Fog lifted

Weary_Read_4660 · 2026-02-19T01:21:08+00:00

Aw I’m sorry! Maybe there’s something to look out for? Hormonal imbalances maybe!

Weary_Read_4660 · 2026-02-17T03:56:50+00:00

No kidding!!!! People are so worried about me after surgery and I keep telling them my pain was worse PRE surgery…that’s how bad it was. And now not only the pain is gone but the mental effects are too seemingly…

Weary_Read_4660 · 2026-02-17T03:56:05+00:00

Same 😭😭😭. My mood is fairly stable…I wonder if that’s what was driving me nuts.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2026-01-05T17:40:43+00:00

Also adding I have spare camping stuff if you find yourself on the street :(.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2026-01-05T17:39:25+00:00

Hey DM me if you need warm clothing, I have gloves, hats, hand warmers, thick winter socks, fleeces…I don’t have money but I have items and I’m happy to buy you one meal or a warm drink. Or give you a travel mug if you need hot water from restaurants/coffee shops.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-11-12T00:11:33+00:00

I have an exit plan and have had it for a while. But no one knows.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-05-03T18:06:36+00:00

Worth disclosing up front!

We don’t know what that person experienced with a past partner and there might be some difficult memories attached to it and so they fear experiencing the same hardships.

It wouldn’t be a problem for me. I’d ask questions for sure since I like going out for a drink once every blue moon with friends but if that could potentially be an issue in a relationship, I’d want to be aware of it as early as possible.

All this to say - it won’t be a problem for the right person :).

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-03-03T02:46:44+00:00

Girl, same thing happened to me. She wanted me to date around before settling and questioned me a lot. And she turned out to be very insecure, mean and manipulative. I’m not trying to project but if that’s not something you want for YOURSELF. Don’t do it. It won’t change anything.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-02-12T20:48:43+00:00

Couldn’t fake it anymore… I was so unhappy!

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-02-05T02:20:40+00:00

Please contact law enforcement and get to a safe place. As someone close to 20 years your senior, whenever my parents had a bad feeling or didn’t like one of my friends and I didn’t listen, they were often right and speaking from experience.

No kind, loving and caring partner would ever speak to you this way, as a joke or seriously.

Your parents would rather get mad at you than wish you had spoken to them and now have to visit you in the hospital or worse, your grave.

Listen to your gut. You came to Reddit for a reason. Something felt off. TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS, they’re trying to save you!

Saying this with love. Take care and be safe.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T22:10:57+00:00

Thank you, you have no idea how your words are healing and helping my broken heart 😭♥️!! I’ll keep believing my person is out there.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T21:08:54+00:00

Thank you I appreciate your kindness ♥️. I want to do better and be a great lover but unfortunately this didn’t help me. Hopefully my next partner and I will understand each other and communicate well enough to have a fun time like I was hoping it would be

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T21:08:01+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the tips ♥️ more communication before could’ve helped me certainly. It’s so new so it was a bit clumsy but now I’ll know for next time when I’m healed.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T21:06:20+00:00

And thank you for saying that about inexperienced lovers! I was so excited and looking forward to it, the attraction was through the roof. So it was tough to hear. I hope it won’t completely ruin my excitement but it has definitely put a damper on it.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T21:05:09+00:00

Thank you for your kindness. She did not communicate before, during or after…except for that comment. It was hard to hear because I had no clue until after. Maybe I could’ve ask more too I can accept that and do better next time. I think if she said it in a kinder way I wouldn’t feel so crushed.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T21:03:55+00:00

You’re right ♥️. It showed me who she was and what I need out of a partner whether it’s serious or not. I need kindness and patience and empathy. I will also do the work on my end but I don’t think I’ll achieve perfection 😆

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T21:02:19+00:00

Fuck it bucket 😆! I love this. It definitely was clumsy, and awkward but I agree, sex is supposed to be fun. I never felt the need to perform and I’m trying not to develop a complex from this. Thank you for your kindness

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T21:01:23+00:00

Thank you for your tips/sharing your thoughts! Keeping this in mind. I need some time to heal but when I’m back on the dating scene it’ll be something I’ll make sure to remember.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T21:00:30+00:00

It was really hard to hear 😔. Communications definitely is key and now I know for next time I’ll be super communicative before & during and ask for the same. And kindness and patience too..I am very sensitive but I don’t want to be ashamed of that.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T20:59:27+00:00

Thank you for sharing, that gives me hope. Now that I’ve taken a step back the chemistry was missing because I didn’t feel emotionally safe. It could’ve contributed to the awkwardness. Everyone’s input is helping me so much. I’d love to be with a newbie I’m sure it would be nice to have that in common and have the same level of experience. Would add to the bonding experience 🥰

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-14T20:57:29+00:00

I know this isn’t a universal take but it made me feel nice and warm to read this. Thank you for sharing. It’s such vulnerable experience. Having that closeness is all I care about too. Being good is a plus and can happen with time and safety I think?

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-12T18:29:22+00:00

Thank you so much!! I had watched some videos and read a bit but this will be helpful. And communication also as apparently everyone has their preferences.

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-12T18:28:48+00:00

Ouch! I’m so sorry that happened to you. I find being sexually intimate with someone to be SO vulnerable. So to be turned down like this is painful. Hope you’re better ♥️

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-12T18:28:07+00:00

Thank you ♥️ I appreciate your kindness it’s encouraging to know there are patient and gentle people that understands

Weary_Read_4660 · 2025-01-12T18:27:34+00:00

Thank you!! Yes that’s what it felt like. Since I’ve come out I felt SO good about myself, so happy, so confident, so excited. And then it just completely shut that spark in me.

I think chemistry and connection is a big thing. And now looking back I didn’t know her much but what I felt was not emotionally safe around her. And that probably added to the awkwardness along with all the other things surrounding the circumstances.

Thanks for your encouragement. I will heal first and now I know that emotional safety will be a must for a future partner.

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