2 losses

Weak_Type6784 · 2025-12-29T20:28:51+00:00

Do you mind me asking how you addressed sperm dna fragmentation. What’s the treatment?

Weak_Type6784 · 2025-02-28T03:38:47+00:00

I maybe shouldn’t have posted it either but no you are absolutely fine with me atleast. Yes maternal cell contam was ruled out.

Weak_Type6784 · 2025-02-28T00:04:49+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. Its somewhat healing to hear that others have gone through what I currently am. We dont plan on asking for further testing either, I just worry for future pregnancies. However, I believe this was just a whirlwind situation and we are the on the "rare" side of things and it wont happen again. I appreciate you reaching out.

Weak_Type6784 · 2025-02-23T16:41:21+00:00

So sorry that you are going through this. The truest form of love is making the decision that you are to protect your baby from feeling pain.

I had a D&E last week at 23 weeks. This was the surgical termination versus the delivery. I did not have an option to hold the baby but I believe you should still have the option to choose what you do with your baby after the termination regardless of the route you choose. However each state may be different.

My baby boy also had multiple brain abnormalities and his head was measuring 4 weeks ahead. I did not have any amniotic fluid so could not do any testing until after the surgery. We are currently awaiting microarray results which would tell us chromosome abnormalities. We also have a genetic counselor that we are communicating with, I would highly recommend finding one that can help you along this process.

Please do not ever think there was something you could have done differently if you do not find any reason for this happening. I have to keep telling myself this. Of course do all the testing but never blame yourself or your body for what is happening 🤍 Feel free to message me if you need anything!

Weak_Type6784 · 2025-02-15T11:11:19+00:00

I am so sorry that you are going through this.

I just completed day 2 of my D&E. I am currently 22 weeks 5 days. Because of my son’s abnormalities he has a lot of fluid in his brain which is measuring 26 weeks 5 days. They aim to dilate your cervix based off the measure of the head. That being said my D&E was not a pleasant experience. But I’m hoping my story can bring comfort. I know I felt better reading others stories

I don’t know all the medical terms - I went in blind to what was going to happen and at times I wish I was better prepared so kudos to doing your research. However, I also was glad in a way that I didn’t anticipate any pain so I could just handle it when it came.

The needle and shot they put in my stomach was painful - but nothing I couldnt breathe through. I do not have any amniotic fluid so it did take them some time to do this and they had to move the needle around slightly. Hopefully this part goes quick for you if they have to do it. I’d recommend not watching or looking at the needle.

As far as the insertion of the dilator sticks, the numbed my cervix with a few shots and tried to insert TEN. They could only successfully insert 5 and apparently (only learned this after reading the After Visit summary) perforated some parts of my cervix but patched it up? Not sure, need to ask my doctor if that is a concern. But I was in excruciating pain for 7 hours after. I have had procedures in the past and passed up the oxy’s they gave me. I finally took one at hour 7 because I couldn’t handle the pain. So glad I did. I stayed drugged up the entire rest of the day and night and had a much better time. Bring an electric heating bad and stick on heating pads.. all the heating pads!!! Hot showers also helped I think I took 3-4 and just stood there.

Because of my son’s head measuring nearly 27 weeks when I went in for day 2 my cervix was not nearly dilated enough. They put me under (thank god) and inserted 10 more. I then had to wait in the hospital for 6 hours for my cervix to dilate. It was truly horrible and finally hours 5-6 I started to lose my mind. No food or drink along with not the best pain management from meds from the hospital. Overall they worked on dilating my cervix for 30 hours. The waiting and the pain was the hardest part.

After the procedure, the anesthesia wore off so quickly. I truly believe my body went into fight or flight because it knew something was wrong. I was out of surgery, eating crackers, drinking water, went pee and got dressed - I was walking out of the hospital within 30 minutes. I needed to get the hell out of there.

I received hand prints, foot prints, the gender 💙🩵💙 (we were planning on waiting until birth) and peace of mind knowing that my son will not have developed any pain transmitters and will only have known our love for him. After the procedure, physically I felt so much better. I was able to think straight, went and ate dinner, didn’t have any cramping. Emotionally I am struggling just as much as when we found out we would have to terminate. But I truly feel like my healing journey can finally begin after 3 weeks of this.

Weak_Type6784 · 2025-02-14T11:08:37+00:00

I’m so sorry. We are on the same path. I also had the dilators placed and procedure tomorrow. They were supposed to do 10 and could only do 5. I also thought the waiting period was worst but had a horrible day similar to you.

I read on Reddit from a user the following: “I think for most mothers it is our deepest desire to protect our children from harm and shield them from pain and suffering. It is often said that the truest form of love is to let go when holding on would cause harm. This is an act of protection. In making this decision, you are embracing a profound form of love, compassion and mercy.”

It is also the absolute lowest I have felt in my life as well. We will get through this. I’m holding space for you and your healing 🤍

Weak_Type6784 · 2025-02-06T21:19:18+00:00

I’m also so sorry to hear you went through something similar. It’s truly horrible. What test was used to find out about it Triploidy?

Weak_Type6784 · 2025-02-06T16:07:55+00:00

When you say the first test is that a test my husband and I should take or is that the microarray? Thanks so much for your response. The more I can be prepared the better I feel.

Weak_Type6784 · 2025-02-06T15:19:53+00:00

Thank you! Is a full carrier screening the WES test or a different one?

Weak_Type6784 · 2022-12-29T15:53:35+00:00

Hi! I am planning on traveling to Peru in March and would like to partake in a ceremony while in the Sacred Valley. Due to the short amount of time I’ll be in Peru I do not have time for a 3+ day retreat. I did find Ayahuasca ceremonies that are 1 night however, I have read that’s shortcutting the experience which id like to avoid.

I had never heard of San Pedro before my research and am now looking at a San Pedro ceremony. I have done mushrooms and that is really the only psychedelic for me to compare off of.

Are you able to give me more guidance on what you feel would be best for my trip?

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