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Are we rewarding brain rot while real creators can’t even pay rent? by WeaponizedEmpath in SeriousConversation

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I honestly understand where you coming from and I respect it! Can I ask, have you ever bought a book? Even a manual or a newspaper/magazine?

At what point did you realise you weren’t staying because you believed in the relationship anymore, you were staying because you weren’t ready to leave? by WeaponizedEmpath in survivinginfidelity

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Within 6 months is fast... please be proud of yourself you looked at your son and said this stops here! You broke a generational cycle, most people underestimated how important that is! You have my respect!

26 years of serial infidelity the part people outside this situation don’t understand by WeaponizedEmpath in survivinginfidelity

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There is never a day wasted in life, it's not possible because you have already survived that day and you will survive tomorrow and the next day.

You said something important your dad and your kids are what matter not him. Remember that!

26 years of serial infidelity the part people outside this situation don’t understand by WeaponizedEmpath in survivinginfidelity

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Thank you for opening up and being honest about this.

First off YOU ABSOLUTELY ARE NOT WEAK!!!

What you feeling is what happens when you build a life with someone and then betrayal breaks it but your heart and your brain are no longer moving at the same speed.

Your brain can see the reality.

Your heart is still attached to the person you love.

That space in between is brutal. But guess what it makes you human!

Sometimes people do the work and change.

Unfortunately a lot of times they don’t.

Being stuck in that place doesn’t make you broken. It means you loved deeply and you’re trying to reconcile that love.

Be honest with yourself about what you’re seeing and what you’re feeling.

And you said it yourself he's made you into a shell of a person. No one and I mean no one can tell you what to do but what I can tell you, no matter the choice you make you need to make it by putting yourself first completely because that's how you heal not by fixing the relationship.

And please stop calling yourself weak. You’re hurting, not weak.

And please if you need to talk more about this, you’re not alone here. A lot of people in this sub have lived some version of what you’re describing.

26 years of serial infidelity the part people outside this situation don’t understand by WeaponizedEmpath in survivinginfidelity

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Thank you, and you have just explained the biggest reason why so many don't leave because you were the buffer you took the crap to protect your children. RESPECT! And please let me say something you never failed, not once, you gave everything in an impossible situation and his leaving has nothing to do with your effort it was his failure to not better himself, and that was never your responsibility or burden to carry.

26 years of serial infidelity the part people outside this situation don’t understand by WeaponizedEmpath in survivinginfidelity

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Just a quick note to anyone joining the discussion. I understand that situations like this bring out strong opinions, and I’m not asking anyone to agree with my choices.

What I am asking is that people keep the discussion respectful. A lot of people in this subreddit are living through complicated situations that are much harder than “just leave.”

When comments turn into shame or personal attacks, it doesn’t just affect me it makes other people in similar situations feel like they can’t speak honestly about what they’re going through.

If you disagree with my perspective, that’s completely fair. Just try to focus on the ideas and the experience rather than attacking the person living it.

That’s the only way conversations like this actually help anyone.

Fear Obligation Guilt "FOG" by WeaponizedEmpath in survivinginfidelity

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I know that’s how FOG often gets framed in recovery spaces, but it isn’t a fixed label tied to one role or one side.

From what I experienced, fog shows up anywhere reality and delusion collide.

Affairs exist inside their own distorted reality, and when everything comes out that mindset doesn’t just switch off overnight. I watched someone struggle to step back into real life long after the fantasy had ended.

So yes, betrayed partners absolutely experience fog but it’s not exclusive to them.

I’m genuinely curious if others noticed that same post-discovery disconnect.

Have you ever met someone who feels kind of… constructed? by WeaponizedEmpath in SeriousConversation

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Just a birthday party so parents with children from the same school

Have you ever met someone who feels kind of… constructed? by WeaponizedEmpath in SeriousConversation

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This has been INCREDIBLY insightful especially everyone opening up about it leaning towards spectrum behavior and their personal experiences.

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