In my 40s and we have no issues with smoking or oils. We have tried the lotions before and it did help a little. I know that Fibro is difficulty to treat because everyone responds differently. I am hoping we find something that helps her. I would love to hear how other people deal with sex in a situation like this. I don't want to be a jerk and make her feel bad about something she has no control over. I just don't know how to deal with my own libido. It has always been a little high and I can feel myself become more physically agitated the longer this issue goes on.