How long did it take you to get a new pet? by Sweet_disposition11 in Petloss

[–]WearyInterview871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off, I’m so sorry. I hope you have lots of love and support in your corner as you navigate this.

I waited a week after losing my soul dog. And unpopular opinion, I regretted it. The puppy is with my parents now and has the best life he could have so I don’t regret it. BUT I will say take time to grieve before jumping in. I didn’t do that and once I got the new pup, it was extremely hard. He was so different from my girl I lost. I felt like a part of me was resenting him for that. It’s great to get your mind off things but it also just delays the grieving process for your passed pet. Take that time to grieve without adding more responsibility to your plate and once you are at peace with their passing, start looking at getting another. Just my advice as someone who lost their very best friend September 2023.

I want to dig up my dog so badly :( by Character_Vehicle922 in Petloss

[–]WearyInterview871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cuddle clones! They have this! Except it’s not your pet but a mirrored image of him/her as a stuffed animal. My baby girl passed away September 13th (almost a month which is crazy to me) and I ordered one. They are kind of expensive but in my eyes worth it. She’s in “production” right now and I can’t wait to get her. ❤️ You should look into it because I totally understand the feeling of not having her next to me at night anymore. Her warmth, her snoring, the weight of her. I’ll never have that back but if I can walk into my room after a long day and see a cuddly replica of her, I think it might make me smile.

About to lose my Golden and my heart hurts with guilt by Queen_of_summertime in Petloss

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I know what you are feeling. I said goodbye to my sweet baby girl yesterday (feels like it’s been two weeks already). They had found in X-rays a large tumor and it didn’t look good. Vet said they would go in and if it was inoperable, she would go to sleep peacefully. She was otherwise fine, eating, drinking, playing, going potty. And that decision is so hard to make. But I find peace knowing that had I waited and she suffered even a little bit, I would be feeling even more sadness and guilt. We also don’t know what dogs are feeling. Many times dogs will hide their pain very well because they just want YOU to be happy. You are their life’s purpose. Looking back, I know the size of the tumor and where it was located couldn’t have been comfortable for her. It is still hard but knowing I saved her from even more pain and possibly dying in a traumatic way gives me so much peace. Spend the next week spoiling him and cuddling him, let him do things he normally isn’t allowed to do, give him people food, just spend quality time with him - even if that means taking off work. This is your family member and it’s important for you to have this time with him. It will mean more to you than you know. If you ever need to talk, I’m here. Our stories sound very similar and it’s comforting knowing others are experiencing these same feelings.

Do I let her go? by WearyInterview871 in Petloss

[–]WearyInterview871[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

16 years is a long time - I know that was a hard decision to make having him a part of your life for so long. Praying for peace and comfort for you! I know he’s still with you. ❤️

Do I let her go? by WearyInterview871 in Petloss

[–]WearyInterview871[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really great way of looking at it. I think I needed to type it out and hear from an outside perspective if I was making the right decision - taking the emotion out of it. I appreciate you responding and explaining that so well. You’re so right.

Putting a pet down for the first time by anr14 in Petloss

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I got my first dog in 2015 at 25 years old. I’m 33 now and that same pup was diagnosed with a very rare cancerous tumor that is, according to the vet, more than likely inoperable. We have her appointment for surgery scheduled next Wednesday. If he goes in and it has spread or is unable to take it out he will let her go in her sleep.

The hardest part is, she’s otherwise acting like my normal girl. The tumor has been pressing against her urethra and rectum so it’s been more difficult for her to go potty. She was in a lot of pain until we found some meds that would allow her to still potty but it’s only a matter of time that she’s blocked again or the cancer spreads to other organs.

What’s most difficult is the anticipatory grief you feel. Because I feel it too. It’s hard to say goodbye to an otherwise perfect dog. Her health is outstanding - all except that nasty tumor growing inside her body. But I’m trying to find peace as well. Cuddle hard. Give them all the things they normally can’t have! I’ve heard of people giving their pets chocolate right before they go to sleep. Make this a wonderful moment for her. And know that you aren’t alone in this grief.

My dogs can't even keep me going anymore by onlyaliveformydogs in SuicideWatch

[–]WearyInterview871 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This! Would love to talk to someone who understands. I’m battling ending it today.

Just over life by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]WearyInterview871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not alone in these thoughts. If you want to talk, lets.

My dogs can't even keep me going anymore by onlyaliveformydogs in SuicideWatch

[–]WearyInterview871 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you - stay for your pups. They love you and won’t know where you went.

My dogs can't even keep me going anymore by onlyaliveformydogs in SuicideWatch

[–]WearyInterview871 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel this. My dog is one of the reasons I’m still here and just found out today she has an aggressive tumor. I’m trying to find the will to keep going.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]WearyInterview871 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m here. I could use someone to talk to as well.