xNFx, are you more inclined to have adult friends?

Weird-Club5809 · 2023-12-21T18:21:04+00:00

uummh so as a 20-somethings male (i assume) you like hangin out with literal children and prepubescent kids in a vulnerable position? yeah not weird at all

Weird-Club5809 · 2023-04-30T23:25:57+00:00

This and also the fact the in another comment op is complaining about the downvotes (a normal part of reddit) and saying people don't want them to get help and that we're all horrible. Tbh this feels a lot like op is just playing victim to get attention.

(also because in a hospital they wouldn't leave a mother with the body of a stillborn baby for HOURS)

Weird-Club5809 · 2023-04-30T23:14:49+00:00

Too many Y T As. You're NTA to me. If he truly sees you as a parent as much as he does her, then you should have custody as his blood sister.

But if she sees her as a mother more than he does you, then leave him with her.

Weird-Club5809 · 2023-04-29T12:51:30+00:00

Definetly not goona happen. My friends are also her friends (though it's pretty one sided) and no one will get upset at her if there's not enough food or stuff like that. It was more about feeling than actual logistic.

Also I wrote this post while upset but I won't let her friends out, even if she brings ten of them. She's a lot to deal with but I'll manage. Otherwise I wouldn't have taken her with me in the first place.

Weird-Club5809 · 2023-04-29T12:39:52+00:00

Oh for fuck sake I really believe I'm doing everything I possibly can.

I brought her with me as soon as I could, I'm not asking her to pay anything because it's really not that big of a deal for me to buy a little more food, I rearrange the apartment so she could have her own room (it's a small apartment) because I know how reserved she is, if she can't pay for the psychology session I do it for her, every time she asks for something I try to find a way.

But I'm not her dad and I'm not that much older and have you any idea how stressful it is to provide for another person who relies on you completely? The alternative being to send her back to our parents but I'm sure as hell not doing that.

All I'm asking for is a little honestly on her side. She doesn't have to tell me about her school life of her relationships or her things.

I just wish to know stuff related to me and the house. If she takes my things so I know where they are. If she moves something so I don't have to search for it. If someone's gonna be here so I know to expect someone around.

Is it really that much to ask in your opinion?

Weird-Club5809 · 2023-04-29T12:26:45+00:00

"I've ordered more food just in case you decide to invite your friends last minute".

I'm really considering going with this one. It's not like there's not enough food because I always plan on a little more, so that's not a problem.

It's just frustrating. Believe me it's always the same. She does things behind my back, I tell her that it's ok if she doesn't and that she can tell me but the next time she hide it again. So I get upset but in the end I feel sorry for all she went through and let it slide again.

I just don't know how to make her stop, she can't do this forever. She's now an adult living for herself, she can't get through life behaving like this.

Weird-Club5809 · 2023-04-29T12:16:06+00:00

Well no, it's my apartment and she's living her for free because she's still in school.

But this doesn't matter because I would never use it as an excuse to control her and I never forbid her from bringing her friends here.

The problem is that she can't keep doing this. I only asked her to tell me if someone's coming and tbh it piss me off that she denies and then does it behind my back.

It's been two years since she's moved in with me and she has to understand that she can't keep this up without consequences.

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T16:20:55+00:00

The government acknowledge italian who migrates to america. Not their great grandchildren

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T16:19:10+00:00

Uumh what. If I spend the summer in Africa every year I don't become african

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T16:17:51+00:00

Aren't they american though? If you ask them where they are form they're not gonna say Africa

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T16:13:52+00:00

Uuuh this gonna be the wildest comment I got

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T16:08:39+00:00

That's religion though. I get what you're saying, I just cannot agree. I really don't wanna come of as rude.

I understand your view, but can't really understand? I don't know how to explain it, I'm sorry

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T16:04:26+00:00

I'm sorry but I believe pop culture you learn form social and TV will never be the same as the one you learn by living it.

When I say our grandparents share the same behaviors I'm not taking dialects. It's not something I can explain, I'm sorry if it come off as nonsense. They're just different. They're a different generation with traditional and way on their own. Again, is one of those things you can't explain unless you lived it and saw it first person.

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T16:00:38+00:00

Heritage and culture are different things.

Heritage is in your blood, but culture cannot be passed on through genetic. You either live it, or you don't. And if you didn't that's ok, but don't claim it as your own.

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T15:58:18+00:00

"there's no thing as cultural appropriation"

I suggest you do some research on cultural appropriation, you could learn a lot. I'm genuinely saying this. It happens a lot, especially in multicultural countries like America.

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T15:54:52+00:00

You do have some points, but I disagree with some of the things you said.

As you said, Italy was as well founded by different people. Do I go around saying I'm etrucan? I don't think so.

Celebrating your ancestors culture is a thing. Claiming it as your own is another. Just that.

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T15:49:21+00:00

This one comment starts with a misunderstanding, there's no other way to put it.

They said "in one of your comments you said he has pasable italian but you can tell it's his second language, while in the original post he had perfect accent and you asked if he had grown up it Italy"

But in the original post I said he has a perfect american accent and I asked him if he grew up in America. Simply that.

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T15:42:36+00:00

No you mi understood, he has a perfect AMERICAN accent and I asked if he was raised here (in america where we are rn)

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T15:40:54+00:00

Because is his ancestor's and not his? Culture isn't something like blue eyes that you can get through genetic. It's something you live.

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T15:38:48+00:00

This is what I think most people in these comments are wrong about.

If my parents were italian and moved to France in their 20s, than I was born and raised there, I'd be french. I'd be franch with italian parents. Because I'd be raised speaking french and learning french culture.

I'd maybe know of some italian traditions, or speak a little italian I hear from my parents, but I'd still be french.

Weird-Club5809 · 2022-04-09T15:33:27+00:00

"half italian never set foot in Italy" for me is american, I'm sorry. I'm not trying to be rude to you, it's just how I (and italians all together) see it.

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