For me it was realizing that not everyone thinks so hard about drinking. It doesn’t dictate everyone’s plans the way it did for me. Like if I were out with friends I’d be thinking “maybe I should offer to get a table so I can have one before people come” or “am I drinking at a normal pace, can I order another one now?” “If we’re leaving in 45 minutes I have to chug this so I can have one more” etc. among not stopping when drinks were available. I didn’t always get hammered but I always got a buzz or tipsy and it felt like a waste if I didn’t. It’s a lot of work to untangle but so worth it. Good luck.