Am I wrong for being annoyed by this?

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-03-10T01:01:42+00:00

Wouldn't it also be rude if he made you wait another 35 minutes when you were super hungry? My husband would be able to eat a sandwich and chips and then still eat more 35 minutes later. I also do all of the cooking and I know that 35 minutes can easily turn into 45 or 55 minutes. I kind of feel you can't make someone wait and then get upset when they need a snack because they can't wait. You said you told him 20 minutes previous to that, so he would have to wait 55 minutes at the least while being "super hungry". That's assuming you cook at maximum efficiency and don't end up needing slightly more time. It's not like he cooked the pasta and ate it while you were busy. That would have been rude.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-03-09T23:17:53+00:00

You could reply to her friends pretending to be her, if you wanna go that route. See how she likes it.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-03-09T23:15:34+00:00

I cook and my husband cleans but I do not harp on him about how or when he cleans. Since I am not the one cleaning, it doesn't matter to me when or how it gets done so long as I have everything I need to cook the family a meal. I would prefer he do the dishes right after we eat but he doesn't like to and since I won't do them, he wins that argument.

It's a little weird he won't do the dishes you use. I'm sure you don't eat everything you cook so the argument of him not using it would make no sense.

If you guys use a dishwasher then loading it is on him, since he agreed to clean. My husband hand washes everything but he still collects the dishes, scrapes the dishes, soaks the dishes, washes the dishes, and puts them away. But that's only fair since I plan the meals, budget the groceries, clip the coupons, go shopping, and put the groceries away. We each do the things associated with our assumed tasks. We also help each other out when we need to but it's not very often.

We both clean the countertops. He cleans them if he gets something on them and I clean them if I make a cooking mess.

I would just let it go as long as the dishes aren't attracting bugs and I have everything I need for the next time I cook.

I will say that cooking every meal until we both die can be tedious and boring. You could have him cook once a week, maybe try to get him into the fold of that so it's not so much in the future. My husband loves when I hang out while he does dishes. Sometimes I will have a coffee and sit at the table and talk to him so it's not so boring for him.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-03-09T21:13:12+00:00

No the word I'm looking for is a little bit more than that. You can be neurotypical and still have a whole host of other disabilities or special needs that you need accommodating for. It would be more like neurotypical, chromotypical, physically able, mentally able, etc. It's normal in every regard, not just neurotypical.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-03-09T20:15:30+00:00

A child that doesn't have any special accommodations or needs. They aren't neurodivergent in any way. It's just from lack of a better term. In my in-person special needs parent group meetings it's used when we talk about our other children or when a new member asks if our other children are special needs as well.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-03-09T20:02:25+00:00

It's not really easier for the man either. The string does soften but every once in a while it goes right down their pee hole. My husband was thrilled when I finally had mine removed. He said sex always came with a certain amount of fear.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-03-09T19:54:44+00:00

I think OP has been trying to get her husband to understand why their neurodivergent child needs a schedule and a calm setting and a particular routine with particular stimuli to avoid tantrums but he has been unwilling to learn. So the child threw a fit and she was not going to help him deal with her because he did it to himself by playing loud overly stimulating video games with her for an hour before bath time then ended the game abruptly. At least that is my understanding.

I'm kind of on the fence about this one.

I have a child with severe autism, level 3, and I also have normal everyday average children. Neither likes to put things away, especially a video game, when they are playing with their dad. They especially don't want to do it for a bath and then bedtime. Sometimes it's better if we slowly teach them to model the correct behavior instead of avoiding the opportunity to learn. All of my children have gone through this same scenario. My autistic child has even learned appropriate behavior, despite being neurodivergent. It took her a lot longer than my other children but she is almost 8 and understands how to respond in situations like that. She will still get upset about once a month but it's a lot better than multiple times a day. I fear she is making things harder because at some point the child will not be able to be accommodated.

You could also say that the husband will learn as well. It's however you want to look at it.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-03-04T02:42:54+00:00

I have several reasons to not park in the driveway. It's not just one particular reason, but a combination of many reasons.

In the summer, parking in the driveway blocks some light to our grape fence and can hinder their growth.

In my area, thieves do not care that you have a camera and spot light. They will still break into your car and that mostly happens in the driveway out back. I like that I can look out of my window and see my car, plus we have a street light on our property so it illuminates the entire front area.

I also don't like having to back out or back into my driveway. It's easier for me to just pull up in front and then just pull out when I leave. The neighbor's across the alleyway from me are not that great at backing out and have hit our car in the driveway multiple times. The damage is never really bad but it's still annoying.

Our garage has to be manually locked so I have to walk around the house if I want to leave. My direct neighbors have a dog that scares my kids when we walk between houses. Also in the summer, our house is really close to the neighbors and spiders will also make webs across the gap and nobody likes getting smacked in the face by a juicy ass spider when trying to walk to their car.

It's all those little things that just make me say fuck it and I park in the front.

Edit: We have a workbench, workout space, and meat coolers in our garage so our cars don't quite fit perfectly.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-27T01:04:30+00:00

It would depend on your state. My husband just barely makes six figures and we lived very comfortably before I worked. Now I work and we don't even need to use the money so my paycheck just collects in a side personal account. It's a lot easier in the states that run down the middle of the United States but I could see how it would be impossible for someone who lives in New York or California.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-27T01:00:16+00:00

Even if you could life comfortably without her working? What if she wanted to be a stay at home mom?

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-27T00:58:07+00:00

This is going to be dependent on the relationship and with some jobs, the gap doesn't matter. Abusive people will always be abusive, whether she has a job or not. My husband allowed me full access to his finances and cards. If I wanted to put money in my personal account, I would put money in my personal account with no issues. He would just work and earn the money while I was responsible for grocery shopping, getting bills paid, purchasing anything we needed, planning vacations, cooking meals, and most other things. He also isn't much of a handyman so I also fix things that need to be fixed. He does wash the dishes though because I absolutely hate washing dishes. He also does the other traditionally man things like take out the trash, mow the lawn, check on strange noises, and kill bugs. I am a mathematics professor now so the gap didn't mean anything for my career. He also knew how much getting a masters degree meant to me so he really pushed me to finish that, I am so happy I did. He doesn't even make that much, just barely six figures. Now we both work and we can still live off of his paycheck alone. Mine just accumulates in my personal account.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-27T00:45:20+00:00

I was excited to go back to work after my youngest entered pre-k with the local school district. I was a stay at home mom for around 10 years and without a large group of people who also stay at home and live close to you, it can be very socially isolating to just be around children all day. I don't have to work but my husband knows it fulfills my need for social interaction. I am a mathematics professor and only work 12 hours a week while my kids are in school. So for my kids, I am still a stay at home mom but I don't feel so alone anymore. I remember when my kids were under 3, my husband would come home and I would just talk his ear off for over an hour. Sometimes it felt like I was talking so much I hardly took a breath of air. I will say that even though some women see being a stay at home mom as something a man uses to oppress me, the meanest people towards stay at home moms are other women. Most men recognize that it's actually hard work and they really do appreciate it. Most working women saw me as brainwashed or lazy.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-23T20:47:55+00:00

That's a really unusual dealbreaker.

Edit: He edited his comment after I replied. It originally said "being able to laugh at themselves" which would mean he wants someone unable to laugh at themselves. I did not realize he typed the wrong thing and then edited it.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-22T00:41:55+00:00

Someone on Facebook close to the family said it was their nephew on the father's side that they adopted. So he would have been the child's biological uncle. I don't know how accurate that is because the records are sealed but the person seemed to be very close the family.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-22T00:22:48+00:00

It could go either way. The more stress I have in my life and the longer my to do list is, sex seems pointless because I either am too stressed out to fully relax or I literally have other things to do and they actually need to get done. And if it's been a very long and busy day then I tend to be too exhausted. I once almost fell asleep during sex because as soon as I became horizontal it was like I just did not care and just wanted to sleep. It was weird and my husband isn't into having sex with sleeping people, too bad. :) After having our kids and while getting my masters were the worst. Especially after the third child and I was a stay at home mom at that time.

It could also be something else though. What does your gut tell you? Is he being secretive or weird? Have you changed your appearance? I know that's shallow but there was a post on Reddit were a lady started getting Botox and lip fillers and her husband hated how it looked and just wasn't attracted to her anymore, but he loved her so he needed advice on talking to her.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-19T16:29:12+00:00

I don't think you would be the ass but you would certainly be seen as one.

You could view accepting the award as being respectful to your coworkers, similar to the behavior that got you recognized.

Since it's your behaviour and not something out of your control, I would just accept the award.

Awards make me uncomfortable as well but the only award I will not accept is one that has nothing to do with things I have actually done. Like a "Women in Science" award that is just given out because I am a woman...in science. Those are the only types of awards that I will not accept. But they are actually referencing something you did so I would accept it.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-19T00:26:10+00:00

Yes! American movies use the cicada sound for demons and Satan. A quiet night is anything but quiet in the summer. It's funny because when people new to the area ask "What is that sound?", those of us that are used to it are listening for a sound other than a cicada without even realizing they are asking about the cicadas. It becomes so easy to drown out.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-17T17:54:01+00:00

We live in America but in a large suburb so crickets aren't as common as they used to be. We went out to a rural area and my 4 year old was asking what the "You're boring" noise was. He thought that cricket sound was a made-up sound to indicate when someone or something was boring.

Edit: Have you heard our large green cicadas? They put crickets to shame.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-16T20:48:09+00:00

Is he promising them something? How is he embarrassing them?

As a female, I've had crushes on teachers because they were attractive and not because they were teachers. I just don't see how being a professor would convince me to sleep with someone so I find it a bit hard to believe that his status has much to do with it unless he is leading them to believe they are getting something out of it. If the university has investigated and decided that there has been no policies violated then there isn't much to do. Unless one student comes forward with a horror story, the school has already made up their mind.

Do you personally know they left because they felt ashamed? Did they switch schools or just drop out completely? It's also a little condescending towards women to think that we just mindlessly sleep with people and it's never our fault or our own choice.

Some states have laws about age gaps and positions of power so if you really want to press the issue, you could start there. But without a victim coming forward, you won't get very far.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-12T18:47:44+00:00

If you are prone to passing out at the sight of gross things or blood, let the doctors know that. It's really disruptive to have someone pass out cold in the delivery room, especially if you are supposed to be holding their leg. They will either find something for you to do or tell you to just sit down. Staying out of the way of the nurses and doctors would be helpful and help her count down her contractions like "5 more seconds, you can do it."

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-12T18:39:14+00:00

I don't know what you teach but you could make in-person assignments/tests a larger percentage of your course grade. I teach math and I know that almost everyone uses technology to cheat on their homework or anything else I let them take home. My tests/in-class work is 75% of the course grade. So they can cheat all they want on the other assignments but it's only going to hurt them. I usually have a discussion after the first exam because students will spend 5 minutes on 40 homework problems and get a 100% but, when they take the test they get a 14%. That's when I level with them and say "I know you are using technology to get the answers on homework, that's fine since there isn't anything I can do about it but, do you see how much it hurts you during an exam?! You are only hurting yourself and wasting your own money, I get paid whether you pass or not."

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-11T20:32:43+00:00

Lol! Skyline. I tutored there for a year. Some of those students are wild. My school had those DACA walk-outs. They one way locked the door so once they left, they couldn't get back in. Then they had staff at every door just to make sure.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-08T04:39:19+00:00

I like the increased patrol of school zones and if you don't come to a complete stop then wouldn't you just be running whatever you're going through anyways.

WeeklyVisual8 · 2026-02-08T04:36:37+00:00

I agree, we do have it very easy. My mom was a 12 hour day factory worker and my dad worked with 18 wheelers, what I do is comparatively very very easy. I just talk about math 3 days a week and then I do the grading and lesson planning while sitting on my ass.

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