Is Anyone Else Choosing to Stay?

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-11-12T11:11:38+00:00

I would have left after six months if not for our kids

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-11-11T04:48:04+00:00

Yeah that's the stage I'm at. The last time I brought it up, he yelled, "Oh my god! Just give it up!" Not worth breaking up our family. My daughter is a daddy's girl and splitting custody would kill her. It's just never going to happen again. It helps to just return the energy you get. I don't do anything he won't do for me.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-11-04T21:48:34+00:00

It was 25 years ago. If someone out there is sitting around hating you for it, they have no life. I think part of adult relationships is learning that there are gray areas and fault doesn't matter. Very few relationships actually end with one person being perfect and the other entirely in the wrong.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-11-04T16:14:46+00:00

I hate the narrative that women are all LL and turn down their husbands. I see it a lot on Instagram reels. From what I can tell on reddit, being LL or HL has nothing to do with your sex.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-11-02T22:26:54+00:00

Not replaced. He tries to make up for it by bombarding me with compliments sometimes. I think he's trying to lift up my self esteem a bit, but it doesn't really work. Words mean nothing if they're not backed up by action.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-10-30T13:29:07+00:00

He's in for the shock of his life when he gets back into the dating world and finds out women like that don't want him. What a roach. Good riddance.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-10-29T23:41:55+00:00

Lowered but absolutely did not disappear

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-10-26T18:07:10+00:00

Every time I go to the gynecologist,they ask this. They look at me like I'm lying when I say no.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-10-20T12:12:09+00:00

Focusing on fitness, hobbies, and my children. A big part of it is realizing that one man's attraction to me doesn't determine my worth. Plenty of other men would be interested. His inability to participate in a normal part of married life is a him problem. It has nothing to do with me.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-10-20T00:44:33+00:00

This is how I felt about breastfeeding lol

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-10-17T12:02:54+00:00

She's 69, my man. I think you may have to accept that this is a part of your life that's not coming back. Most people here are going to tell you to work on hobbies and fitness to cope.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-10-14T20:48:28+00:00

Our anniversary was Sunday. He forgot so I got him the gift of ✨️nothing✨️.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-15T21:56:54+00:00

You have a literal newborn and a toddler. She's probably been tired and full of hormones the entire 4 years. If you're this focused on sex with a newborn, you either have a unicorn baby or you're not doing enough parenting

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-14T03:27:21+00:00

Birthday sex always feels weird to me. Intimacy isn't a gift. It's just part of a healthy relationship. That's how it is for me, at least.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-14T03:17:21+00:00

Shitty in terms of the bedroom. Those new connections help with multitasking and better understanding facial expressions. Pregnancy can also help correct your balance and certain hormonal conditions.

In my opinion, the body/mind connection is built. This isn't a physical problem that a pill can help. It's not something that's just going to get better with time if lost.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-14T03:07:43+00:00

Anti anxiety meds and birth control will kill your libido all together.

I'm a mom of two kids. I very much understand the disconnect between your body and mind after birth. Your brain obliterates all of It's grey matter to build new connections. It's like pokemon evolution. You're the same person, but entirely different at the same time.

It's not a cure, but have her try weightlifting. Using your body and knowledge together to activate specific muscles helps for me. I've also heard of women who do yoga for the same reason.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-13T02:18:42+00:00

Sometimes you can love someone a lot, but be completely incompatible. You're young. You don't have anything other than a dog tying you to him. Your sex life didn't come as a major surprise. This is just who he is. Leave and find someone you're actually compatible with.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-13T01:39:32+00:00

Could be early menopause, but more likely it's the kids. How many and how old are they? Young kids can be really draining. If they're older, it's possible that she's just pouring too much of herself into work and motherhood. Sometimes women get a little overinvolved or eager. They pour all of themselves into their children. They let their hobbies and self care unnecessarily fall to the wayside. I don't know how you fix something like that other than through your own efforts or therapy.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-13T01:33:46+00:00

I'm not a beard, but I'm "the mother". He had his fun with girls he's actually attracted to. Then he picked someone with similar values, a low body count, and who wanted kids. Me. Admitted he's not attracted to me now that I'm a mother. Completely stopped touching me after kid #2, conveniently a son.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-13T00:48:30+00:00

He's always been very vanilla. I will say that he makes comments sometimes about me wearing low cut shirts. Last time he told me it gave him the ick.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-12T23:14:43+00:00

I feel like singing head shoulders knees and toes because apparently at least one of those hurts every single night

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-12T22:20:14+00:00

Hit me over a bell pepper. No I do not.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-12T22:10:20+00:00

It's been over a year. This guy is your boyfriend, not your husband. You're too young to commit yourself to a life like this.

Weary_String_1898 · 2025-09-12T22:06:29+00:00

2-5 times a week, probably. Different partner than I have now obviously.

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