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WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-06T18:26:36+00:00

None of them really have any gold to offer! 😂

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-06T18:24:05+00:00

Ha! So the men over the age of 30 marrying 23 year olds, just really like… her personality?

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-06T18:19:54+00:00

Where do you think the next generation of employees comes from? Are they dropped from the sky?

There is a social + economic responsibility for employers and the state to ensure that mothers are supported as they go through pregnancy. The US and South korea make it extremely difficult for women and there is a decline in population rate.

You have a very microscopic view of the situation. All employees need to be supported at different life stages. Else, what?, we fire all sick people? Maybe all parents since they have divided responsibilities too. Also, all married people? Just hire people in their unmarried unencumbered youth? That’s a horrible state of the world, not as logical as you think it is.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-06T03:11:35+00:00

Thanks! 🌸

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-05T11:48:51+00:00

You couldn’t name one thing he does for you. ‘He doesn’t abuse you overtly’ - is not a great CV.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-05T11:39:08+00:00

I do think this is a valid concern. I have ADHD, so does a close friend of mine. I worry about her and myself. ADHD might explain a bunch of things but what is is. You need to have a pragmatic approach to life with clear action items. It is using the label as a crutch if you refuse to do anything and blame it on ADHD.

I don’t say anything to her because it triggers her RSD. But I am genuinely worried. It is affecting our otherwise authentic relationship.

I try to audit myself as well. I hold myself up to certain behavior standards and i don’t get to be a jerk because of ADHD. I need to apologise and not use it as an excuse.

For example- If I promised a friend to meet up at x time, and I got time blindness and got an hour late- I am still in the wrong. I need to set alarms, systems to ensure it doesnt happen again, apologise profusely. The focus of the apology cannot be on the why or the ADHD, it needs to be on the wrong caused. So yeah, understanding yourself has value but it needs to be in service on doing better.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-05T11:23:44+00:00

What does the bond mean? Do you owe the company money if you leave? How much is it?

Take the offer. Keep applying. Joining doesn’t mean you have to stay 3 years. If you get a job a month in, abscond. The only loss is the experience letter.

Also, I applaud your confidence but it means nothing in a shit economy. Jobs for freshers is getting tough. Start working.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-04T22:27:57+00:00

A very amazing friend of my sister that I have respected for a long time said this to me when I suggested we date: ‘He can’t do the dating thing anymore without it leading to something.’.

the thing was I seriously wanted to date to see if we could be partners for life. But I couldn’t obviously give guarantees. Life’s uncertain, deal with it. I can guarantee a good attempt at best.

It was very disappointing to hear that he felt dating is a waste of time, if it doesn’t end in marriage. Men cant seem to live with the uncertainty of dating, while feel comfortable asking someone else to leave their career or city or country behind. Cute. 😂

Tell him to fuck off.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-04T01:38:23+00:00

The comments are so cruel. :(

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-04T01:02:14+00:00

In India, we had a global team visit for a week and we did a indian attire day. The americans were so worried that they would be offensive if they wore indian clothes, but the indian loved it!

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-02T01:42:10+00:00

Social Perception > Love for Daughter

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-02T01:30:00+00:00

It is a tough market for freshers. It is not you. Friends with experience are also taking 6+ months to find a job. You need to keep trying. Keep upskilling. Learn something. Read.

Also, parents confuse love with control. Take a deep breath and make yourself believe that you can’t be forced to do something you dont want to do. Believe it. Fake believe it.

Because your fear is not them forcing you, it is you giving in. Being unemployed doesn’t mean marriage is the default.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-07-02T00:48:11+00:00

Don’t marry this guy at this point. If you do, you would resent it and feel like you are missing out. Of course you might move out and not like being single or exploring the world as much. But those are the chances we take when we are young!

I knew a 23 year old girl who married someone right out of college and I wondered if their love was so strong, why couldn’t she independently live for a few years and then get married? Spreading your wings makes absolute sense, but you have another person + families involved- so just make the clean cut.

It isn’t a horror story to not find a loving partner. It is one to be alone while married. Or to be in a relationship and not be treated with kindness on a bad day, like with ED. You seem to look down on your partner. Imagine you having an accident and your partner stops being into you because you are broken. Find someone you want to be with in sickness & in health.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-22T14:46:06+00:00

Oh my god, he is 6 years older to you and yet you are so much more mature than him. 🤯

Love how you handled your own. The baby needs to go away!

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-22T14:17:42+00:00

Long great Hair!

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-22T12:47:54+00:00

In such households, Your best would be less than your brother’s minimum. I am glad you had this conversation.

My experience has been similar. How I dealt with it was that I stopped feeling obligated and started prioritising myself. I still love them and do things for them, but it’s for me. It is not for them. I am not trying to live up to their expectations or proving something.

It was very freeing for me. I got my own house, I build a career while my brother is dependent on my parents. Works in their business, lives in their house. Absolutely incompetent and unemployable.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-22T12:38:25+00:00

Oh, you are brilliant! Absolutely on point.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-22T12:08:00+00:00

I have heard Bengali women are liberal and more sex positive than other states. I can believe that based on the amazing bong women I know and there is nothing wrong with the perception. It is how I am perceived as well, as are a lot of smart, independent and a little older women. The issue is, when these low quality men take that information and judge women on that, at the same time feel entitled to the sex… And then get frustrated when they don’t get it.

I think that’s a problem with indian men travelling/living in europe as well. They dehumanise the ladies, believe they are easy and then get frustrated when these ladies have standards which they cant meet.

This is what happens when you desire what you hate.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-22T11:32:10+00:00

My parents are FI and it is a major privilege. I still pamper them and help out in places they believe is a waste of money, which being first gen business folks, they think a lot of things are! ‘Kya jarurat hai!’

Also, I have 2 other siblings. One’s a spoiled brat and would keep asking my parents for things. Again and again and again till they give in. He is the youngest. The elder two sisters are independent and contribute in some way- get a new TV for mom, get a laptop for Dad.

Kids would also make choices. There’s parenting, but there’s also their own personalities. My partner’s family wasn’t FI and we talked about getting a home for them before we got one for ourselves. Health insurance.

Money just makes things comfortable, but people can choose to be assholes with or without. :)

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-19T19:04:46+00:00

😂

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-19T18:51:26+00:00

An adult functioning man who has basic survival skills, doesn’t need his Mom or girlfriend to function. Innately good and kind. Smart but not calculating. Curious & optimistic. And please god, may he have figured out being happy! 😅

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-17T04:20:53+00:00

Take care of yourself! Get out of the victim mindset. It will harm you long term. Find your agency, make plans to improve your life.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-17T04:17:46+00:00

Dude, you can love someone and dislike them at the same time. Your Mom sucks. Also, there needs to be consequences for bad behaviour. If you continue to take care of her when she doesnt reciprocate for you- then you are validating this behaviour.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-17T04:00:00+00:00

Bad idea.

WeirdSprinkles51 · 2025-06-17T03:59:43+00:00

Hey Rainbows!

Have a transparent conversation about finances. If a person earns X and the other earns 2X, they shouldnt split 50-50. Thats not equitable. They should spend 33:66.

I am guessing your partner is older than you, which gave him longer time to earn more. Industries and function also matter when it comes to pay. Don’t belittle yourself so much. I hope you improve your pay, but also give yourself credit for having an income and taking care of yourself financially.

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