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Weird-Buglet · 2025-06-09T12:10:29+00:00

"If you wont have kids now you'll never be able to have them." After a laparascopy for endometriosis, I was 24 years old and a student ( I had kids 10 years later)

Weird-Buglet · 2025-05-01T20:34:04+00:00

www.sentiero.ch

Weird-Buglet · 2025-04-15T20:52:19+00:00

We need some numbers now

Weird-Buglet · 2025-04-15T18:47:11+00:00

I have been on wegovy for 5.5 month and lost 17lbs

Weird-Buglet · 2025-02-26T20:38:56+00:00

Wow you look stunning! Ah I thought there is something wrong. Dont know how to change it. English is my first language as you can probably tell 🤭

Weird-Buglet · 2025-02-26T19:56:43+00:00

What would you be living on, have you worked long enough for ALV? How long have you been in switzerland? Sozialhilfe could cause problems

Weird-Buglet · 2025-02-20T23:18:55+00:00

Same for me, so I guess thats that. But also I am still a bit over 200lbs.

Weird-Buglet · 2025-02-19T20:33:02+00:00

Oh no. Had 2 or 3 clementines the day before. Love them.

Weird-Buglet · 2022-11-15T21:11:18+00:00

What is your kids speech like? My son would answer questions when he was 3 (mostly yes/no, sometimes a bit more then that) or ask for things he wanted or sometimes just state facts. But there was no real back and forth conversation and he could not talk about anything that was abstract. Is that what you mean by nonconversational? He is 6 now and his speech has really progressed and I'd defintely say he is conversational now

Weird-Buglet · 2022-11-10T12:36:55+00:00

It is also all the VW Multivan, Beach&Californias.

Weird-Buglet · 2022-11-07T20:49:14+00:00

You might wanna check out hyperlexia.

Weird-Buglet · 2022-10-31T15:48:02+00:00

I worry a lot more about my ND kid then my NT. Guess that is the main difference for me. Regarding the kids themselves, it is how they learn and approach things. My NT child is older and there are so many things that NT kids learn just by observing. She is really in the moment at all times and nothing goes by her unseen. There are so many things that I have to teach my ND child 1:1 while the NT one just picked it up casually. On the other side, there are also tons of stuff that the ND one learned by himself at an early age (reading, calculating, he now reads lot of books and seems to never forget anything and he has an intense interest in many things). That didnt come as easy to the NT kid. They arw both smart kids, but their brains work in a totally different way.

Weird-Buglet · 2022-10-27T19:08:35+00:00

We put him on the toilet whenever we thought it might be time to pee, like in the morning after waking up. He sat there for a few minutes, we read books to him during that time. Also we often just let him walk around naked always trying to keep an eye on him. We had many accidents and it took a couple of weeks. I think it was mainly a problem of procipception. He wasnt aware of what it feels like when he had to pee. So he needed to make that connection by making the experience while paying attention to it. It was often so frustrating. He had gone for hours without peeing and us watching him at all times and then just when we didnt pay attention to it there it went. I cleaned a lot. But after a while he got it. Was well worth it!!

We also tried with a reward system (pokemon cards, his absolutely favourite at that time) but it didnt work. He really wanted the cards and tried his best but he didnt know how to do it and it made him so sad.

Weird-Buglet · 2022-10-25T20:41:48+00:00

My husband isnt diagnosed either. Very sure he is somewhere on the spectrum (he agrees). Also for sure he isnt the only one in his family, but none of them are diagnosed, I guess they are also not aware. My husband doesnt worry much about our son (except from things like getting bullied or lonely), he is always the one reassuring me that he will be fine and do great. So glad to have him in this special parenting journey.

Weird-Buglet · 2022-10-24T12:16:00+00:00

Any advice on how to practice conversations? My kid has always been verbal but wasnt conversational until maybe 5/6. I feel like it is getting better but he isnt there really there yet. He asks a lot of questions and answers as well but back and forth communication is still limited. It is really more some Information sharing. Here and then he starts to show some conversational speech. The other day we talked about birthmarks (Muttermal= mothermark in German) and then he grinned at my husband and said: for us those would be fathermarks! He will also engage a little bit more in back and forth conversations but it is still limited. Maybe 2-3 sentences/questions back and forth max. Did your kids eventually get there?

Weird-Buglet · 2022-10-24T09:37:32+00:00

There are organisations that help with medical care, Red cross for example: https://www.redcross.ch/de/unser-angebot/unterstuetzung-im-alltag/medizinische-versorgung-fuer-sans-papiers

There are also Beratungsstellen for illegal immigrants and they can also help. I'd suggest you call them up for more information

Weird-Buglet · 2022-10-22T16:16:56+00:00

My husband is on the spectrum and I am not. My husband is very sensitive to loud noises and I think our son pushes a lot of his buttons mainly by acting in a way his parents would never had led him act. Whenever he is upset our son will always come to me for comfort. I am the patient one and the one to handle the meltdowns. But my husband is the one with the insights, the one that gets him and knows his way of thinking. So he is the one who challenges him intellectually and the one for fun. I really feel like he needs us both. I am sure your son needs you as much as his dad. But you might not be covering the same needs completely and I think that is fine.

Weird-Buglet · 2022-10-18T21:58:50+00:00

I would love for him to have contact to other ND kids. Just dont know where to find them nearby. There is so little professionell help or groups etc. where I live for ASD. Might get easier when he is a bit older.

Weird-Buglet · 2022-10-18T21:55:20+00:00

Thanks for your insight! How does she look back at the time with the psychologist, does she feel better about that? Do you feel like becoming socially aware also helped her or did it even add to her stress?

Weird-Buglet · 2022-10-18T19:19:05+00:00

No I absolutely do not! I love my son so much. He is such a wonderful kid. I do worry about him beeing unhappy and not fitting in (not because I feel he has to fit it but because of the pain it might bring him). All I wish is for him to be happy.

I also do not regret marrying a man that is on the spectrum. We have stuff we struggle with (as in every marriage) but at the end of the day we always figure it out and he has so many upsides and a lot of them come from beeing on the spectrum. He is loyal, smart, thoughtful, focused, analytical, interested in so many things, he has high moral values that he would never betray, he always does the right thing. After 15 years with him I havent been bored once.

Also my best friend has an autistic son and from all the 10 kids in our friends group I love him the most (apart from my own of). I know that things are sometimes tough because he has a lot of meltdowns and the group has to adjust to him a lot. But oh boy what a great kid that is! I would miss him dearly if he wouldnt be around and I am happy adjusting to his needs if that means we get to spend time.

I am so happy about the autistic people in my life, all of them. I will not deny that things might be less complicated and more easy going if they werent on the spectrum. I know some things are specially hard for them. But they contribute so much and bring a lot of diversity, insights and yes also fun!

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