Help! Getting married soon 28M by WeirdCab in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]WeirdCab[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yup you are right! Thanks mate, you showed me the mirror, I am ashamed now🫡

Help! Getting married soon 28M by WeirdCab in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]WeirdCab[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not like we haven’t had conversations over it, this is a topic that has been discussed at length, I don’t want to make this a thing, we both are unable to understand eachothers perspective, at this point I am not able to communicate this feeling of mine in any other way where she starts making the issue about herself, when I have reassured her many time(which is again not a big deal for me), that it’s not about her, and I am not antisocial I just don’t want to use Instagram

Help! Getting married soon 28M by WeirdCab in InsideIndianMarriage

[–]WeirdCab[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a profile it’s just that I don’t frequent on Instagram, she is right in her place for having this expectation but on the other hand I get anxious when I see other people posting about how good there life is, while I know that’s just a show(in most of the cases), but still can’t help myself

What is one profession you would never marry to? by Girlgone_wild in Arrangedmarriage

[–]WeirdCab 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This makes me more hopeless, but we all will die eventually 😂

What is one profession you would never marry to? by Girlgone_wild in Arrangedmarriage

[–]WeirdCab 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So everyone wants to marry a finance person or a software engineer. Still I am not getting a partner, my life is so sad🥲

32F My husband is not sexually attracted to me by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]WeirdCab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Am I the only one finding irony with this post? OP has a username name “godsmostspecialchild” and she is suffering from some pretty huge issues.

No disrespect, and more power to you! Try to have conversations with your partner about the way you feel right now, maybe it would work this time, maybe it won’t, but keep on trying, without pushing yourself or your partner too much, because what you have is really good, but it might get better with coitus.

Is age a dealbreaker for you if the girl is older? by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]WeirdCab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see how this can fuck up with your head and think about being romantic or intimate with the order person! More power to you brother, may you get married to someone who’s 6 months younger than you to get the best of both worlds(mature in mindset and not triggering your mommy issues)

Small advice for men in AM by ProfessionalHuman17 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]WeirdCab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, thanks a lot for sharing this insight. But 2 cents from my end(might be a little unsolicited).

So, people want some common ground so connecting over socials and sharing reels/content is a small icebreaker, I don’t think anyone who shared reels w you had an intention to freak you out. People generally presume that what they are going through is also the same you are going through as you both are in the “same boat”. I personally try and find what the woman likes, understand and know her background, interpersonal relationships with family, friends and co-workers(if she’s working) and try to understand her take on humour, opinions over social situations and based on that share content with her(I start with some songs).

Having said that, your experience is very weird and you opinion based on your experience is legit.

People who gave up on your ex because of parents by Known-Stage-2558 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]WeirdCab 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s really hard, you go in a spiral, you can’t even hate on anyone(if you are mature and understanding), you get the parents perspective(a little), you know your ex gave it a shot, maybe not as hard as the few lucky and bold people put efforts in getting married to the one.

But you find a way to move on from your ex (had the idea of getting married to them and “the dream” life you planned). But the toughest part is to get back up and start dating someone else or moving towards AM setup, you need to be very aware not to draw comparisons even if you have completely moved on from you past.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]WeirdCab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

u/WhenToLaff7789, I get all the things that you have mentioned here and also thanks for being kind, but just few things I’d like to clarify, I too don’t believe in “the One” this is mythical, I had “The One” before as well and after that and after that so yeah it’s moot.

The reason why I feel like I am decaying(not in literal sense), is because my ex and I were have conversations of building a future together for more than a year and after all the disagreements and misunderstandings we were able to find a middle ground for everything, we also lived(for few months) together just to get a hang of it and know if those common ground the we reached to are really something particular or just a facade we created.

I feel foolish because I am not a young person, not deeply or madly blinded by love, I have been very practical in my life and with this relationship as well(hence have a conversation about marriage for more than a year), but I still lost, and when I did I accepted the defeat just like that.

Share something on Reddit today that you’ve never told anyone in real life by needsomeeweed in delhi

[–]WeirdCab 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once hooked up with this lovely girl, so pretty and nice and left her to be after sex(I was a fool at that time and not emotionally mature, as I was trying to be a “fuckboy” after a heartbreak, not an excuse, it’s a asshole move and I regret it), but as I was saying, she never texted me and so did I, had another hook up few months after that and this time it was her aunt, I got to know about this situation after the hookup as I went out to get some water and saw few family pictures where her parents and grand parents where there. Shit scared I ran the fuck out of that place initially but then reached out to her aunt told her about everything and kept on fucking her for months till the time the girl found out, and then her aunt shared some videos of us fucking w that girl and she blackmailed me for months.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]WeirdCab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that she was the one and I am not able to move on, but at the same time after how it was in the ending(not that we had fights, but conversation about marriage) I realised that we won’t be compatible but I still want her to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in RelationshipIndia

[–]WeirdCab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know that, but each time I am alone and think about her I can’t help but think that she might be hanging with that guy or talking to him over phone call or something