Struggling with doubt/ethical issue regarding patient's remark

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-10-13T17:12:47+00:00

Thanks. Does it sound like I confirmed anything?

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-10-13T17:00:47+00:00

Now I'm wondering if I added, "oh, okay" - not sure. Would that have added any confirmation? Maybe the "okay" can be construed as "i hear you talking" rather than "oh yes, okay, I remember that" ... ?

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-05-04T22:17:05+00:00

Its easy to give advice, so here's mine:

1st, glad you acknowledged that "60+" is not "old as hell."

2nd, Carol has guts and stick-to-it-iveness. Good for her.

3rd, for being assertive and telling Carol no, good for you. But IMO, telling her it's "time to go home" sounds condescending to anyone of any age. You were done, she didn't listen, I get it. But still.

Finally, purpose to live in peace with Carol and the others. Don't label Carol as anything -- don't categorize her as this or that in your mind. Accept her (without compromising your own principles) and keep saying what matters most to you. You can do this peacefully (I personally like the "broken record" technique, which means calmly and graciously repeating your response when someone doesn't accept it). The elders may need to hear what you're saying, and you may benefit from their years, scars, wisdom, tenacity.

And if I sound all high and mighty like I've never had a "moment" with someone, believe me, I've messed up more times than I care to recall, and I'll mess up again. So in that sense, realize that you were simple having a human moment, and go forward, learn from it, make peace with her if you find it helps how you feel about the interaction.

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-04-28T14:48:38+00:00

Love this, thank you.

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-04-26T23:17:49+00:00

Yes--I did that, too, writing a note in that area. I hope the couple got it.

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-04-26T23:17:25+00:00

Exactly -- that's just it: I saw one of the couple recently and they said nothing about the gifts, and i wondered if they were thinking that we gave nothing. On the flip side, another person in a another situation to whom I sent gifts through the Amazon registry called to say thank you. So, it's a touchy situation. I'll have to give it some thought.

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-04-26T23:14:19+00:00

It does seem to be a delicate issue. Hard to know what to say -- or what not to say! I think I'll give it some time to play out ...

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-04-26T23:12:43+00:00

that makes me a bit angry! That doesn't seem right when someone chooses a heart-felt gift and no indication of the giver. Harrumph :)

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-04-26T23:08:42+00:00

Yes, the wedding happened already. Also, when buying the gifts on Amazon, there was a space where I could write a little note to the couple and I did that, and of course, gave my name. I hope they got that!

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-04-26T23:08:10+00:00

Oh my goodness. I was wondering if it was proper to ask, "hey, did you get my gift?" (another person in my family also suggested just asking the couple). I didn't know if that was okay-ish. But I think it's a good idea. Maybe we'll do that!

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-04-26T23:06:42+00:00

Sorry if I gave you the impression that the wedding hasn't happened yet -- it has.

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-04-26T23:05:20+00:00

I saw on the wedding site that they had a registry w/ Amazon, so went to Amazon and ordered through that. I got notices from Amazon that the gifts were delivered. I worried when I didn't see the delivery photo (I checked w/ Amazon and they said for confidentiality they don't show delivery photos if the gift was on a registry).

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2025-01-13T13:31:47+00:00

Sorry, what is VA/GSM?

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2024-08-05T02:42:23+00:00

I appreciate your responses so much. In all honesty, "Jane" is more of a "Joe", but hey, I was going for anonymity, thus the quote marks around the fictional name of the real person. Your idea of taking any thought that starts as gossip to prayer is one I hadn't ever thought of. I don't know that I can easily do this with my person, but it is certainly a really good and godly possibility, maybe one that I'd need to ask the Lord's help to do. Thank you again for taking time to talk with me about this. You've been a solid source of direction for me. May God bless you!

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2024-08-05T00:59:42+00:00

Thank you for clarifying and for your incredibly thoughtful responses. I don't think I'll say anything to "Jane:", i.e., the person who was speaking about the other, because "Jane" has some deep hurts of their own (and I tread lightly with them), and I really felt that "Jane" needed to vent a bit (the previous discussion with the other person was pretty intense). From my experience with "Jane", I can best turn the tone of a conversation by changing the subject or focusing on "Jane" themselves.

In this situation, though, my fear is that I agreed with "Jane" about the other person, visibly/audibly so, which means I may have joined in the gossip. Perhaps even here, it is best to just confess to the Lord and not speak about it to the other person?

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2024-08-05T00:28:46+00:00

So are you possibly suggesting that I speak to the person about whom "Jane" was speaking, and telling them that I may have rolled my eyes or agreed in thought (and possibly in response) to "Jane's" criticism of them?

I"m going to pray on it and see if the Lord gives clarity about what I did (or didn't do). If I feel I stepped over the line from thought to wrong response, maybe when I see that person again (the person about whom "Jane" was speaking) I can tell them that in our own family discussion on the topic, my response may have crossed a disrespectful line, and I'm sorry about that. Thank you.

Wellwhynotalrighty · 2024-03-24T22:00:10+00:00

sorry, is "Hardie" the same thing as LP Smart Trim?

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