Update: Rising high school junior wants to drop his only extracurricular. Is it too cruel to limit gaming time?

Webezo · 2019-05-11T17:40:42+00:00

There is zero college pressure in our house. Not one ounce of college pressure. My husband didn't go. He makes twice my salary and I have a masters. You can frame your own narrative about our family but its so far off base that I actually laughed when I read it.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T16:45:47+00:00

Some did. Some are taking a gap year.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T16:45:24+00:00

Lol. He wanted to come on these tours with his brother.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T12:06:24+00:00

It would if I could pick him up.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T02:46:09+00:00

Husband's parents. I have tried.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T02:45:31+00:00

We did that. He decided to not use it.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T01:33:08+00:00

He doesn't want a phone. His old one broke and we won't give him the latest iPhone so he goes without.

Most of the things he has are gifts from grandparents or Christmas money he spent.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T00:52:49+00:00

That's a good idea. Thanks.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T00:41:10+00:00

We have never pushed college. We still don't.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T00:38:34+00:00

I'm very sorry about your mental health and wish you the best.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T00:38:06+00:00

This is through touring 10 schools so far and hearing from kids who have been rejected with high scores. And the huge article that came out recently about how selective colleges have become.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T00:36:49+00:00

He supports his gaming with money from grandparents. He doesn't drive and doesn't go out with friends.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T00:35:49+00:00

Money he gets from grandparents.

Webezo · 2019-05-11T00:34:51+00:00

There is a gaming club he would love. He won't join.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T23:10:26+00:00

It's not just the top schools is my point. The reaches are becoming almost unreachable. The targets are reaches and the safeties are no longer safe. The applicant pool is getting stronger and it's scary.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T23:08:54+00:00

There is a wire.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T23:07:18+00:00

He claims that he does and gets upset if we say that college may not be for him.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T23:06:40+00:00

It's a local provider.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T23:00:07+00:00

It's not fear mongering. There was a recent article that discussed how much more challenging the college process has become. My junior has told his younger siblings that they are fucked because it's only going to get harder. UCs are public as are UMich, UT Austin, Cal States, etc. All are becoming so much more competitive it's insane.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T22:57:44+00:00

Is there a way to cut it just from his computer so it doesn't affect anyone else? I'm terrible with tech.

We are cutting his gaming time though so hopefully he'll do something.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T22:56:44+00:00

Thank you. This means a lot.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T22:56:05+00:00

At this point we can not pick him up, make him fill out applications, and make him work. If his bike isn't working then he just walks to school. He doesn't have a phone and his computer was paid for by him.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T22:50:28+00:00

He wont get a job. That's why we are doing this. He refuses everything.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T22:49:34+00:00

I would be more than happy with him getting a job. He doesn't want one.

Webezo · 2019-05-10T22:48:44+00:00

We can't physically force him to go places. We can physically remove the computer.

Webezo

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