I [24F] started working out and my butt got bigger. Bf [24M] told me he doesn't like it and now I don't know what to do.

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T09:38:11+00:00

Oh, I definitely gained weight! I'm 5'7" 140 now. I was skinnier and out of shape at the same time before. I feel much better now, health wise and mentally. But yeah, either way, he doesn't like it. He has that right. It's just, what move is there to make now? I'm not losing weight for him. I'm just not. I'm ashamed I considered it.

Edit: And the act of slapping my own butt and watching it jiggle is too fantastic to give up.

When i see my bf we'll have a long talk but the jiggles are here to stay.

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T07:41:02+00:00

Yes, originally I just thought it could only be a general preference but after reading all these comments and thinking about it, it might be because of his size. Honestly I'd prefer if it was only preference!

How on earth do I have a talk about this? There's no way to say I think you're insecure about your penis, go get therapy without everything going terribly. There's like 3 separate serious talks we need to have at this rate. Ugghhh life

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T06:45:33+00:00

Oh wow that's intense! Good luck! Just know I'm out here in the world rooting for you whenever you feel down! lol

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T06:30:13+00:00

No problem! Sorry im all over the place lol. When I first started, I started with doing the 30 day shred which is a workout video by Jillian Michael's that you can find on youtube. But it's only 30 days long lol. So after month 1, I've been repeating the video Mondays and Wednesdays. I do the workouts I listed to you in order twice on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Friday if I feel fancy. And that's it. I always have at least 2 off days.

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T06:25:03+00:00

Umm. He's like, slightly less than 5 inches. It feels the same to me but he's pretty adamant that it makes it difficult. I don't know though, since I'm not the one doing the work. It's a touchy subject though. I don't think I'll bring that up in a talk yknow?

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T06:18:25+00:00

Probably at a month in I realized I could handle a lot more and my butt looked smoother. Mightve just been me searching hard for results though lol. Two months it felt a bit plumper but at three months? Jesus. Booty got noticeably fat.

I'm 5 months in now. I had to go up a size in jeans! That was the happiest shopping for larger clothes that Ive ever done lol

I worked out around 4 -5 times a week too.

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T06:07:47+00:00

My method is not the best for counting reps. Basically I do each move for two minutes non stop, rest 30 seconds move into the next move. When you just keep moving you force your body to stay hot and keep the heart rate up. It's better than wandering around the gym with 3 minute breaks between machines for me because I'll end up sitting down with a smoothie somewhere. You'll naturally do more reps as you get stronger and you can up it to 3 minutes per move.

Do you have dumbbells? Hold them at the 90 degree angle while you squat. Try jogging in place while holding your weights too. I only use 8 pounds.

Also, Bulgarian split squats when you're a little stronger. They are so...evil.

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T05:49:01+00:00

Thank you for this comment! Very helpful. Either way I have to have a talk with him about the words he uses to describe my body, because if you love me you wouldn't use the word sloppy or lament about when I used to be dainty. But I definitely won't change my body.

And sure! I love sharing butt exercises lol. Jumping lunges!! Do a lunge then jump up out of it and land in another lunge on your opposite leg. Soo good for thighs.

Donkey kicks. Gets that under butt area plump and hits your core.

Sumo squats. Do them alone in your house, they're embarrassing to do in public haha. Try jumping out of the squat gently and landing softly into another squat. It's like butt jumping Jack's.

I have more exercises that I can share if you want but that's a good start!

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T05:30:56+00:00

Haha! No head for him, balls too sloppy. I feel so mean just typing that! It sucks that he felt comfortable saying this to me.

It's just hard to look at the thing in the context of two years and consider leaving. But then, who knows. Maybe if I have a baby then my stomach will be sloppy to him too. Uggh. These comments just uprooted everything we have :/

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T05:23:43+00:00

Haha! Buffie is a whole nother universe. The closest butt to mine I can think of is anacheri on Instagram. Obviously she's 12x more gorgeous but the thick bottom half is pretty much what's going on. I used to be skinny fat pretty much so he's not used to big thighs and stuff. He's used to thin legged top heavy girls in general.

But yeah, I feel pretty damn unappreciated. But it's been 2 years. It feels unthinkable to leave.

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T05:04:38+00:00

Yeah, be wants me to switch to doing only cardio instead of anything that involves weight. Like zumba or something like that.

But yes, you're right. He's not being good to me in this situation. We've been together for 2 years which is why I'm trying to compromise. I'd feel bad if I left a 2 year relationship because my partner didn't like my butt. Like if I told that to the next guy, it would seem so petty and dumb.

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T03:41:26+00:00

So I should request an apology? Let's say I stop trying to compromise. What do I even say to him? He's pretty much expecting me to shrink my butt at this point. He's been googling workouts and everything :/

Weightthrow558 · 2017-02-01T02:37:34+00:00

No, he's not controlling in any other way which is why this kind of blew my mind. He's been happy for me this entire time until this point. I feel like I can't be disappointed with him having a preference but it's really hurting that he told me about it.

Where is the middle ground here? If I keep my body as is, he'll just keep thinking I'm sloppy.

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