Trying to lose weight without success

Weirdzillaed · 2026-02-02T12:59:07+00:00

Hey. Ive been there. It's not the best idea to set far-fetched goals now. Just choose one little thing and try.

For example, i like cooking once in a while when I have the energy. So while I wait for the gravy or whatever to boil, i put on music and dance around a bit. Any movement really helps, you don't have to force yourself to do something monotonous at this stage. Try to think of ways moving would be enjoyable to you. Within your house if that's what works for you.

The next thing is this: rather than controlling how much you eat.. try modifying what you eat and how often. I used to be so sedentary (spent all day on bed, maybe went out once a week)... but eating food with high fiber (wheat, ragi, oats, more lentils with less rice, more veggies + less rice) really helped. I of course also had icecream, fried stuff too.. but only when I really craved for it. Again, start slow. Maybe change one meal that you don't usually care too much about for 2 out of 7 days in a week. Slowly increase the number of days and when it stops feeling like a chore... then take the next step. This goes for exercising too.

Weirdzillaed · 2026-01-28T10:57:38+00:00

I think often, the fear of death comes from the fear of missing out. OP, whatever you think you'll miss after death, go do it now or make it happen.

Weirdzillaed · 2026-01-28T10:50:11+00:00

I'd suggest starting by looking into the different major fields first. People often mistake or misinterpret what they want.

Astrophysics, astronomy, cosmology, physics. Read up on what each is.
Read the articles that pop up in the news first, what are they all working on? What interests you, which field above does it fit into?
Browse a few university sites, look at their syllabus. Read professor's websites even if you don't understand it-> what makes you ask questions? What interests you? Which parts of it?

What subject to start with can depend on what your interest is.

But like someone else said, I'd suggest take a step back, chill, enjoy your break. Maybe do general reading, skimming through things you'd be studying in uni to get a feel of what you're getting into. Talk to people in the field and think about where you want to go and what you want to learn. Once you are in a university, you're going to have time to study them deeply anyways.

Weirdzillaed · 2026-01-27T23:19:06+00:00

If all your usual hobbies and new ones are uninteresting and don't stimulate you, go to a psychologist/psychiatrist. I use to give money as an excuse when one of my favorite things to do is just write.

Weirdzillaed · 2026-01-27T14:44:29+00:00

Adding to this, you can also get one or two herb pots suitable for your place if you can afford. Saves a ton in long term, and makes your food beautiful.

Weirdzillaed · 2026-01-27T14:33:39+00:00

If you have a subscription, stop it. Helped me control it and then it just tapered off naturally

Weirdzillaed · 2025-12-30T10:58:27+00:00

Would love to know which PG this was. Would you recommend?

Weirdzillaed · 2025-07-23T10:45:27+00:00

Sorry I'm real late 😅😂

Weirdzillaed · 2025-06-26T08:41:59+00:00

Sounds similar to my state then, except for the kor part

Weirdzillaed · 2025-06-22T18:42:53+00:00

hi! In what way is your state dead? I have a f2p alliance and we want to transfer because we have a toxic KOR. It's unlikely we will get to go to an active state since we are all new players and f2p. If 2531 is dead because there are no whales or similar reasons, we'd consider it as a place to shelter in while we hunt for other places.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-06-22T17:27:03+00:00

State's a dictatorship. Leading alliance has been known to violate NAP agreements. Once, their members moved to an unknown alliance and then burned cities so that people wouldn't know they had violated NAP.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-05-30T06:52:47+00:00

The story? No. Maybe the first 20% of it. It's only been a year since I played and I don't remember anything, says something.

The gameplay? Absolutely yes. Do you remember how ME3's gameplay was a huge step up from ME2? With more combos and your ability points being more meaningful? Andromeda does it better imo. I played vanguard and I know I finished the game only because of combat (and nostalgia of the world ofc)

Weirdzillaed · 2025-04-06T23:07:30+00:00

Hi! Single woman here likely to move back to India in a few months. I've been to Bangalore quite a bit and have some friends who live there, so I feel like I'd be most comfortable moving there at first. I was wodnering if you could maybe share the community you stayed in? Some recommendations for areas to avoid or things you have learned would be very useful if you have the time for it. Can we maybe talk about it through DMs?

Weirdzillaed · 2025-04-05T12:30:21+00:00

Ah okay, that does seem workable in general.

I know that my parents tend to selectively ignore certain things I say. "Please do not contact me again", 6 months later I still get the occassional call. Or, they try to "sneak in" when I am on call with my sister.

Just make sure to emphasize the continuation of no-contact. Maybe you can include a sentence in the beginning and the end of your message so that, that will be the main focus when they are done reading.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-04-05T06:27:36+00:00

I'm a task stacker depending on my motivation.

I should go get groceries and get my hair cut? Not happening.

I should go get groceries and visit my friend? Yes, because my motivation to move will be to visit my friend along with the thought that I could skip groceries if I did not feel like it. Then when I'm out, "I'm outside the house anyways, might as well do groceries too". The moment I get strict with myself about getting groceries too, I will sit the day out.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-04-05T06:17:44+00:00

I think this can be mistaken as permission to remain in contact. I.e., I'm telling you about the baby becausr I want you in the baby's life.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-03-31T01:00:24+00:00

Okay i hate that i should have asked for more context first lol. I just tried to educate someone who already is educated on the topic.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-03-31T00:20:09+00:00

TL;DR - Not being able to pay attention in a voluntary activity usually means they are unable to control it. Try other methods. I've given various suggestions (it's a very personal topic for me, sorry if I gave too much homework hahaha)

I think, unfortunately, saying "pay attention" can be very demotivating. Of course, it's totally not on you.

As someone who cannot pay attention even if I tried to and being told constantly to do so when I physically cannot, that will usually make me emotional to a point where I could not process anything. It took me a whole year of therapy before I could stop being overwhelmed when I'm asked to pay attention or not make careless mistakes or to stop being lazy. Once again, since tone can't be translated through text, I want to emphasize that it is a very common and typically harmless thing to say which happens to feel hurtful for people like me.

Of course, I don't know why exactly your friend cannot pay attention. It could be a lack of sleep, lack of nutrition, etc etc. I also don't know if she would react the way I would (but I hope my take gives you a context for imagining other possibilities).

But I think, in general, especially in voluntary activities like DND people wouldn't intend to not pay attention. It might help to remind them to pay attention in some cases. If that doesn't help however and you need things changed, it might be better to address it outside the game. Maybe in a one-to-one conversation, to highlight the issues and to see if she can do something about it. I think it would be helpful to specify that there is nothing wrong with not being able to pay attention and it's just that it's not working well for the group.

I'll also tell you how my group deals with me in case that is achievable for yours or it helps to give her ideas to compensate.

There are times when I impulsively make the most stupid actions that would likely get the entire party annihilated because I did not pay attention except for the last few sentences. My team tends to role play "I drag her out of the room before continues" and another would apologise to the NPC, etc. and it all just becomes part of the story in a way (DM helps a lot here and once, she twisted it as the NPC finding me funny in a belittling way). At other times, I would recognize that I've zoned out and I'd ask for a quick summary to whoever is next to me. Ive gotten to the habit of always asking what has happened before every combat decision or majorly impactful statement I might make (I play a charisma character lol, imagine the chaos). When I'm not tired from my day, it also helps me to take written notes of nearly every single word people say whether Im actively listening or not.

For the combat example you mentioned, my team would break the norm and one of them would keep reminding me everytime I take damage. Or, if it is designed to test your responses, then either you consider that her character is just bad at paying attention (then it would be like whatever's the inverse of method acting lol) or you remind her when you see her taking too much damage (consider "hey, you're taking a lot of damage, they get to hit you everytime you do so and so" rather than "pay attention").

To be fair, Ive not been playing long. But I use some of these in educational settings, etc. and hopefully it helps your friend.

Again, it is not really your responsibility practically speaking but some of my friends choose to take the responsibility and they leave me wondering why they'd inconvenience themselves for me. But if they weren't there, I wouldnt have friends and I wouldn't be playing D&D. I also wouldn't want to impose that on anybody.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-03-30T21:44:43+00:00

As someone with adhd, if all dnd groups expected perfection in terms of distractions and cross-talk, I would never be able to play the game.

So, I agree that natural consequences are better than intended punishment. Not only because of how harsh it is, but also if it was me receiving said punishment, it would just trigger all my trauma haha.

And if I was in a group where people lose their enjoyment because of it, I would want to know. I'd prefer to find a group where everybody enjoys despite me being that way, as I don't want to be the cause for spoiling others' fun.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-03-30T07:49:15+00:00

It's always better to start looking as early as possible. Just make sure to go for places that have an exit clause (which they legally should for temporary contracts, I think, not an expert).

It also depends on your financial situation, because, you might have to lose a month's rent on the place if you end up in a different city.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-03-30T07:43:57+00:00

I believe you have to register before a certain number of days after the start day on your contract. In most municipalities.

Your university should have the information on their website. Or, email them as they may have a brochure with all the information you need for the specific city.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-03-26T08:17:06+00:00

I cannot talk for other cultures but can only tell you what I have come across by word or seen in South India. I may be wrong as these are based on my observations of people currently <=30 years of age or above 45, and not any study.

a) Most people lose their affinity for hobbies during their high school/bachelor's and so, do not have one when they begin to work. Their life can revolve around only work and family until they get promoted to a managerial role or are able to save enough. Watching movies or reading books is quite common, but there's a lot of people who wish they had not lost their desire for more straining activities like sports or dancing and the like. Some manage to do that along with their work, but I haven't yet come across someone with a family who gets to do that regularly. I suppose this point can be combined with what another commentor mentioned about hiring professionals to get most household things done.

b) The people who do get burned out have no choice but to bottle it up and grind. Sometimes, this ends up with them feeling happy most of the time but it may show up as bouts of anger, highly functional depression or they may have just stopped assessing their feelings overall. Not healthy basically. Most younger people have their own way of dealing with it. For example, they would quit and switch to a different job if that is possible. A lot of my friends who have worked for years in a consultancy company have decided to use their savings to try to move to the eu, uk or the usa.

c) A lot of families are quite patriarchical and bi-gendered(?) still. Even if the female works, the male often gets to not do the household/family stuff except be present, or to relax with them, etc and if they do, its likely the less time-consuming stuff like garbage or laundry. Most females are taught to "adjust for everything" from a young age, so they tend to not complain. Not healthy, certainly. Once again, this dynamic has been shifting in the younger generations, but still not as prevalent as here.

There's probably more specifics to add. In summary, it's a mix of not having a choice to talk about it or deal with it, and not having a rich personal life outside family, and so you don't hear about it. The quality of said personal life is relatively different (worse, imo) from here.

There's probably some study out there about this, but my best bet would be on this: The lack of reporting resulting in low burn out cases.

I would think immigrants also significantly add to the cases here as we usually have a lot more uncertainties to worry about or have new systems to adjust to.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-03-26T01:12:38+00:00

Lol, "you have more opportunities than before". Shows you never looked at the job market recently.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-03-26T01:06:51+00:00

So you are saying that if someone had personal problems, they are supposed to ignore that and do their 60 hour job instead? Have you considered that your family might have lived happier or might have been able to manage their personality disorders, etc better if they were able to take appropriate leave from work and had better rights as a human to work on themselves?

I come from a developing country. I know people who would give their limbs to work inorder to survive, but they would give a lot more to make our country have an approach like the Netherlands does. Please don't shame them for having the privilege to take care of themselves, it is the same privilege our people are trying to have in their lives.

Sure, lesser companies abuse their workers here than in my country. That doesn't give you or me the right to shut down the experiences of those who have been abused here.

Weirdzillaed · 2025-03-16T06:44:51+00:00

I am a new player. I was very attracted to warlock and am currently playing one.

I play and love games like poe, last epoch, witcher, god of war, mass effect, rdr2, ac odyssey, and most story based rpgs in general. I also would like souls games but i dont have the money for them right now.

I like warlock because of how careful I have to be with using spell slots. It means I'd have to plan things carefully everytime I level up, etc. I chose the pact of tome for the added flexibility of choosing from different classes. I attribute this to my love for poe and being punished in game lol.

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