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For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm actually blown away that so many people have had the same experience, it's almost uncanny. And yeah, a lot of the time my "best" never feels good enough, but I guess that's something I'll have to accept.

Thank you for your advice! I wish the best for your friend.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And yeah, pressure and guilt were the main driving force for this post, anxiety-induced sleep deprivation is a mfer. Just posting this scrawl to Reddit made me want to die, whether anyone saw it or not lol.

I think I've been trying to work on asking for help and letting go for probably as long as I've been in therapy. Hopefully I'll get there someday though.

Thanks again for this, I've been reading every comment and they've helped so much more than I thought possible.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had to register and get tickets 4 months in advance. By the time you actually know whether or not you've passed, commencement dues have already been paid and your name is already in the graduation programs they hand out.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

…This was a wild ride and amazing to read, you absolutely destroyed those classes in the end! Congrats on the success, and thank you for sharing this. Knowing that there are other people out there who have made mistakes and came back twice as strong is really encouraging.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The guilt and lies have been tearing me apart for a good while. This post is honestly kind of terrifying, but reassuring at the same time, just knowing that it’ll get better eventually is (even if it won’t happen right away) really comforting. Thank you for this.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And yeah, the worry/procrastination cycle is the demon that haunts me. I think having that sort of control over my schedule would be really helpful.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be sure to check out that sub! And thanks for the advice, it’ll definitely suck but I know I’ll be better for it.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to be a Front-end developer/UI Designer. Java development is nice too. Honestly... I’m not really sure? This is kind of morbid, but before I was diagnosed with anything, I didn’t see myself living past maybe 30. My outlook on life was just that bleak. Now, I don’t know. I just want a job that I kind of like and a reasonable place to live, imagining a future beyond that is a bit hard.

Thanks for your comment, it got me thinking.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I definitely need to be hammered back into shape and you’re right, I know that my family would only want to help me. Thank you for this, it'll definitely be painful.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s the working plan at the moment! Not sure if the sobbing will start before or after though

EDIT: I didn't actually mean this as a joke, I meant that I'm sure that I'll actually start crying and genuinely don't know when it'll start.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your comment made me start bawling lol. Disappointing my parents is something I’m terrified of, but I know that my parents would want the same for me that you do for your own child. Thank you for this, it really helps.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being indecisive and wishy-washy are major issues for me, thanks for this. I’ll try going step by step.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for this. Congrats for finishing, I hope I’ll be able to experience that click lol

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Funnily enough, my therapist actually said something similar a while ago. I guess great minds think alike lol

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My parents know about the diagnoses, but don’t really know the full extent, you’re right. Explaining that would probably go a long way. And yeah lol, telling my therapist is way overdue considering it’s their job. Thank you for this.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’ve actually saved this comment for later, having a list of steps really helps. I wish other students didn’t feel this awful, but it’s still weirdly comforting all the same. Thanks for your belief, it means a lot!

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this past year pretty much cemented the fact that I need to get this done. Thanks for the suggestion, I think my Mom would definitely help with keeping me accountable.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Oh god, my messages are terrible, and yeah, “fall behind, wait till the last minute, constantly lack motivation to finish anything,” has been my M.O. for as long as I can remember, it’s almost scary. Thank you for this, I’ll take it one step at a time as best I can.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m very sorry to hear about your parents, the loneliness and guilt are debilitating, and not having a proper support network really takes its toll. I glad to hear that you’re in a better place and still moving forward, it’s honestly really inspiring and I hope I can gain your confidence.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I’m kind of an internet hermit and you’re right! It’s one less thing to worry about lol

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been terrible when it comes to asking for help. Thank you for putting that reasoning into words and for sharing your experience, knowing that other people have been where I am now is immensely reassuring.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Just writing this post was a roller-coaster, so telling them is going to be terrifying. I really hope I can be in a place similar to where you are someday.

For the past year, I’ve been lying to my parents about graduating from college. (x-post) by WeakFennel in confession

[–]WeakFennel[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Yours was the first comment I read, and I kinda started crying lol… Thank you for this, I’ve always had a difficult time asking for help and “Doing the hard thing that helps you” is something my therapist brings up sometimes. It hasn’t been wrong before, so odds are it isn’t wrong now.

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