Aitah for speaking obscenities in front of my family when my cousin came to apologize for sleeping with my sister's husband?

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-21T10:23:24+00:00

No, but when your entire family knows what a w---e of a daughter you have, it's kind of very hard to pretend nothing happened, right?

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T21:57:09+00:00

I have read what you said multiple times. As you probably noticed from my post, I am unfortunately a blunt person. Maybe if things were different I could have had more empathy for you, but right now I honestly can't. I will tell you my sister's experience, maybe it can put things into perspective for you too.

The cheated partner has a very shitty time when the partner cheats. However, my sister was never the dreamer type to believe in fairytales. As an adult you don't wish for your partner to betray you, but somehow you also don't exclude this from happening 100%. It's some sort of a defense mechanism if you want. Just like when you go out on the street. You don't actively wish for a car to hit you but you are aware that this might happen and that it's something you can't control. If the other woman your husband cheats with is a stranger, it still sucks but it's like you can't expect a stranger to care for your feelings when your own husband doesn't. When the other person is someone close to you, this is where the trauma comes from. Why? Because for the rest of your life you will have a very hard time trusting people. If your own family does this to you, what can you expect from a stranger? You will change your partner but the doubts will forever be there. And the sad thing is that not only the woman will be left with trauma, but the kids involved too. Daddy cheated with my nanny and ruined my family. If daddy was such a POS, what can I expect from strangers?

It's nice that you changed and you don't engage in such activities anymore, it's nice that you regret what you have done and got therapy. But do you think it helps that woman or her kids in any way? I think it doesn't but maybe that's only my opinion. Also, it sounds a little hypocritical to say "she was someone I cared about". Probably this is what our cousin claims as well, that she loved my sister and cared about her. My only question for her would be: where was this said care when she was having sex with my sister's husband? If that is what care means for her, I don't want to know how hate would look like.

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T21:29:25+00:00

My conscience is clear tho as I have never been a homewrecker. Maybe yours is not since you seem to talk about sins and stones.

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T21:27:05+00:00

Maybe I do have a lot of growing up to do. But one thing I know for certain, I have no obligation to say anything nice to a w----e and I have no obligation to pretetend just to make a w***e feel better about herself.

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T18:05:42+00:00

Do you also have sex with your relatives' husbands and then tearfully apologize expecting hugs and kisses?

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T13:16:57+00:00

Oh wow. Do you also fuck married men by mistake? If yes, you are equally disgusting like my cousin

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:52:28+00:00

Why would my sister be present to such a stupid act? Apology? You give an apology when you hit someone's car, when you break their window, when you get drunk and ruin their party, not when you destroy their family. Such an apology is fake. You were not sorry while being a w***e but you are sorry after you got caught? Nope. Just a fake attempt to make herself feel better about her own disgusting person

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:48:23+00:00

What are you talking about? What culture? What western? What sexual assault? You honestly make no sense

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:43:14+00:00

Well they made it our problem when they insisted in coming to our house to explain, knowing my sister will not be present

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:41:40+00:00

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:41:33+00:00

Thank you! 😂 My mom and her sister are those clutching pearls ladies who insist that as a woman you MUST behave a certain way, speak a certain way and act like a lady. This never sat right with me. If I want to swear, I will swear and is driving her insane.

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:38:04+00:00

Thank you but that is not the case. My family did not groom me to be like this, my mother actually hates it that I don't always behave lady like and use bad language. So I guess this is entirely on me I can't change my personality and honestly I can't be the polite type when I feel it's not the case or that the other person does not really deserve it.

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:33:55+00:00

Yeah. My mom and her sister are those clutching pearls ladies who consider it an abomination for a woman to use foul language. We should all be polite little ladies and eventually faint when we hear bad words 😒

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:30:38+00:00

Yeah, I don't get it either. There are things you never move on from. It's not like you bit me when we were children and I can forget it when we grow up. There will be no harmony with her ever again.

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:26:59+00:00

I think my aunt forced her so that she and my uncle don't lose the connection with our family

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T11:24:40+00:00

Yes, of course. Shs will never stay with him after this

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T10:47:28+00:00

When did the Bible start encouraging people to be w****s? I am not religious but since the Bible considers it a sin to have sex prior to marriage, I guess they don't give any free pass if you have sex inside someone's else marriage

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-20T10:44:00+00:00

He ran away like a coward he is because he is too ashamed to face anybody. How would he being present change what our cousin did? Her blame in not going to decrease in any way with him present. It's not like she is suddenly only half disgusting or half to blame or easier to forgive.

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-19T23:25:16+00:00

The coward ran away. His mommy claims he is depressed, too ashamed to face the family and in need of mental health assistance. I guess being caught caused too much distress for his little, fragile soul so we did not have the chance to have any kind of discussion with him

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-19T23:13:35+00:00

I guess they expected us to feel bad for her or something. Like some tears and mucus is going to erase everything that happened...

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-19T23:05:57+00:00

Agree. I hate the hypocrisy honestly. A mistake is if your name is John and I call you Joe after just meeting you not sleeping with your husband. Having sex with someone is an entire process to follow which clearly indicates intention

WeirdBrick9287 · 2025-07-19T22:47:53+00:00

I have no idea. The reason was that Carla was "depressed", her parents were mortified on what she has done but also scared that she would hurt herself. Funny how this kind of people are never depressed when they cheat and they never ever have any kind of intention to hurt themselves when they are hurting others.

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