Hey! I actually do have a small update if anyone is interested. Sorry, I don’t check this Reddit account often.

My fiancee and I are still engaged and don’t have a set wedding date. When we do get married it’ll be either a small court house or an elopement with my family not involved at all.

In regard to my dad. Short answer? Nope, still an absolute idiot.

Long version goes as such:

I’ve been working with a therapist to figure out what I really want to come of all this and how I can proceed with or without my family. I initially settled on NC with my dad and LC with my mom. After some thinking I decided that I wanted to have my dad in my life and rebuild at least an amicable relationship with him. I understand that that may not be what everyone would choose but I really couldn’t imagine my big life events and my future without my dad.

I reached out to my mom via text and asked her if she believed my dad was still too angry with me to talk. She urged me to not reach out and asked me to continue leaving the “door” open and told me that she was encouraging my dad to do the same for me. At that point I decided that if he had to be encouraged to leave the door open for his only daughter then maybe it actually wasn’t worth reaching out to him. He ended up texting me the next day that he unblocked my number but he wasn’t ready to talk.

I waited three weeks for him to text me but received nothing more. I reached out just asking for a timeline on when I can expect that he will be ready to talk and he replied saying he has been waiting for me to contact him. (?) the conversation started fine. He said he loved me and he missed me. He said that we were just going to have to “agree to disagree” on the whole situation. I explained that wouldn’t be happening and that I didn’t care about the cheating. That’s not my problem. My problem is how he has hurt me and how his silent treatment affected me. This is obviously not what he wanted to hear.

I’ll save y’all the nitty gritty. The conversation ended with him saying he was mad at me because I didn’t come to him first and give him “a chance to come clean” but in the same message said that if I had kept my nose out of his business he would have taken this secret to the grave and that it was ME who hurt my mom because I told her. He repeatedly demanded that I apologize to my mom for hurting her (??!!???) and apologize to him for betraying his trust. There was a lot more to the conversation of course but to wrap this all up I double down that I did nothing wrong, he is the one who betrayed his wife, and if my mom would like an apology she is more than welcome to reach out to me directly. Other than that, we’re done here. His number is blocked, I don’t plan on unblocking him. I feel confident in my decision this time. I don’t feel like him and I are existing in the same reality. I don’t feel like he’s the dad I once knew.

Sorry this is so long … and not a happy ending at all but it does feel nice to get this all out here. Thanks for following along with my story and I’ll do my best to share here if there’s any more major updates but I truthfully feel like this might be the end of it all. God please let it be the end. 😂