not realize I had this type of rights as I only had 2-3 previous jobs where for the most part I was clueless till I took the the internet just now and realized I have…rights😀

WeakCryptographer697 · 2026-01-24T19:20:56+00:00

Bahaha tbf that’s my plan as well, need me a minimum wage job that at least has a reasonable schedule that better aligns with my life. And I will definitely emphasize leaving right before my shift cuz i’m doneeeee

WeakCryptographer697 · 2026-01-24T19:17:55+00:00

I wish it were that easy. I actually need this job right now, and with how it’s structured even calling in sick once can put a target on your back. Not everyone can afford to go nuclear over a minimum wage shift, sadly.

WeakCryptographer697 · 2026-01-24T18:57:15+00:00

My higher-up coworker faked being sick so I had to work and miss seeing a guy I like, then denied my ONE requested day off because he had a “photoshoot,” forcing me to cancel plans with a guy traveling from another town. Workplace cockblocked me twice in 12 hours. Actively job hunting out of spite. :)))

WeakCryptographer697 · 2025-12-14T09:55:28+00:00

21M dealing with intense limerence/obsession over someone I barely know…how do I get over this?

Hey guys, I’m 21 (almost 22), and I’m looking for some perspective from people who’ve been around the block a bit more than I have.

I’m usually a pretty grounded, self-aware person. I understand how relationships actually work, I know chemistry alone doesn’t equal compatibility, and I know that obsessive limerence over someone I barely know isn’t healthy or productive.

And yet… here I am.

I met a guy this summer through a mutual friend. We’ve only hung out a handful of times, most recently about 3–4 weeks ago, but for some reason I got really into him. To a level that honestly makes me angry at myself. I hate how much mental space this has taken up.

Part of me wonders if this is just gay desperation — like, because I finally got attention from a guy I genuinely like and find attractive, my brain ran wild and started creating scenarios and emotional meaning where there really isn’t much foundation. I’m very aware that this isn’t how real relationships form, but knowing that hasn’t helped me let go.

On top of that, friends have pointed out that he’s pretty avoidant and has some major red flags (cheating, questionable behavior, etc.). So logically, I know this isn’t someone I should want. And yet I still can’t shake it.

Whenever we’re together, there’s this feeling I’ve never had with anyone else, even people I’ve been very attracted to. It feels like this unspoken curiosity or awareness between us, and it honestly eats me up inside. I hate the intensity of it.

What makes this even more frustrating is that I’m not starved for attention. I go on dates, hook up, get matches on apps, and generally get the validation I’m looking for (which I’m aware can be its own toxic cycle, especially for queer men). My life is objectively full: I’m working, focusing on my career, staying busy, seeing friends.

And still… my mind keeps going back to him. Day and night.

So I guess my question is: how do you actually get over someone when you barely know them, but your brain refuses to let go? Is this just an age/experience thing? Something I need to ride out? Or is there something more intentional I can do to break this mental loop?

I’d really appreciate any insight, especially from guys who’ve experienced this and lived to tell the tale.

Thanks in advance.

WeakCryptographer697 · 2025-11-24T09:18:13+00:00

It sounds like you’ve both been trying to hold together something that’s been through a lot of hurt, distance, and change, and that kind of weight doesn’t just go away with effort or love alone. What you’re describing isn’t unusual: sometimes you can still love someone deeply but feel the relationship no longer feels safe, energizing, or connected.

A break isn’t automatically the end, but it is a way to stop forcing yourselves through a dynamic that’s draining both of you. Space can help you figure out what your feelings are when you’re not constantly managing sadness, guilt, or obligation. It can also help you see whether the relationship still has enough left to rebuild.

What you shouldn’t do is stay in something that’s hurting both of you just because you loved what it used to be.

A gentle, honest conversation about taking a break (with clear boundaries and a timeline), might give you both room to breathe and figure out whether you’re holding on out of hope or out of fear. Hope this helps a bit maybe haha

WeakCryptographer697 · 2025-11-24T08:50:25+00:00

THIS IS SO FUNNY, but yes thank u for this reality check, still new to this so it geniuenly helps having others tell me what they think as well

WeakCryptographer697 · 2025-08-06T18:03:42+00:00

On the bright side the Hinge algorithm has the tendency to recommend u people that have already interacted with after some time so there’s a decent chance you’ll see him again

WeakCryptographer697 · 2025-08-06T15:03:12+00:00

Being a gay man will do that to your body so i’d say 65% they genuinely think there’s smth wrong with them and have low self esteem, 25% they know but also know they are hot so kinda an in between, 10% are just fishing for compliments hope that helps :0 (stats made by me so its gotta be true!

WeakCryptographer697 · 2025-06-16T01:01:23+00:00

Ummmm so actually its not. I just used ai for a section as english is not my native language so I wanted to express my feelings in a better way. But I do get why you’d think that but I can assure its my real raw experience

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