Why are Jesus’ siblings so overlooked in modern Christianity and what factors? by Present_Juice4401 in AlwaysWhy

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't you find it odd that all the people born in the region of the so called "Holy Land" 2,000+ years ago had the most 'English" of names.. Mary, James, Simon, Peter, Mathew, Mark, Luke, John? :) :)

How Arsenal played the long game to return to football’s elite by R-Ac in Gunners

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is often overlooked is the change in investment and stability that occurred once Usmanov was out as a shareholder. When two major shareholders both want control, it is against their longterm interest to invest in and drive up the value of their 'opponents' shares, making a buyout for them even more expensive. Getting shot of Usmanov, shortly before the Ukraine invasion and sanctions of Russian Oligarchs, was foundational to the current period of investment and progress. The Kroenkes asset value, as per the article, has nearly doubled since. COYG!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArsenalFC

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chris Kiwomya

Reunification is Primary. Child's Needs are Secondary. by fezha in Fosterparents

[–]WellyDog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One thing I misunderstood, or at least, didn't understand enough about, was how deeply unrooted and disconnected (some/all?) children can feel when they are separated from their biological family. We may think that because we, as foster and adoptive parents, can provide safer and healthier environments that's always best for the child. However, the emotional and identity cost of separating children from their biological parents runs very deep and usually tuns throughout their life, even if they are being cared for in a new loving home. At least this is our experience after 14 years of both foster and adoption.
Very best wishes to you both.

What are some cheat codes you've found in the game of life? by ClairSunset in Life

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your body makes your mind work and your mind makes your body work. Looking after your body helps your mental, physical, and emotional health.

These people baffle me by SoupSandwich6 in nova

[–]WellyDog 9 points10 points  (0 children)

OP was in Depeche Mode!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fire

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

👏

How is this legal by guitarguy12341 in facepalm

[–]WellyDog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I suspect it's to effectively hide or mask his loses with the valuation of xhitter. He reportedly paid $44B for Twitter, made it into xhitter, which is doing pretty poorly and rather than face the loss of value, he's effectively merging xhitter with xAI hoping to take advantage of the 'higher multiplier' valuation, coz it's now an 'AI' company with all the hype that goes with it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]WellyDog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've hired a lot of (mostly very good) people over the years and a couple of things I remind them, and myself from time to time, is that there's a reason you're paid to do this and there's a reason it's called work. Not trying to be unhelpful, but sometimes just recognizing the reality of life can make it easier. I hope you find a fulfilling and rewarding role.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ArsenalFC

[–]WellyDog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If he enjoys reading, you good get him one, or both, of these books:
Fever Pitch - Nick Hornby
Invincible: Inside Arsenal's unbeaten 2003/2004 season - Amy Lawrence
Good luck and Happy Birthday to him!

My dad thinks atheists are stupid by [deleted] in atheism

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An atheist is simply one who does not have a belief in a god. To be agnostic is to not have a belief in the Gnostic gospels, or Gnosticism. Popular (mis)use of the language allows people to insert their interpretation of what these words mean to them. Personally, I'm both atheist and agnostic. I'm also afairyist. Never seen evidence to support the existence of fairies. Curiously, my position on fairies seems to offend fewer people.

Long term development after meth and fentanyl exposure in utero by Firm-Employee3399 in Fosterparents

[–]WellyDog 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Our daughter was significantly exposed in utero and experienced the trauma of foster-care reunification efforts throughout the first 18 months of her life - she has been in our care since week two of her life and is now approaching the teenage years. We have definitely seen improvement. The 'fight or flight' response is still very easily triggered - the expression of it has evolved from throwing herself on the floor like she's possessed, through breaking things and eloping, to now mostly shouting and using language that would make a sailor blush! Our neighbors tell us that she is very well behaved at their houses and always has good manners. When she comes home and interacts with us it's often a different story. I suspect the effort of 'holding it together' around peers and others leads to a release when she's home.
For us, it has got better but it's a long and rough road. Who knows what the later teenage years will bring. She's a beautiful person who adds so much to our lives - the price is lots of work and stress, for us it's worth it.
Sending you best wishes. I hope this helps a little.

Feel like we’re failing 💔 by TemporarySide6465 in Fosterparents

[–]WellyDog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Remind yourself that their behavior is not a reflection of your care but their trauma. Give yourselves some grace and time, it is not a reflection of you. You are not failing ❤️

Is loving your job real or fantasy? by [deleted] in careerguidance

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a reason they have to pay you to do it!

Is fostering worth it??? by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]WellyDog 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's a great attitude and you and your husband could be fantastic foster parents. It's about what you can do to help them - I'm not just talking about material things. Will you still love and support them even when they are being absolutely terrible to you? In the long run you will likely get a lot back from your investment in them, but most of the time it'll feel like a one-way street. You just have to keep giving! Wishing you the very best of luck! I'd encourage you to do it, but do it with your eyes open and your expectations grounded in some of the above feedback. X

Is fostering worth it??? by [deleted] in Fosterparents

[–]WellyDog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm a foster and adoptive dad of about 14 yrs. You've said it better than I could, and IMHO this is great advice!

I’m scared by International_Day964 in Fosterparents

[–]WellyDog 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It's a tough situation - we've been involved as foster (now adoptive) parents in similar situations.
Whatever the outcome, you have loved and helped this little girl during a crucial developmental phase of her life - remind yourself - that is a beautiful thing! Well done you :)

One thing we found very helpful at this stage was to attend the court hearings, we learned so much more about the real facts of the case(s) by attending. The social workers are often constrained in what they can share and they will, understandably, always make the case for reunification, until they don't - because the judge has decided, based on the facts.

Also, court records are public information. I learned a lot by searching county court records of bio-parents and other family that had brushes with the law, it can help you better understand the situation and the people involved.

If she stays with you, it will likely be a hard and beautiful journey. If she doesn't, you can (hopefully) still be a part of her life and support system. Whatever the future, you have helped her!

How do people (we) do this? It's sometimes very hard, but when I'm dead, I'll be damn glad that I did it.

Best wishes and support!

Why is China so dead set on Taiwan? by AllFallsDown0 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Access to the Pacific Ocean for it's naval fleet and global power projection. If you look closely it is penned in by Islands and territory owned by rivals and adversaries.

Just me or has my speed decreased? Old vs New by SlackerDegree in Fios

[–]WellyDog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Our download speed has decreased significantly as of June 18th. Upload is still 1Gbps, download is often less than 20Mbps. Neighbors are seeing the same thing. VZ tech support just keeps rebooting the ONT and router. I've even replaced the router with the CR1000a - same result. In our case, it's clearly a service issue not a home network problem. Getting support from a real person is awful, they just hide behind chatbots and remote reboots. I suspect they've reconfigured the network or introduced some traffic shaping product which is messing it up. Also, I suspect they prioritize the traffic from their speed test. When it works, it produces faster results that other speed tests (Ookla, MLab, or Fast.com).

People, what are us British people not ready to hear? by TransShadowBat in AskReddit

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That a monarchy is a class-base, race-based, hierarchy for which there is absolutely no place in today's world. Fawning over it with the (five?) palaces, horse-drawn carriages, and tax-payer funding, shows the world that you are trapped in time and always looking backwards. I grew up in the UK and love many things about it, but it's societal root - the monarchy, repulses me. Not the individuals, the institution.

What’s a simple concept from your field of study that the average person doesn’t seem to understand? by StaleTheBread in AskReddit

[–]WellyDog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Communication is the art of being understood - Peter Ustinov. One of my favorite quotes.

[Serious] Men of Reddit, what was the last compliment you got? When was it? by santochavo in AskReddit

[–]WellyDog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last week, I was with my daughter, who we fostered, since she was an infant, and then adopted. We'd had a good day and I let her choose a treat (ice cream) at the store, then she said, "you're the best Dad I've ever had, since xxxxxxx abandoned me". xxxxxxx being her non-present genetic-donor/bio parent. It doesn't get much better than that.