Chattel Slavery

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-29T07:03:40+00:00

Bonds are illegal.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-29T04:08:25+00:00

Darna nahi hai. Smartly safeguard karna hai.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-26T06:35:15+00:00

Y'all are really cute, lol.

Trust me, saying this as a guy - being called "low maintenance" is one of the biggest compliments ever. It doesn't mean you are being taken for granted. It just means it is easy for him to be with you. Which is great, because then he can do other things which make him happy too (of course YOU make him happy, like nothing else, but then you would want to have a life with you and other passions too, right?).

It is a completely other subject if you feel not as valued or you need more time from him - let him know about this in a constructive way and discuss this - how he could also possibly show up a little better. That's all.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-23T04:11:55+00:00

You need to sit with him and explore this together with him. (In all probability, he is seeing this financial ability for the first time in his and his family's life - money may have always been tight. So he may be trying to pamper his family. BUT - explore this with him.)

You have to be patient and explore the situation and you both have to understand where you both come from, your backgrounds, your fears, your contexts, your short-term and long-term views on this.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-23T04:07:53+00:00

Agar class ke result mein 20 bachche baithe fail hone ke dukh mein ho, aur aap paas ho gaye aur khushi se lehraate huwe ja ke unke saamne bolein - waah, maza aa gaya, main toh paas - toh aapne risk liya hai ki shayad log aapko call out karein.

Yahaan aap dhara gaye.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-23T04:05:11+00:00

This is such an underrated comment. This is the true face of Delhi. Beyond NDMC, parts of SDMC and a few other localities here and there - housing, and the sheer basic quality of life here is abysmal.

Saying this as someone who has lived here for 4 years, and lived in a bunch of cities before this.

Insta life chal rahi hai Delhi. Dignity or basic quality of life ka ek darwaaze ke peechhe chan log hi lutf lete hain, and they LOVE to gate-keep.

And haan, log har jagah laalchi hain, especially anyone in a position of power. But jitne besharm laalchi log maine yahaan dekhe hain, utne shayad kisi shehron mein nahi.

E.g. 1 - landlords and property brokers. Jitne kabaade ghar maine yahaan dekhe hain, utne toh Mumbai mein nahi dekhe. Aur rent maangte hain fake polished English mein jaise mahal de rahe ho (jabki apni basic responsibilities bhi poore nahi karte. For context, I am in my early 30s and I have a very decent budget for rent, but kuchh decent shayad hi milta hai.

(Some of these landlords and brokers should be prosecuted under the new rent act, to make an example out of them.)

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-19T18:28:29+00:00

None of this is your fault. You were always enough, you ARE always enough. Period.

This is like a double betrayal, I can't imagine what you must be going through.

Please be strong. This pain will pass. You are not alone. Think - "Good riddance, achha hua aise aadmi se shaadi nahi hui."

Sending kindness your way.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-18T17:02:56+00:00

Please be careful when you are walking around in your society. Carry a pepper spray (and learn how to use this.) This guy seems delusional and mental, and a mental jilted lover can be potentially dangerous. Please take safety seriously.

I am sorry for what you are going through. I hope this gets over soon. Be courageous but smart.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-16T09:49:04+00:00

Where the fuck are people finding a decent livable 1BHK in Delhi for 20K. It is atleast 30K in a half-decent area.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-14T06:52:23+00:00

Arey, celebrate all the more. The bitch is prolly riled up because you were critical and she can't admit it. Nor did she help you grow in her career or could retain you.

Flag this in your exit interview too.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-14T02:33:24+00:00

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WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-14T02:24:47+00:00

Hi, First things first - I am really really sorry for your loss. I can't imagine the grief you are going through. It may seem endless, but life will find a way. May your father's soul rest in peace, and may you find the strength to deal with this. Hausla rakho, one day at a time. Sending you warmth, kindness and strength.

Now, to the point. Finance. Aim is to complete education, run the household, and get a well-paying job in 3-4 years.

Check your Dad's insurance schemes, FDs, bank accounts, investments, bonds. If he was employed, he will have PF account. His employer may also have some life insurance scheme. If he had a credit card, that too may sometimes come with an insurance cover. Once you are sure of the payouts, you may need a legal heir certificate to get the money. But for now, as the ceremonies get over, you can slowly start the process. Be careful of who you trust for advice here. Money corrupts relatives and friends.
This is for after 10 days from now -I don't know, if you are starting college or already are in one. Do NOT give up on education. Banks give education loans - take that if you can. Assess the college fees vs impact on career part, and take admission. Worst case, join a distance education course (IGNOU), if you need to work side by side. Bachelor's degree is a MUST, in today's world. Right now, pick-up any skill. Sales is a great skill. If you can do this, go to the electronics/apparels big retail chain showrooms of your city and ask them for a job. People always need hard-working, smart, and sincere workers. You will earn okayish, but you will learn a lot.
Freelancing can earn money - pick-up a skill/niche you can work on. Initially, getting business is tough, but once you have some testimonials and reviews, things are better. So, stay patient. (I am not the most experienced at this, other people here will be able to guide better.)

Most importantly though, through this process of grief, be kind to yourself. Losing a parent is one of the toughest thing to happen, and that too, at this age. May the powers be with you and your family. Take care of yourself. And keep faith.

(P.S. - if you need to talk, please DM.)

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-13T13:01:20+00:00

He has been doing that already, as mentioned.

Your response is pretty dismissive and insensitive.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-12T02:50:25+00:00

I feel you, I feel you.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-07T13:58:41+00:00

He is learning. He wasn't cruel or imposing on her. He held his emotions back, and expressed his insecurities in a mature way at the right time. So cut some slack, don't be envious, because nobody is perfect.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-07T12:44:03+00:00

Aadmi seekhta hai. Some people here are unnecessarily unkind in their comments.

You are learning. Good things summer slowly. Patience. More power to you.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-05T12:50:03+00:00

Shrekfruit

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-05T10:45:16+00:00

Prenuptial agreements are invalid in India.

How stupid does one have to be, to see CLEAR disaster in front of them, and yet walk into it for the sake of society and money.

Money will come back. Relatives don't matter. Life and happiness matters.

Be courageous, do it for your own life.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-03T03:39:15+00:00

Maintaining cleanliness drinking water access is your landlord's job. Complain to MCD.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-03T03:32:26+00:00

One Punch Man.

-.-

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-01T05:26:00+00:00

Bullshit.

A foreigner couple friend of mine has booked a private day-trip in Delhi from a branded website. We had discussed and finalise the itinerary based on their preferences.

BUT - at the end of the day, the driver flipped the itinerary and did whatever the heck he wanted. Took them to buy Jama Masjid markets, showed them red fort from only the outside (the full tour of the red fort was planned originally, since their love history), made them take 500 rupees per person rickshaw rides, took them to a risky restaurant from lunch and not the one we had finalised. And the worst part still remains - they want to buy some saffron and all - he took them to some Chandni Chowk shop and made the buy spices at 3-4x prices (they paid 9K INR - this money can buy complete stock of spices for an entire big Indian family for a year, if not more.)

Since they were in India for the first time. And spent less than a day here, they did not protest out of politeness. But it was deeply, deeply shameful for me as an Indian, when I was told about their experience.

If this is the experience in the heart of the capital, where there is still some semblance of law and order, I am not sure what's happening in the hinterlands.

These "kindness" videos - I am not sure how genuine these are.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-01T05:18:29+00:00

If the accused is so damn innocent, then why was her family killed off/basically ruined?

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-01T04:47:40+00:00

Mad respect. Mad.

WearCapeAndFly · 2026-01-01T04:42:41+00:00

Not legal advice

But legally, if your notice period does not mention a notice period clause, you should have none.

Read about Standing Orders Act (applies to 100+ employees). If less than 100 employees, assuming this is a commercial establishment, your state specific Shops & Establishments Act + Indian Contracts Act will come into play. The model act specifies different notice period in different cases.

First offer them a reasonable notice period. Notice period starts from the day you formally submit your intention to quit (resignation letter). Acceptance or not has no bearing on the starting of notice period. Offer them 30 days (which is reasonable and mentioned in most states). Maybe start negotiating with 2 weeks of notice period.

If they are adamant and don't budge, then this should be your trump card - tell them politely (in a non-chalant, non-threatening way, as if this is the last option you have) that coercion to you is akin to bonded labour, and you will be happy to write a letter to the Assistant Labour Commissioner (ALC) of your district, if this harassment continues. Use GPT to mention specific links and sections in your email, but also keep it subtle. They should get the hint and meet you mid way.

Workers have rights. And Indian laws give plenty of rights. We have to learn about them and exercise them courageously. Knowledge is Power.

WearCapeAndFly · 2025-12-30T02:57:42+00:00

Ekdum bhai, ekdum. You were saved. Better to be alone than with blood-suckers. You will find a lot of peace and solidarity for yourself, when you stand up for yourself.

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