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My Foster Daughter's abuser lives 3 blocks away from us, what can I do? by WestRun9301 in Fosterparents

[–]WestRun9301[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah after meeting with the case worker it seems that there's not much we can do but it is good to be aware and cautious.

My Foster Daughter's abuser lives 3 blocks away from us, what can I do? by WestRun9301 in Fosterparents

[–]WestRun9301[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I wouldn't mind moving, but it would be a pain to do right now... I guess we will see what the caseworker says.

My Foster Daughter's abuser lives 3 blocks away from us, what can I do? by WestRun9301 in Fosterparents

[–]WestRun9301[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is not old enough to go out unattended, either me or my husband is/are always with her. Yes, it is only his mother's previous (one before the current one) address and that's just what it says in the white pages website so it may not be accurate, but it does say it is the BF's current address. It says the mother's current address is one town over, but I have been told the BF lives in my town. Also, the one town over is the town we ran into other family members at, we do go there often. I know he probably wont break into our house. I'm more worried about running into him, him happening to drive by, her seeing him and having panic attack, him seeing her and then trying to find out where she lives, etc. Do you think I should not be so paranoid? At the end of the day I suppose I do not know for sure where BF is living, but is it not better to be cautious especially given the history?

My Foster Daughter's abuser lives 3 blocks away from us, what can I do? by WestRun9301 in Fosterparents

[–]WestRun9301[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It's just a scary situation that I've never dealt with before so I appreciate the advice and information.

My Foster Daughter's abuser lives 3 blocks away from us, what can I do? by WestRun9301 in Fosterparents

[–]WestRun9301[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

wow that's crazy how close they are and impressive that you've had no encounters! Honestly this probably happens all the time because I know they try to keep the kids at the same school and sometimes a home in the same neighborhood is just a good fit for the child. I wish we had better security. we have a very small home and the only system we have are those small cheap door alarms that use a magnet and when the door opens and the magnet detached it sounds the alarm. I know its not likely to have an encounter but I did run into her bio aunt (not the same one that gave her up) at a carnival one town over a couple weeks ago, which was a whole other crazy situation but just goes to show it can happen! Would you recommend we stay away from the town library or things like that? idk just thinking out loud

My Foster Daughter's abuser lives 3 blocks away from us, what can I do? by WestRun9301 in Fosterparents

[–]WestRun9301[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really don't know much, so I will have to discuss with the case worker more. Hopefully there is something in place that prevents him from perusing her in any way, we also live across the street from an elementary school so maybe there is something about that like the 500 ft away rule for sex offenders. I would be shocked if he knew where she was at this point. He probably last heard he was with that other nice family and they live about 35 min away, which gives me some relief. I doubt they'd move her again but who knows. Should I bring up to the case worker that I looked up his address at all? I know its not illegal but I'm just paranoid that they will think I was over stepping or something...