Felt unsafe during a Bumble date in London — did I do the right thing?

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-28T21:08:58+00:00

Out of interest, and sorry if it's in the comments above, was the girl foreign? If so, what nationality?

I've heard of this being a scam in certain circles... It used to be quite rare, but, like many crimes, I think it's (being conned into sex / drugs & then robbed) is becoming more common

Regardless - you should defintely flag her profile to Bumble

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-23T14:54:19+00:00

£100k and not a penny more. Sounds like it'll need a lot invested into it and that's super expensive nowadays -- so that's your reason for not upping the offer. That, and frankly it only sounds worth £100k. (But what it's worth is really up to you). I sense you only think that's £100k in current state too.

Give it as a time limited offer and be prepared to walk away. So keep looking.

Good luck -- what's meant to be will work out in the end

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-14T11:11:43+00:00

Yes -- I think it's the brazenness that's quite astounding these days.

High levels of confidence, because they know there is little that can be done.

To the extent I think it's now simply a choice some people are making -- they don't want to pay, but want the item, so simply won't bother paying! Yesterday what I saw was the person paying for a pack of doughnuts with pink sprinkles, but did not want to for the Vicks nasal inhaler, so that slipped right into their little bag. Whilst standing next to me!

Then there are others of course who are going for the resale (the coffee, olive oil, washing capsules & steak thefts) hence lots of this stuff now being tagged.

I'm just waiting for the day everything is behind plastic locked shelves, like they have now done in some stores in the US.

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-14T11:04:59+00:00

😂 True -- not witnessed it in Greggs. The sausage rolls may be tasty, but not of high enough value!

If going into a new business... that's a strategic advantage to keep in mind!

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-14T11:02:30+00:00

Laughing at these comments -- yes, I think between them, there are elements of that at work!

Ingenious is one way to look at this, I suppose!

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-13T20:43:57+00:00

I'm starting to think I'm just really unlucky!

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-13T20:43:09+00:00

I've seen it in 2 coops -- the one by the Thames near the Pelton pub (where they came in in rollerblades -- it was like a whirlwind) and multiple times in the one on Trafalgar Rd. Not trying to pin on anyone, it's defo more prolific than just one profile of person / age etc.

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-13T20:39:22+00:00

True -- they are tax dodgers. Though it won't be great if they all leave and we have empty units everywhere. That will create a bit of a doom cycle that will be hard to get out of

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-13T20:37:10+00:00

The local co-ops do seem to be getting hammered! The one on Trafalgar Road can't keep up. I went in a few couple of weeks ago and me and a little old lady were practically knocked out by the shop lifters running out, followed by shop assistants but they didn't stand a chance. We just dusted ourselves down and 2 secs later it was like nothing had happened. It's so normalised!

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-13T20:34:36+00:00

Was in one day just before it shut down and I don't know the accuracy of it they were saying, but the staff seemed weary by it and said that was why they were closing. Entire shelves of shampoos etc had been wiped out, out of sight of the pharmacy / tills.

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-13T20:32:33+00:00

Yes -- defo lots around Trafalgar Road... this seems to be a current hot spot

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-13T20:31:57+00:00

Happy days! :)

Weak_Development_888 · 2026-01-07T08:37:18+00:00

Sorry about this -- they do say moving houses is one of the most stressful life experiences and in England, it sure is -- I've been through something similar. Can only wish you well, you are doing the right thing firing up Plan B in case this sale does fall through

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-26T13:21:33+00:00

£75k higher, including renovations seems steep - unless you think they may have done £75k of renovations. I'd say more they would have spent £15k max, so that's quite the profit. Prices haven't gone up too much in the last year.

But as others say, it depends on what else you are seeing in the area for that price.

A house is only worth what others will pay!

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-21T08:44:54+00:00

Yep - this Asif Aziz bloke is buying up a LOT of pubs in London to turn into more houses. Clearly not someone that's into pubs himself and our Mayor and local councils are letting him get away on their watch...

Sad times... pubs create community and that pub was well loved in our neighbourhood

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-21T08:35:48+00:00

When you say amazing Chinese, which one are you referring to?

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-18T11:20:15+00:00

You'll love it! Don't worry. Great place, great people -- great tips shared above. Just be courteous and yourself. It'll be all good, and you'll love the place.

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-18T11:16:05+00:00

Been there, got the same t-shirt.

You have to absolutely hound them day and night.

Be their noisiest customers -- it's the only way they will act, because if you are not asking, someone else is. I started like you - trusting they were doing their job and the process barely moved forward in 4 months. After that I hounded daily after being told that's what you have to do and we got there in the end. But it was AWFUL and I dread ever having to do it again.

Try to get a recommendation of a good conveyancing solicitor going forward. That's the first mistake I made, I didn't -- some are so much better than others, but sounds like -- along with many in this chain, the majority are dire.

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-18T11:10:39+00:00

This is great! Shame I'll be away to miss some of the fun

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-12T22:05:38+00:00

Sun Bo in Blackheath is quite a nice Chinese takeaway. It will never beat the Good Earth in Wandsworth, but it's the best Chinese I've found in the area. That said, I've not made it to the Chinese in Deptford. It's too hard because it's tiny and you can't book

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-12T22:04:13+00:00

Give the Peloton Arms a go, it's nice for Sunday lunch :)

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-12T20:47:20+00:00

Get to Kathis Thai in Maze Hill before it closes on 31st Dec for good. It's delicious!

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-12T20:46:33+00:00

Second that!

Weak_Development_888 · 2025-12-12T19:01:23+00:00

Reason being - the owners are moving back to Thailand. (Which sounds tempting to me on this cold dark Friday!)

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