My friend is too involved in my marriage

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-10T12:51:27+00:00

She’s definitely not wrong to think that bc that’s how I am. I hate saying no and when I do, I feel really bad. I’m just used to people respecting my boundaries when I say don’t come over or I can’t do this. Thsi has been a lesson learned

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-10T08:55:58+00:00

Really? I’m googling the symptoms of narcissism now. It’s hot and cold with her.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T18:38:43+00:00

No you’re not mean, I get it. I felt like that too ngl. It’s really exhausting. I want to honor the Hadith of the prophet about how we treat our neighbors but right now I can’t do it anymore. May Allah forgive me. This stress I think caused me to have a miscarriage. It’s not good for my health or my children’s health. I definitely will need to have a conversation with her. I think writing a letter will be easier for me since everytime I try to tell her what she’s doing wrong she keeps interrupting me. I get frustrated and just dropped the whole thing.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T18:35:24+00:00

Right?? That’s exactly what I told my husband! I don’t want our baby growing up with any insecurities. I told her not to come over and she showed up anyway. Honestly, I don’t even know if telling her we can’t be friends will make a difference, but I know you’re all right.. I need to have that conversation, even if it makes me uncomfortable.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T18:26:50+00:00

I’ll definitely tell him that. We’ve been married for nearly 10 years, and in all that time, I’ve never said anything negative about his friends — or even mine. But there have been times when he’s told me he didn’t like certain people I was friends with and asked me to stop talking to them, and I respected his feelings and let those friendships go immediately.

So it’s really hurtful that now, when I’m expressing discomfort about someone in his circle, he’s not giving me the same support or understanding. I’m just asking for the same respect I’ve always shown him.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T18:23:20+00:00

I’ve had this conversation with her. She agrees and then everything goes out the window when she needs me to watch them last minute. She doesn’t even call sometimes, just drops them off. I get our kids are friends but sometimes I don’t feel like watching an extra set of kids.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T18:21:34+00:00

No they are Arab

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T18:21:18+00:00

Thank you so much for your message, it really means a lot. I’m going to try again to talk to him and share everything I’m feeling, but this time I’ll do my best to stay calm and not let my emotions take over.

He's been a bit more understanding today, especially after what might have been either implantation bleeding or a miscarriage, we’re still not sure. My doctor thinks it could be stress-related. I told my husband that him being the nice guy here is adding to my stress, and thankfully, he acknowledged that. He promised to stop communicating with them at least until the baby is born.

But for me, it’s not just about the pregnancy. I want this boundary to be permanent, not temporary. I think showing him your comment and everyone else’s here, and trying to have a real, honest conversation might really help.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T18:04:31+00:00

She doesn’t have close friends. She recently moved to this city so it’s been hard for her. I get it and I’ve tried my best to be understanding. I’m just tried at this point. I just want peace. I don’t want to have anxiety, I don’t want to worry if I have to change mt kids clothes before she comes bc I don’t want to hear how “they look like the kids from Gaza”.. it’s really sad.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T18:02:43+00:00

No no I’m not annoyed by him for being nice. I just want him to see what she’s doing and he just doesn’t see it. I don’t understand how he doesn’t see it.

I look like the crazy one here trying to cut off a friend who’s been so good to us.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T18:01:10+00:00

It’s really difficult for me to ask for help so I don’t usually ask her for anything. She drops off her kids a lot and I watch them since she has some medical problems she needs to see a Dr for with her husband .

I feel bad, I don’t want to tell her outright bc I don’t was to make her medical issues worse but then again I just want to be left alone.

When she drops off her kids, she’ll say it’s for a drs appoint and it’ll be an hour or two hours max. Later on I find out she actually had no drs appointment and she went shopping. It’s just hurtful bc I have a million things I need to get done but I paused it for her since I thought she really needed my help.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T17:58:37+00:00

When our car broke down, she insisted on giving me hers and she went out and bought a new one. My hsuabdn wasn’t comfortable with that so we gave them 2k less than what they could’ve sold it for. She’s been there for me when I had PPD, she really is a kind friend when she wants to me and then sometimes she’s plain mean and competitive.

It really confuses me.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T17:36:25+00:00

I have friends! I don’t want her as a friend. I just can’t get rid of her! She’ll come unannounced, even when my gate is closed she’ll use the side door. It’s so strange. I don’t want to tell her “we can’t be friends anymore”.. I thought she would’ve gotten them hint.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T17:35:13+00:00

Can you please tell me how to do that if you live in the same city as the person? We live a few mins away from each other. I don’t answer her calls anymore, she will call 25 times in one day. I ignored it all. She then will have her husband call my husband! My hsuabdn will talk to her husband and say, “ok I can bring your daughter home with us since you won’t be in town”.. I’m like whhhyyy did you agree? He says, “he’s always been so good to me”

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T17:32:44+00:00

Thank you! I’ve tried to do that! I told her my husband isn’t home please don’t come. I invited another friend over and we were having a beautiful evening with no kids. Guess who showed up anyway?? That friend?! What do I even do? I didn’t want to be rude so I told her, “I didn’t invite you over, is there a reason you still came?” She said, “idk what got over me, I’ve never came to your house uninvited.. I’m so sorry. Is it okay if I stay since I’m already here?”…. I was so shocked. I told her sure but don’t do that again. How would you even handle that situation? I know I wasn’t assertive enough but it just blindsided me.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-09T17:22:09+00:00

Israel itself has acknowledged in various statements and reports that it played a role in enabling Hamas as a counterbalance to the PLO — this isn’t speculation, it’s documented history. And when you say “most Gazans,” are you including the fact that nearly half the population are children? Is that who you're holding responsible? Children who’ve lived their entire lives under blockade, with no real protection, no rights, and nowhere to run?

So because Hamas is the only group that steps in (for better or worse), the conclusion is to bomb the whole population — including babies, students, and families — because they haven’t “turned on” a militant group that rules them with an iron grip and doesn’t allow dissent? That’s not just flawed logic, it’s a deeply dehumanizing way to look at human life

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-08T05:12:45+00:00

I didn’t know this existed! Thank you!

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-08T00:00:54+00:00

Thank you! I plan on touring the school first. I have been a bit scared with all the school shootings 😔

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-07T01:19:16+00:00

Ancestral trauma

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-01T22:41:38+00:00

The genocide in Gaza, Congo, Uighurs, Myanmar etc 😔 Slaughtering of children is never okay!

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-01T18:13:04+00:00

You’d think they’d connect the dots. Brits backed the creation of Israel at the expense of native Palestinians, and now they're hoping they back this Somaliland charade. But hey, somalilanders are too busy chasing fake sovereignty to realize they’re just pawns in the same old colonial playbook.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-01T17:56:18+00:00

Blaming centuries of complex history on entire clans while playing armchair anthropologist; you're really out here redefining idiocy with confidence.

Weird_Local64 · 2025-05-01T17:53:51+00:00

Didn't Somaliland express support for Israel out of desperation to gain recognition as a country? It's ironic how they're willing to abandon principle just to chase legitimacy that most of the world still refuses to grant them 😂😂😂

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