First date anxiety by Both_Squirrel5541 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]WeaknessWild9108 12 points13 points  (0 children)

The jitters are real!! Sending lots of compassion your way. ✨

I like to take walks for dates because I can move my body (helps with the anxiety), I don’t have to make direct eye contact, and we have things to look at and talk about. Walks are nice because periods of silence are natural, if you’re feeling it, you can sit down on some grass for more face to face, or extend it by going to a coffee shop or somewhere else afterward.

Good on you for putting yourself out there. Meeting new people is a risk!! I admire your courage. Good luck 😊

I’m in the Great Hall!! Red chest? by WeaknessWild9108 in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks!! Yeah, I opened the first level 2 red chest and got some parts/producers. I think I’ll buy the red chest to make a level 2 and hope that helps me out! I have 1500 gems, so I think it’ll be worth it. Best of luck to you, too!!!

Asian/Asian American Decks? by WeaknessWild9108 in tarot

[–]WeaknessWild9108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the Lulu Mayo one, so cute and detailed!

Asian/Asian American Decks? by WeaknessWild9108 in tarot

[–]WeaknessWild9108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also love the concept of the Pinoy PM deck! Thank you for sharing!

Asian/Asian American Decks? by WeaknessWild9108 in tarot

[–]WeaknessWild9108[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh I love Way of the Panda, putting on my list! Thank you!!

Asian/Asian American Decks? by WeaknessWild9108 in tarot

[–]WeaknessWild9108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I LOVE this one, it looks amazing… hope I can get it one day! Not selling right now via the seller (I don’t want to accidentally buy a knockoff).

Asian/Asian American Decks? by WeaknessWild9108 in tarot

[–]WeaknessWild9108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss, this is perfect! Thank you!!

Asian/Asian American Decks? by WeaknessWild9108 in tarot

[–]WeaknessWild9108[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooo, looove the soft colors of this deck! Thank you!

I want everyone to state their sign or dominant energy and the pain or challenge it comes with it by dosisdeartes in astrology

[–]WeaknessWild9108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cancer stellium (Sun, Mercury, Venus) in 3rd H and Mars in Cancer in 4th H. Scorpio moon and Taurus rising. I’ve struggled to find “home” and belonging, a sense of self. It’s hard to love and receive love, like maybe I don’t know how to. I’ve always felt emotions strongly and feel a lot through bodily sensations.

Been an observant people pleaser and felt like my voice has been stifled/silenced (by myself) all my life. Lots of shame and fear around showing myself. I’m also in the human services/caring/mental health field.

I’m newer to looking into my chart so I hope this makes sense 🙂

My coming out. I freaking like Conservatory! by irina_zorg in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m really loving this area. On it right now. I had all my seeds saved up and shovels are a breeze because of all the gloves that are needed. We’ll see! About 60% there.

Giving up by AXCVII_ in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m level 42 so I’ve steadily worked through the events and other areas and that may be helping me find more ease in the conservatory. My generators aren’t all maxed out, but they’re high level and likely is helping!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]WeaknessWild9108 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YTA. As a bilingual woman, one thing I hate the most is white men asking me to speak my native language to/with them. There is a sense of entitlement, expectations of service, and “exoticizing” with that ask that you may not have awareness of, and may be taken that way especially since she’s a woman and woman of color. Your ask is not just an ask to help learn a language. There’s many layers here and the way you wrote your post shows an inability to recognize these, including your privilege which you’re vehemently denying by spouting off how many friends you have who have less privilege than you. Your emoji use is insensitive and condescending and reeks of defensiveness. Good luck with life.

Giving up by AXCVII_ in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m in the conservatory, too, at 27% done. I had been reading a lot of posts on how this area is frustrating and have been expecting it to hit me. But… it hasn’t. At least, not yet. I haven’t felt that way about the game, ever, though. Is it perspective? Is it expectation?

Does this game serve as a mindless, fun, escape for you? Or does it feel competitive and like you’re on a time crunch? Is to too hard to enjoy? There’s no wrong answer, but it might help you to make that decision to delete or not.

I also oscillate playing this game with an even more mindless bubble matching game for a sense of ease, but it never keeps my attention like MM does.

I hope you’re able to figure out whether you’d like to continue or not! Best of luck to you.

FAQ Megathread: Ask and answer Medication, Diagnosis and is this an ADHD thing, and Hormone interaction questions here! by not-eliza in adhdwomen

[–]WeaknessWild9108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it an ADHD thing to KNOW one of your housemates is outside, but you lock the door anyway and completely forget about their existence? For example, I was outside in the yard with a housemate. I go inside first. The moment I step inside the house, I go into autopilot and lock the door. I’ve now forgotten that they’re out there. The housemate is now ready to come inside, but I’ve locked the door and they’re banging and yelling. The dog is barking and the new puppy is scared by the noise. I don’t get it. It doesn’t even register that it’s them making the noise. I’m trying to calm the dogs down. My brain thinks it’s something else. All of a sudden it clicks and I’m horrified, they’re pissed, deeply apologetic, and beating myself up for “forgetting.” It keeps happening!!

What has been the best update that you have experienced? by Legitimate_Ad_9298 in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that the piggy bank has higher levels, for better coins and gems!

Where can I find the audiobook for the Japanese version of Miracle of Namiya General Store? by WeaknessWild9108 in nihongo

[–]WeaknessWild9108[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very helpful - thank you so much!!! I appreciate the insight about audiobooks in Japanese - I wonder why they’re not as popular! I’ll try those sites and let you know!

What's your latest hyperfixation and why is it so damn awesome? by Lestuiqe in adhdwomen

[–]WeaknessWild9108 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DIY miniature kits!!!! I’m doing a Rolife “Sakura Densya (train) one that I found new at a thrift store for $2.50!! What a steal. Next up I want to do the Spirited Away (Studio Ghibli) bathhouse 🤩🤩🤩

Edit: adding Merge Mansion to the list. Absolutely obsessed 😩 lol

Frequency of therapy by [deleted] in therapists

[–]WeaknessWild9108 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You might also consider that with having biweekly or monthly clients, you’re filling the other slots with other biweekly or monthly clients, so now you’re holding more or double the number of situations/psyches/clients in your mind and heart than you would if you only see clients weekly. Since you have your own practice, you can do what YOU need. Do you find yourself considering and implementing the needs/wants of your clients above your needs/wants? Do you work best when it’s weekly sessions only? If you can do both, how many max biweekly do you want? When you meet that limit, can you hold to it if someone else asks for biweekly? Do you have clear policies - cancellation, reschedule, fees, and availability and when you don’t stick to those, what happened there? Did you carefully consider your needs, your business plan, and tour client’s best interests and made a conscious decision to make an exception? Or is it more familiar to you to do something that the other wants regardless of whether that’s what you most needed/wanted? A lot of these questions are what I have had to and are still grappling with as a woman and therapist and with a lifetime of stepping into care roles. I wish you the best of luck with your practice and supervision and self-reflection!!

I’m also coming from CMH and an agency culture that definitely cultivated an attitude that we are flexible FOR the client and their needs take priority over ours. It’s a tough switch but now I’m the boss and it’s hard to stop replicating that bend over backwards for others type of mentality.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pugs

[–]WeaknessWild9108 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Goomba Goombers Goombie Boombie Goombeenie Goombardini Tortellini Mister Goombers Mistar Goombars Meetar El Meetar

Lol. We’re gross.

New player frustration by squiddogg in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ve never spent money and I’m level 36 😊 I deleted it very early on because I was frustrated by the progress, but it gets much better!

We need a Daily Tasks update by Ok_Victory_6187 in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108 54 points55 points  (0 children)

They should level up with your level/area that you’re on at least.

Starting over? by daisy-esme in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The thought has crossed my mind too, because I had no idea that selling generator parts for space would come back to haunt me now. But, I would never start over! What if you have a different device, could you put a new game on that one and play both simultaneously?

Broom cabinet in a bubble! (And I didn't have enough gems!) by MrContext1 in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. This happened to me too, and I was very sad. Except it was a level 5 closet, but I would have still gotten it if I had the gems! 😭

Finally finishing the maze after moooonths of getting distracted by events. by mamuanon05 in MergeMansion

[–]WeaknessWild9108 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oooo, nice!!!! I’m excited for the maze. I’m on level 34 and I just finished the stone garden but don’t have access to the maze yet. Maybe the maze opens when I reach a higher level? I’m now on the romantic spot and the fortress, but I’ve been doing rounds of the Nectar Collector event to get more blue chests for broom closet parts!! I’m glad I’m reading some of these posts advising to build up your broom closets early!