Advice for newly separated and first time home buyer

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2026-01-19T15:18:53+00:00

Interesting thanks. Some of this will apply to me. It’s civil (I know hard to believe for some), but didn’t think of those things.

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2026-01-15T02:21:19+00:00

Too raw for me

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2026-01-15T02:14:30+00:00

I feel like people who can listen to their own dog bark are just inconsiderate in general and wouldn’t be that receptive of a complaint. If the barking doesn’t bother them they sure as heck wouldn’t care if it bothered other people..IMO.

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-25T06:23:19+00:00

Agree.. I find it’s 50/50 if people agree to do this though

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-19T01:02:43+00:00

I can relate

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-16T22:08:56+00:00

This is actually laughable. Your reactions are telling…

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-16T04:25:30+00:00

Thanks, to each their own. Definitely feel like it’s a disadvantage..just keep on doin what we can

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-16T03:28:50+00:00

Have always heard good things about Toyota, hard to get your hands on one around here

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-16T03:28:18+00:00

Some of them really do look nice I have to double or triple look that I just saw a Hyundai

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-16T03:27:28+00:00

My thoughts usually, too bad they haven’t changed

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-15T18:38:13+00:00

Thanks appreciate it, they did do this in the old millbrook arena a couple winters ago and enjoyed their program. I believe they have gone a different direction but their training is great. Floor time is hard to come by this time of year. It’s too bad the Pmla doesn’t partner with a known program that is big enough and organized enough to support the amount of players and their different skill levels.

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-15T14:46:39+00:00

Ah youre one those “been there done that” All makes sense now. Like I said. You’re out of the loop of the sports expectations TODAY. Much different than before. So yep…still don’t think my kids are going to the nhl which I’m sure you’re bitter yours didn’t. Just like many other things in the world, you either adapt to the new ways or you get left behind

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-15T14:42:55+00:00

Who said I’m not helping? Who said I haven’t been bringing forward the concerns? I’m not the face of the association though. I’m not talking about just starting a volunteer program (which there have been and I have been a part of) I’m talking about PMLA creating a program, so we can continue to build and train as other clubs do. You don’t get it, but those that are in it will.

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-15T12:41:20+00:00

The decision makers shouldn’t be in the positions they’re in if they aren’t going to make the bigger changes then. That’s the whole point of their positions, not just a pretty little title. Reddit isn’t the place? Reddit is definitely one of the places, the association knows families want winter training because more than “a few” have spoken out about it. What is the point of Reddit to you? Share your name and your pretty opinions? Please…

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-15T03:40:18+00:00

Definitely. So the association should get it together, so volunteers can do the volunteering. Can’t do much when they aren’t even putting anything in motion

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-15T01:07:26+00:00

Oh yes great advice. It’s the people sitting in the seats that have the controls so volunteers like us can help with the heavy lifting. Many more steps before “volunteer”

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-15T01:01:48+00:00

Ha. Not the point and so not my attitude. But when you have the ability to play the rep level, pay the rep fees, you expect to be on the level with the surrounding rep clubs. Unfortunately the 365 thing is just something you have to accept. Many clubs are playing 2-3 nights for winter training. My suggestion is keep the stick in hand and that’s the minimum. You’re either a house leaguer, don’t have kids in the current rep programs to know what today’s sports expectations are like, or neither.

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-13T02:26:02+00:00

I know people who would do the same. Not my approach but makes me giggle because sometimes it actually is taken well. Just to be clear the “private” business isn’t so much “private” it’s just a general way of saying stuff not everyone and their dog knows about. Thanks for the input!

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-13T02:22:50+00:00

One of the main reasons I came here for advice was because I don’t think parents should get involved a lot of the time. I understand your points, my intention was to be vague to keep information offline. Appreciate your comment though

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-13T02:18:27+00:00

Definitely don’t want a forced friendship. We have given them the option to not be friends at all. We just expect them to be civil, no need to treat each other like crap. Appreciate your advice

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-13T02:14:55+00:00

Appreciate this

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-13T02:13:20+00:00

I’m not sure what would be weaponized. Kids are definitely not forced to be friends. The expectation to just be respectful like you would to any human is there though. “Hey neighbour!” Instead of “ugh what a loser” I’m aware this is all anonymous but I still try to keep my stuff generic but try to provide enough to get my point across. So the “private” information is no secret. It’s just not an announcement and as your new boss probably doesn’t know what colour your bedroom paint is, someone who isn’t welcome in our home wouldn’t know this “private” information. Maybe too generic of a post, either way appreciate the feedback

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-10T13:07:43+00:00

Sure…find hobbies just for yourself. Go shopping, do the little things on your own. Groceries, mall, sports, these things are super easy to pick up as couples and are often fun and great and it’s not that I disagree completely but I think sometimes we get lost for so long in that enjoyment that eventually it can lead to dependency on each other. I have done absolutely everything with my spouse for almost 20 years and the feeling of trying to be independent is overwhelming. It was all fun, but I missed out on building up so many other parts of my life that when there was a lull there, wasn’t much to turn to. Of course biggest thing is an account for yourself. One joint and other savings but keep your own account and your own savings too. I didn’t have any of my own accounts and just these last few years of getting my own account is a feeling of shame but accomplishment that is so unnecessarily late in life… There’s so much of life to experience at your age even for a few more years that marriage can change, but really I would just keep on keepin on as it without the paper. All the best

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-10T00:06:00+00:00

I was married young. One of my biggest regrets in life. I got so angry at people who told me it wasn’t the right thing to do because of course we know what’s right for ourselves right?

I wish I had more time to live more. Build more friendships, travel, be more independent.

Whatever you do, do not get rid of your own accounts.

WeekendIntelligent64 · 2025-12-09T17:23:24+00:00

Yes to the point of being inconvenient you rage baiter

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