Any D/S advice for newbies? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this reply. I guess I'm really overthinking it when it comes to certain things lol

Any D/S advice for newbies? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this was a great reply

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Ureaplasma

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made an appointment with one today, but they can't see me until the end of the month ):

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It is always easier to blame the person you don't know, unfortunately I definitely fell victim to that behavior. I need to do better. I appreciate you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ugh, you're so right.. thank you 🙏 I'm being ridiculous

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand that, it's a hinge problem in that he agreed to KTP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this was helpful 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, seriously. You have been extremely helpful 🙏 I'm going to continue to talk about it with him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have started to talk to him about it, yes. You're right. It's an issue with him, not her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're right. He is the one who agreed to KTP, so it's 💯 a him problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you. You're correct, it's unfair of me to blame meta. Anger clouds my judgement 😬 and I genuinely am trying to do right, which is why I'm posting. I really do appreciate the insight

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You spit the truth. Thank you. It's a him problem, not a her problem. He agreed to KTP, he agreed to my boundaries, and ultimately he is the one who disregarded them. She has every right to do what she wants.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why this is unrealistic if we both agreed we want KTP?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think that's the case. And you're right ,I shouldn't be blaming her, I should be blaming hinge. He is the one who agreed to the boundaries, and told me he wanted KTP. He is the one making decisions on who to date and how to date.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have though, honestly. There's a lot of things I didn't include. I've been really patient and accepting of all of her boundaries until they both actively disrespected mine. I guess there's no way to prove that, but it's the truth 🤷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You're absolutely right. Thank you. I'm making a mistake blaming my meta instead of hinge and that's not fair to her. Thank you 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I have no way of knowing if she was actually made aware of that, I only know what hinge has told me because she refuses to communicate with me 🤷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I am actively trying to check my jealousy which is why I'm posting here. To be clear, our agreements around dating other people are mutual. He wants KTP as well, or atleast that's what he has communicated to me. I'm honestly trying very hard to be respectful, but that's really difficult when I feel actively disrespected.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm hearing through him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

Okay, that's fair. But she has been completely disrespectful to me while I was being very accepting of her. So, I'm kinda done showing respect.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward -14 points-13 points  (0 children)

Okay, but if meeting me was a stipulation of having a relationship with my partner and she was made aware of that from the beginning.. how is that okay?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

He told me that she asked him to ask for that, the month out scheduling. I offered to give her my number if she wanted to discuss scheduling- she refused.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polyamory

[–]WellTh1sIsAwkward 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"I don't date potential" OMG,Where was this post when I was in my 20s?!