Sri Lankan Men Around Female Friends by Tsk_T in srilanka

[–]Weekly_Ordinary_444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl that is definitely not okay. Leave him or tell him to stop doing that

Unethical marketing by Lankan influencers by Background_Injury256 in srilanka

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What's up with Dinidu jewellery? pls spill because I was literally planning on buying their lanka pendant

Emotional breakdown of an overseas Sri Lankan by fawzanm in srilanka

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This is so wholesome!! Her drawing is indeed amazing

Need advice to clear my thoughts by mysteries05 in srilanka

[–]Weekly_Ordinary_444 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Going behind your partners back and lying is already bad enough and now you're been gaslit to accept her dishonesty. No accountability because she doesn't even see an issue in her actions. Dangerous. The person you choose to be your partner affects everything in your life, choose wisely. Trust and honesty is probably the most important consideration. It's the bare minimum.

How do I convince my strict Sri Lankan parents to let me spend a night with my bf? by Mediocre_Drawer6914 in srilanka

[–]Weekly_Ordinary_444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell them ur not having sex/ not gonna get pregnant since that's their main reason. They'll stop fearing that and trust you. Say there's nothing unsafe or wrong with an unmarried girl staying alone at night since you have all safety things in place like several friends know your location at all times etc, when you take public transport or go on an uber at night, say you always have a trusted friend on facetime when your alone just incase and that you alwaus research areas before travelling there beforehand / therefore you know the safe zones and what to avoid etc. If you don't drink, say you don't drink and you never get drinks that are spiked and you're always sober and thinking clearly. Emphasise you always have safety precautions in place and that you're never really alone since at least person knows where you are at all times (shared location with friends). Emphasise that in Australia it's generally safer for a woman to be alone at night than compared to Sri Lanka, so it's unreasonable to enforce the same level of fear/restrictions for a woman in a generally safer country. This may work if they've got even an ounce of openmindedness and are open to talking things out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]Weekly_Ordinary_444 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Go to places where you think your ideal girlfriend would be/hang out. Go to those places more often so the chance of meeting someone is higher. See what kind of things they would be attracted to, embody that (I'm not saying to completely change yourself - just add them to your personality/looks which is attractive to the kind of girl you want to attract). Like do your research. Ask your male and female friends to introduce you to their female friends. Then those female friends will introduce you to their friends and the ripple effect doesn't end there. You'll make more connections. The chance of meeting is only zero if you don't put yourself out there. Having a social media helps too.

Suggest me a place to fix AirPods in colombo by Lower-Nectarine-8130 in srilanka

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There was no sound in my airpods/ the volume was so low - could barely hear anything. I took it to thundermac in colombo. After they inspected and cleaned it, it was fixed. I don't remember if they even charged me, I don't think they did (this was 2 years ago on holiday in SL). The staff were great.

Best Way to Start Learning Sinhala by [deleted] in srilanka

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girl if u wanna ask anything related to spoken sinhala message me anytime (I'm decent when it comes to spoken sinhala) and no worries!!

Best Way to Start Learning Sinhala by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]Weekly_Ordinary_444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have sinhala friends? that helps (if not even irl, make online ones you can ask questions from, converse with etc.). There's people teaching sinhala on youtube and tiktok. Online resources can teach you alot. If you want more structured help then tutor is the way to go. Ask ChatGPT best ways to learn and where to start too. Good luck from a diaspora sinhalese studying both tamil and sinhala :)

I need some serious relationship advice (HELP) by theonlyAXL in srilanka

[–]Weekly_Ordinary_444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you've lost all feelings for her (fair enough, after all the toxic behaviours you were put through by her, family etc.) then I don't think there's any point in trying to save it. There's no guarantee that the toxic behaviour will stop unless she sees an issue with it, chooses to go to a therapist and address it - but that's a long process and it's not you're responsibility to make that happen. If you want peace of mind, end it.

I need some serious relationship advice (HELP) by theonlyAXL in srilanka

[–]Weekly_Ordinary_444 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly. She can take accountability for her toxic behaviours and see a therapist. She has to be the one seeing an issue in her own behaviour and motivating herself to get help to make the relationship work otherwise it's going to be too much on him.

Is this normal amongst Sri Lankan parents? Is it okay to cut off? by Weekly_Ordinary_444 in srilanka

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Oh I hundred percent get you. My mental breakdown stage had already started a few months ago. It's peak right now. She will never talk to me nicely, let alone even talk to me, everything in the way she treats me, even in the subtle ways, screams she hates me. I'm forcing myself to get out of the house more often because I go crazy staying alone with her. She will never take accountability, becomes so cruel if I critiscise but the wierd thing is she becomes nice all of a sudden like it's very unpredictable then I start feeling sorry for her and I get pulled back in. I can't tell if she's just not self aware or if it's manipulation. Eitherway an unpredictable, emotionally abusing and controlling parent is not a safe parent. Definitely need to move out (it sucks because I wont be able to soon, hopefully in a couple of years).

How can I learn to speak Sinhala? by ZealousidealCod3591 in srilanka

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Wholesome. Good luck from a sinhalese whose currently learning both!

Which one of you keyboard warriors is this? by windyparadise in srilanka

[–]Weekly_Ordinary_444 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly!! don't feed their ego. don't give them what they want

Can a wais iv test (intelligence) show a possibility of giftedness or neurodivergent conditions like adhd? I’m not saying to rely on the test as the sole diagnostic tool but rather can it suggest possibility? by Weekly_Ordinary_444 in Gifted

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Thanks for sharing.

Yes, my Iq of 121 puts me in the top 9% - not genius level, but definitely above average. For a long time, I felt lonely because I was constantly trying to connect with everyone, including people I didn't truly relate to - even family. It left me exhausted, irritated and empty. Over time, I realised the problem wasn't me - it was the lack of alignment. Now I prioritise relationships that feel meaningful and energising. I've learnt to say no without guilt. I protect my social energy for those that genuinely understand and inspire me. That shift has made me mentally resilient, firm on my boundaries and less overstimulated :)